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loolalooh

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Here are a few made-up scenarios. Would you date (for marriage) any of these men? Why or why not?

NOTE: ALL the men present themselves as extremely caring, loyal, and of good character. Whether they actually are or not depends on what you find out along the way.:lol:

1. 40-year-old man. Divorced. 3 kids and 2 baby mamas.

2. 35-year-old man. Ended relationship 6 months ago with his gf of 4 years. They have a 2-year-old together.

3. 38-year-old man. No kids. High school diploma but no college education. Works a blue-collar job making about ~$60,000 a year.

4. 42-year-old man. Lives with his brother in a house but has his own car. He's working but wants to save extra money for bills, hence the living arrangement. The brother owns the house.

5. 33-year-old man. A history of bankruptcy but is much better with money now. Diligently pays child support to his baby mama, with whom he has one son.

The why (or why not) part is what I really want to know for each scenario. :)
 
Oh, and unless I specified otherwise, assume all men have college degrees, are single (as far as you know), are employed, and have no kids.
 
Here are a few made-up scenarios. Would you date (for marriage) any of these men? Why or why not?

NOTE: ALL the men present themselves as extremely caring, loyal, and of good character. Whether they actually are or not depends on what you find out along the way.:lol:

1. 40-year-old man. Divorced. 3 kids and 2 baby mamas.

No. I don't do baby mamma drama.

2. 35-year-old man. Ended relationship 6 months ago with his gf of 4 years. They have a 2-year-old together.

No. Too soon, see number one.

3. 38-year-old man. Single and no kids. High school diploma but no college education. Works a blue-collar job making about ~$60,000 a year.

Maybe. $60,000 a year is fine with me. (combined with my income of course)

4. 42-year-old man. Lives with his brother in a house. He's working but wants to save extra money for bills, hence the living arrangement. The brother owns the house.

HELL NO!!! I couldn't even get past the second sentence. Get yo own ish nikka!

5. 33-year-old man. A history of bankruptcy but is much better with money now. Diligently pays child support to his baby mama, with whom he has one son.

Ugh, child support... *shudders* No. :nono:
 
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The only person I have a problem with is the 42 year old and it's mostly his age. 38 is even pushing it, but I could might work w/ the 38 and 40yo.

Everyone else has their own baggage, but I have similar so we'd just see what would work.
 
1. 40-year-old man. Divorced. 3 kids and 2 baby mamas. NO. Too many children

2. 35-year-old man. Ended relationship 6 months ago with his gf of 4 years. They have a 2-year-old together. NO. Too young a child
3. 38-year-old man. No kids. High school diploma but no college education. Works a blue-collar job making about ~$60,000 a year. Maybe

4. 42-year-old man. Lives with his brother in a house but has his own car. He's working but wants to save extra money for bills, hence the living arrangement. The brother owns the house. NO. Too old to still be having roommates.

5. 33-year-old man. A history of bankruptcy but is much better with money now. Diligently pays child support to his baby mama, with whom he has one son. Maybe, after combing through his financial situation and assessing his relationship with his child/child's mother
 
1. 40-year-old man. Divorced. 3 kids and 2 baby mamas. No, too old for me, too many children

2. 35-year-old man. Ended relationship 6 months ago with his gf of 4 years. They have a 2-year-old together. nope, the kid

3. 38-year-old man. No kids. High school diploma but no college education. Works a blue-collar job making about ~$60,000 a year. older than I want, but if I were older, I might consider it

4. 42-year-old man. Lives with his brother in a house but has his own car. He's working but wants to save extra money for bills, hence the living arrangement. The brother owns the house. I'd have to think about this, but probably not

5. 33-year-old man. A history of bankruptcy but is much better with money now. Diligently pays child support to his baby mama, with whom he has one son. Nope b/c of the kid
 
Who is better in bed? Just kidding

1. 40-year-old man. Divorced. 3 kids and 2 baby mamas. (Yes, I would date him, I guess the baby mamas are former wives?)

2. 35-year-old man. Ended relationship 6 months ago with his gf of 4 years. They have a 2-year-old together. (Yes, I would date him)

3. 38-year-old man. No kids. High school diploma but no college education. Works a blue-collar job making about ~$60,000 a year. (Yes, I would date him)

4. 42-year-old man. Lives with his brother in a house but has his own car. He's working but wants to save extra money for bills, hence the living arrangement. The brother owns the house. (Yes, I would date him, as a matter of fact, I have dated him accept he lived with his mother)

5. 33-year-old man. A history of bankruptcy but is much better with money now. Diligently pays child support to his baby mama, with whom he has one son. (too young for me but I would go out with him)

I like to date but I said nothing about getting serious.
 
loolalooh said:
Here are a few made-up scenarios. Would you date (for marriage) any of these men? Why or why not?

NOTE: ALL the men present themselves as extremely caring, loyal, and of good character. Whether they actually are or not depends on what you find out along the way.:lol:

1. 40-year-old man. Divorced. 3 kids and 2 baby mamas.

2. 35-year-old man. Ended relationship 6 months ago with his gf of 4 years. They have a 2-year-old together.

3. 38-year-old man. No kids. High school diploma but no college education. Works a blue-collar job making about ~$60,000 a year.

4. 42-year-old man. Lives with his brother in a house but has his own car. He's working but wants to save extra money for bills, hence the living arrangement. The brother owns the house.

5. 33-year-old man. A history of bankruptcy but is much better with money now. Diligently pays child support to
his baby mama, with whom he has one son.

The why (or why not) part is what I really want to know for each scenario. :)
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1- no...2 many kids
2-no....2 fresh from prior relationship
3-yes if he has a house
4-maybe depending on his career and short/long term plan.
5-maybe....depends on the relationship with mother of his child and his career
 
1. 40-year-old man. Divorced. 3 kids and 2 baby mamas. Nope... too many extra broads in his life (and their family members)

2. 35-year-old man. Ended relationship 6 months ago with his gf of 4 years. They have a 2-year-old together. No, 6 months is not long enough to get over 4 years, and the baby is too young

3. 38-year-old man. No kids. High school diploma but no college education. Works a blue-collar job making about ~$60,000 a year. Yes, he is the most viable option, he would be encouraged to get a college degree to ensure he never gets *passed over* for promotion.

4. 42-year-old man. Lives with his brother in a house but has his own car. He's working but wants to save extra money for bills, hence the living arrangement. The brother owns the house. Yes, he is also a viable option, as with this economy that would not be something unusual to me.

5. 33-year-old man. A history of bankruptcy but is much better with money now. No, he's too young (for me)...
 
all of those men are too old for me. at this point i could only date someone no more than 3-5 years older.
 
I'm still in my mid 20s so all are out of my age bracket. But if I absolutely had to pick someone, it'd be 3, maybe 4. I do not date men with kids.
 
I wouldn't date any of them. They're all too old, I don't do kids and I certainly wouldn't consider a guy over 30 living with someone else.
 
"Definitely no" to all of the above, except the 42 year old living w his brother whic is a "probably not" and that probably is only probably because i thought if he is saving for a big purchase like house or boat it may be okay. But I reread and it says saving on bills so no.

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1. 40-year-old man. Divorced. 3 kids and 2 baby mamas.

No. Too messy.

2. 35-year-old man. Ended relationship 6 months ago with his gf of 4 years. They have a 2-year-old together.

No. Too soon.

3. 38-year-old man. No kids. High school diploma but no college education. Works a blue-collar job making about ~$60,000 a year.

Yes. Even people with degrees are out of work nowadays so no biggie.

4. 42-year-old man. Lives with his brother in a house but has his own car. He's working but wants to save extra money for bills, hence the living arrangement. The brother owns the house.

No. Too old. If he were 10 years younger, maybe. I can't get with a dude that doesn't have his stuff together and is twice my age :nono:

5. 33-year-old man. A history of bankruptcy but is much better with money now. Diligently pays child support to his baby mama, with whom he has one son.

Yes. Sounds responsible and people make mistakes.
 
Only #3. Making $60k a year with no college shows a lot of initiative, drive, and ambition. Unless something catastrophic happened, I could only see that getting better and spilling into other aspects of life.

I wouldn't even waste my time talking to the rest. Those histories show a lot of immaturity and lack of foresight. So...no... but then again, I'm 'old' and don't have time for anything that smacks of drama. lol
 
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loolalooh said:
Here are a few made-up scenarios. Would you date (for marriage) any of these men? Why or why not?

NOTE: ALL the men present themselves as extremely caring, loyal, and of good character. Whether they actually are or not depends on what you find out along the way.:lol:

1. 40-year-old man. Divorced. 3 kids and 2 baby mamas.

No...too old and too many BMs :lol:

2. 35-year-old man. Ended relationship 6 months ago with his gf of 4 years. They have a 2-year-old together.

No, I agree too soon. Maybe after about a year or so.

3. 38-year-old man. No kids. High school diploma but no college education. Works a blue-collar job making about ~$60,000 a year.

Yes...even though he's a little too old lol. There are dudes with a degree or better making less than that. Shows he's a hard worker.

4. 42-year-old man. Lives with his brother in a house but has his own car. He's working but wants to save extra money for bills, hence the living arrangement. The brother owns the house.

Nah son....nah. Too old to not have your own property.

5. 33-year-old man. A history of bankruptcy but is much better with money now. Diligently pays child support to his baby mama, with whom he has one son.

No....besides the BM part, sounds just like my ex. Bankruptcy can cause problems in the long run when applying for loans (mortgage, auto, etc.). Will be able to learn about money management from him though.

The why (or why not) part is what I really want to know for each scenario. :)
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1- no thanks, too many baby mamas, one of them might be crazy and I don't do crazy
2- no, he got out of the relationship 6 months ago, there may still be feelings there.
3- Yes, college isn't for everyone
4- Yes- as long as his brother doesn't give him a curfew and I'd like to see the living arrangements. Does he have an apt in the house, his own floor etc? And who else lives in the house with them? I don't want to feel like Kris Humphries when he was living w/ Kim, Scott & Mason
5- maybe, how old is his kid and when do I get to meet the child? I'm not worried about bankruptcy because things happen.
 
loolalooh said:
Here are a few made-up scenarios. Would you date (for marriage) any of these men? Why or why not?

NOTE: ALL the men present themselves as extremely caring, loyal, and of good character. Whether they actually are or not depends on what you find out along the way.:lol:

1. 40-year-old man. Divorced. 3 kids and 2 baby mamas. No. Too much baggage

2. 35-year-old man. Ended relationship 6 months ago with his gf of 4 years. They have a 2-year-old together. Yes. I have a 2 year old. Don't see a big deal there.

3. 38-year-old man. No kids. High school diploma but no college education. Works a blue-collar job making about ~$60,000 a year. No. The article about blue collar men running away from stress. :lol:

4. 42-year-old man. Lives with his brother in a house but has his own car. He's working but wants to save extra money for bills, hence the living arrangement. The brother owns the house. No. He is too old to live someone and is too old to not have been married. Damaged goods.

5. 33-year-old man. A history of bankruptcy but is much better with money now. Diligently pays child support to his baby mama, with whom he has one son. yes. hard times can hit anyone.

The why (or why not) part is what I really want to know for each scenario. :)
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The guy with the 2 year old seems like my best bet if those were my options
 
Yes only to #3 because he's got a good job and no kids. No to the guys with kids because I'm not looking for baby mama drama. No to the guy living with his brother. He should have his own by now.
 
I currently choose no to date men with children so it would have to be #3 or 4. Especially #3, because he is in my age range and I have no problem with him having no college degree but still being gainfully employed.

I would consider #4 after finding out his life story. At 42 he is too old to have roomates but I understand we all go through set backs in our lives and if Im comfortable with what I hear, I would try dating him.
 
3. 38-year-old man. No kids. High school diploma but no college education. Works a blue-collar job making about ~$60,000 a year

This is the only one I would date. All the others are a hell no.
I'm 26 so the 42 yr old living with his brother would be the next possible option..if I were desperate and a little older.

I don't deal with men with kids..so the others aren't even an option.
 
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