Be Bold-- Date Yourself! :)

I started to do this last summer when a good friend of mine moved away from our neighbourhood. I started out with early breakfast, sometimes brunch.

i was super shy in the past and can't believe i do this now. I really do enjoy the alone time. They know me at certain establishments now and treat me well anytime they see me.
 
Me, myself and I are going out on a date tonight to a jazz club. Tomorrow is my last official day of work and I want to celebrate a little early.

See y'all later!
 
I dated myself on and off for 3 years until I finally met my current boyfriend this year. Dating yourself can actually give you a peace of mind and a better sense of who you are and what you want.
 
I go most places alone,
and i've been on vacation alone, twice.

One was a cruise... i had fun though...
 
I did this today. It wasn't as bad as I thought it was or how I usually make it seem. I just went in to a fast food restaurant though and read a book. Next week I'll go to the movies.
 
Just got back in and it was nice. I went to Bible study and then I went to the club. Jazz club, that is. Too bad I'm moving. I really like this spot. :(
 
I can do some things on my own no problems like shopping, going to the park or a restaurant (as long as I take a book or magazine to read).

What I can't imagine doing alone is the movies or a club. I would love to but I would feel akward standing in the queue alone whilst everyone else is in two's or groups.

Also once you get into the club then what do you do? Where do you go and stand? At least the movies you can go sit and hide in the corner in the dark, I think I would go to the movies on a week night though not weekend when its busy with couples on romantic dates.
 
HairQueen said:
I can do some things on my own no problems like shopping, going to the park or a restaurant (as long as I take a book or magazine to read).

What I can't imagine doing alone is the movies or a club. I would love to but I would feel akward standing in the queue alone whilst everyone else is in two's or groups.

Also once you get into the club then what do you do? Where do you go and stand? At least the movies you can go sit and hide in the corner in the dark, I think I would go to the movies on a week night though not weekend when its busy with couples on romantic dates.
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When I go to the club, I head straight for the bar, and post up there for a little while, checking out the floor. If I can find a stool, I scoop it up. After my first drink, I'm usually chilled enough to get out and dance a little on the floor. Often, too, if you are at a club that has a 'quiet' section, I'll alternate between the bar there (better to chat people up at) and the main dance floor (when 'my song' come on). I mainly go to the club to drink, dance, and smoke. :lol:
 
I date myself all the time. I love treating myself to a movie or something else that allows me to throw on my high-heeled boots and strut one of my handbags. Alone time is supremely important to me.
 
JustKiya said:
When I go to the club, I head straight for the bar, and post up there for a little while, checking out the floor. If I can find a stool, I scoop it up. After my first drink, I'm usually chilled enough to get out and dance a little on the floor. Often, too, if you are at a club that has a 'quiet' section, I'll alternate between the bar there (better to chat people up at) and the main dance floor (when 'my song' come on). I mainly go to the club to drink, dance, and smoke. :lol:
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Good for you, I admire you but don't you ever think people are looking and thinking why is here alone? or do you just not care? I know men go on their own but not sure about women..
 
HairQueen said:
Good for you, I admire you but don't you ever think people are looking and thinking why is here alone? or do you just not care? I know men go on their own but not sure about women..
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I've had this thought before, and some men have asked me that.

But the thing is, so what? I'm a free woman and can be somewhere by myself just because I want to be. Why is it their business anyway, ya know?
 
I wanted to update that I went out to eat a late lunch by myself. I went to Olive Garden (had bruschetta and a salad :lick:), enjoyed a book and my Blackberry. I didn't feel weird at all. No one was staring at me (that I could tell). I think I can do this again. :yep: You know, I gotta live my life until he comes along. For the most part, I do that. But I'm starting to feel more free!
 
I'm going to start doing this more this summer. When I consistently take time out to date myself I've noticed that I tend to be happier and don't burn out so easily. Sometimes I need a break from the kids, hubby, the dogs, and just do me.
 
I've been saying (to anyone who will listen :lachen:) that I want to see the play WICKED for the longest time!

I'm going to NYC for my birthday by myself, and I just bought ONE orchestra seat (ROW C) for myself for the performance on August 15th! :grin:
 
CurliDiva, you are going to love it! It is absolutely one of the best plays EVER:yep:. Have fun! Sounds like you have a great seat too.
 
Heaven help me. I'm going to go on my first nighttime date by myself. I'm in a new city doing an internship and am slowly realizing that I don't know anybody. The people at my internship are nice, by I'm not expecting them to want to spend every waking second with me. Sooo might as well have a fun time by myself. There's a film festival/dinner event this weekend. I'm off to buy some dangly earrings and blush...maybe even a new dress. Who knows? I hope I don't chicken out though. I think I'll take up an art class while I'm here as well.
 
I lied, I never did take myself on the 2nd date to the movies. lol *sings* I always feel like, somebody's WATCHIN me....:sekret:

I'd rather stay in the house and sleep than go out alone....unless shopping in involved... It is boring to go somewhere alone. **at least I'm honest** oh well...I'll work on this
 
Ok...I've done movies, shopping, and lunch on my own. When traveling on business, I actually like having dinner alone. However, I have yet to do the concert, club, or festival alone. Have you done it? If so, how did you manage to step foot in the door or through the gate without being self-concious?

I'm going to try the House of Blues one day and sit at the bar. I wanna try a lounge/club, but I'm so nervous about that one.

I want to go to a Juneteenth Festival this weekend, but I don't want folks staring at me. What's funny is that when I hang out with a group, I sometimes tell them I'll be right back so I can walk off and do what I wanna do.
 
I want to take a road trip to a spa in Miami this summer. I mentioned it to my co-worker and she invited herself along! Just started arranging traveling details and everything. Doesn't matter, I am going but not with her. I need some time to think.

I always go to the beach alone, and usually shopping. I have done lunch by myself and even went to a bar alone a few times. I still do not feel comfortable going to a movie or sit-down dinner alone. I tried, just cant.
 
SimpleKomplexity said:
I lied, I never did take myself on the 2nd date to the movies. lol *sings* I always feel like, somebody's WATCHIN me....:sekret:

I'd rather stay in the house and sleep than go out alone....unless shopping in involved... It is boring to go somewhere alone. **at least I'm honest** oh well...I'll work on this
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I agree, this is what holds me back, more than people watching me. I work in a shopping center currently, and we have plenty or restaurants and bars. I have tried to have lunch in one of the restaurants, but I had no one to talk to, nothing to read, nothing to watch, so I got up and went back to our break room. I'll try again soon, some of the waiters were cute!
 
I find myself dating myself more and more since I am dropping weight. At first I didn't feel comfortable to go out alone but now I am having fun. I would like to take a trip to Miami- by myself.
 
I think this is a wonderful idea. I'm actually one of those people who sit in the house because no one wants to do anything. As a matter of fact, I'm gonna start doing this.
 
:look:

Kinda off topic, but made me chuckle just the same...:grin:

I was getting dressed after working out/showering at the gym this evening, when on the regulars ask me in a slightly annoyed tone of voice, "who are you dressing up for ?" She went on to ask me, "are you not married, then no need to look that good, who you dating anyway?"....:nono:

Po thang...:rolleyes:

I remarked, why yes, of course I'm married, you know this...BUT I'm dressed for me-cause I'm dating myself...always have...:blush:

She looked perplexed for a sec, and went on bout how she should too...:lachen:

(Yep, she was in sweats, which aint bad, but that does not work for Jfemme)

After my six weeks away, I promised to step up my game, so everywhere I go, I'm fly....:yep:


*carry on ladies* loving your stories...
 
tigerlily21 said:
I want to take a road trip to a spa in Miami this summer. I mentioned it to my co-worker and she invited herself along! Just started arranging traveling details and everything. Doesn't matter, I am going but not with her. I need some time to think.

I always go to the beach alone, and usually shopping. I have done lunch by myself and even went to a bar alone a few times. I still do not feel comfortable going to a movie or sit-down dinner alone. I tried, just cant.
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I hate when people INVITE themselves along!

If I wanted you to come, I would have asked you...:spinning:....most time their money is funny, so they can't go anyway!

I just act like I don't hear them, and keep making my travel arrangements. :lachen:
 
I have a SO and friends but I do enjoy my own company and hate relying on people to go out with and hate being let down when I really want to do something.

I have no problems catching a movie, going for dinner, shopping alone but I have a problem going to bars/ clubs.

I would LOVE to find the strength in doing this! I think I might start with a salsa night in my area.
 
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