Be Bold-- Date Yourself! :)

Yes. Necessity dictates it. And if I had an automobile it would be on. I would go with myself Chicago Steppin' and Detroit Urban Ballroom Dancing, uh-huh sure would.
 
I gotta start doing this cuz I don't have a ton of friends and I don't think it's wise to wait til I make some to get a life... don't think I can work up the nerve to go to dinner by myself though. :ohwell: I'm thinking of taking myself to the movies tomorrow.

What other suggestions do you guys have for places to go?
 
yes, I used to stay home if I didn't have anyone who wanted to join but I realized I was missing out on so much.

Many things I'm interested in never seem to interest my friends. For example, my school's rec center will host horseback riding and indoor rockclimbing events soon. None of my friends want to go but I'm not letting that stop me. I may even meet some cool people. Another thing is that I like music like the Roots, Foreign Exchange, Eric Roberson, etc. My friends don't dig it so much but I hate missing these performances. The next time an artist I like is in concert and I can't find anyone who wants to go (or my sis can't make it), then I will have to go alone. However, I must admit it may be awkward to attend a concert alone.
 
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This is a great thread. I used to go out by myself a few years back and I'm not sure why I stopped... Most times I had more fun alone than I would have had with friends!
 
Other places to go are museums, plays, spas, sporting events, Barnes & Nobles and other bookstores with coffee shops or Starbucks with your laptop :grin:
 
I was just watching a rerun of the show One on One and the two people on the show were "dating themselves" because they couldn't find anyone. They were treating themselves how they wanted their future date to treat them. Eating at fine restaurants and going to the spa. Spending a little extra for the perks.

But it got me thinking. I would LOVE to date myself. Now that I'm married, I never feel like I have time for me and I feel like I never really got a chance to explore the real me before I got married (I never had a desire to until now).

I do little things like go to Barnes and Noble or shop alone, but I have never been on a trip alone. I have never even been to a restaurant and seated alone. I have been to the movies alone ONCE IN MY LIFE, and it was a time I was mad at my husband and I stormed out of the house. It felt awkward, but guess what singles... now that I recall I got hollered at twice and I didn't even look in a mirror before I left. AND by the end of the movie I was enjoying myself.

So my point is I'm in for the challenge. I'll date myself at least once a month. I will use the time alone to explore what I like and don't like, where I am and what I want to be. I think if you focus on yourself and do what you want, then you may not worry so much about what other people think. I'm ready.
 
And as far as the security issue... I'm like that too. Believe me, I dont even drive to places outside of my 15 mile radius for fear that my horrible sense of direction will lead me to some unsafe place. But think about it, people travel all around the world. Many do it alone. I'm done letting my fear keep me from exploration. Of course we need to use common sense and be aware of our surroundings and avoid unsafe situations, but I think the odds are in our favor to have a good time. :)
 
I re-read my posts... I think I may have bigger issues than needing to date myself... but I hope you get what I'm trying to say.
 
I do things by myself all the time. I don't have time to wait for wishy-washy friends to decide if they want to hang with me or their SO. Or to make plans with me only to cancel if he calls instead.

I go to the movies alone 99% of the time.

In July, I'm going to a Chelsea vs. AC Milan futbol match alone.

Tonight, I am going swing dancing alone.

Would I like company while doing these things? Of course. But I refuse to miss out on enjoying myself just because I can't get a friend to go.
 
"Ok, have you ever wanted to go out and couldn't get a guy or a friend to go with you, so you stayed home instead?"

-- Nope, Never! If I want to go somewhere, I go. For me, it can be more exciting that way. Go alone and meet new people while I am out or just enjoy the time alone.


"Well, have you considered dating yourself?"

-- I used to do it a lot, and I had such fun. I have started doing it more again now. I usually end up meeting interesting people while I am out on a date with BB … :grin: lol.

“That's right going out on your own, on a whim or plan it and do what you want to do without worrying about pleasing someone else. I dress up like I'm on a date and do/order everything I want without a second thought.

I like being with other people on occasion, but I have now started to take myself out and I'm starting to enjoy it. So far, I've gone to the opera and seen 3 movies all by myself, and gone to various restaurants. Tomorrow, I think I'll go get some sushi.”
-- I love hearing about women who do things like this for themselves. I used to take it a step further. If I saw a pretty card while I was out, I would send it to myself. I love doing cute little special things for myself.
 
I like this thread!

When I was single I dated myself all the time and not only that...I was a complete single woman...did not need a man to complete me :)

Although I am married now...there are times when my hubby can be a bit of a home body...so what do I do...I take myself out for dinner and a movie...just because I am married I still enjoy being with "me"
 
Yes, I started to and I love it. I have been doing this for a while now. Also, Monday I am going out to eat alone. I am going to enjoy and take my time eating. =). I look good alone. Then I always draw people too me. LOL.
 
I do solo stuff all the time (movies, travel, museums, shopping, etc). However, I have issues eating out alone and also going out at night alone. It just feels weird. If I'm out at night solo, it's because I'm going to an event (theater, show, ballet, concert) where everyone is watching something in the dark. I have gone clubbing solo in the past, but that was a reggae spot close to my house, so I felt comfortable doing that. Dunno if I would go to a bar alone.

All that being said, I'm moving to a new city soon, so I will have to go it alone til I meet new people.

ETA: I'm challenging myself to eat lunch out next week at a restaurant. I will report back. :look:
 
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MizAvalon said:
I do things by myself all the time. I don't have time to wait for wishy-washy friends to decide if they want to hang with me or their SO. Or to make plans with me only to cancel if he calls instead.

I go to the movies alone 99% of the time.

In July, I'm going to a Chelsea vs. AC Milan futbol match alone.

Tonight, I am going swing dancing alone.

Would I like company while doing these things? Of course. But I refuse to miss out on enjoying myself just because I can't get a friend to go.
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Girl you are doing it! The futbol match sounds fun! You're sure to meet people in the crowd!
 
Xerxes said:
Great! We might even start a date yourself challenge, so you're right on time!


Hmm and it seems like it should be easier to be alone at the more tranquil expensive places compared to the mid-range family-oriented spots. :)
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I am taking myself to the movies today. I already have done it before but it just liberating. Then the next step after that is taking myself out to dinner, money is tight so I am taking it one day at a time.
 
I do a good amount of stuff alone, but I don't know if I have really thought about it as "dating myself."
I see things like shopping, going to the bookstore, etc. as not really dating myself... because I wouldn't necessarily expect to be accompanied by friends to do that.
What I have realized though is that there are a lot of other things that I would like to do that I don't do because my friends can't/don't want to come with me.

I want to date myself a little bit this summer. I think I did that 2 summers ago without really realizing it, and it was a fun summer. Gotta do it again, but I also want to meet other people that I can hang out with as well:)
 
Wow....i need to work on this...i can go to the movies alone and dont feel awkward but lounges, dinner, bar...feels weird....
 
MizAvalon said:
I hope so! :) I don't have any friends who are interested in the sport so I just went on ahead and bought myself a ticket.:drunk:
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That's awesome. I remember from your old avatar that you follow soccer. Is the game in the US?

The whole of basketball season I had the urge to go but I thought it would be embarassing in the arena by myself. This gives me the courage to try it next season. :yep:
 
The first thing I thought of was this clip from Paris Je T'aime. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S2EbK0NEl5A. Anyhoo, I do love to go on the occasional solo date. I actually almost always go to movies by myself. I can do Lunch by myself, but dinner...in a sit-down, restaurant. Nah! I went travelling with a "friend" of mine in March, and really just wished I had gone by myself. It's fun to do things by yourself! I don't know why so many people, esp women, can't.
 
Riverrock said:
The first thing I thought of was this clip from Paris Je T'aime. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S2EbK0NEl5A. Anyhoo, I do love to go on the occasional solo date. I actually almost always go to movies by myself. I can do Lunch by myself, but dinner...in a sit-down, restaurant. Nah! I went travelling with a "friend" of mine in March, and really just wished I had gone by myself. It's fun to do things by yourself! I don't know why so many people, esp women, can't.
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That's my favorite vignette from that movie :yep: Probably b/c I can relate to her :look:
 
I've gone out to eat by myself a few times and also to the movies. However, I think I want to do more by myself this summer. There's really no one lately that I want to hang with like that.

I have SERIOUSLY been thinking about going on a trip by myself. There's no one that I want to take on a trip with me, and I don't want to keep putting it off. I'm going to have to look into this further. :yep:
 
tyefrmy said:
I've gone out to eat by myself a few times and also to the movies. However, I think I want to do more by myself this summer. There's really no one lately that I want to hang with like that.

I have SERIOUSLY been thinking about going on a trip by myself. There's no one that I want to take on a trip with me, and I don't want to keep putting it off. I'm going to have to look into this further. :yep:
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I wouldn't mind taking a trip alone either. Right now, I can't think of any friends I'd really want to travel with.
 
Wow ladies this is very good, I really got to start “dating myself” more. Think I will challenge myself to go catch a movie.
 
Belle Du Jour said:
That's awesome. I remember from your old avatar that you follow soccer. Is the game in the US?

The whole of basketball season I had the urge to go but I thought it would be embarassing in the arena by myself. This gives me the courage to try it next season. :yep:
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Yes, it's right in my city, downtown.:yep: Make sure you get yourself to a basketball game next season if you want to go. It's so fast paced, it's guaranteed to be a fun time from beginning to end. Also, at sporting events your neighbors always seem to want to be friendly.

Swing dancing was AMAZING tonight, by the way.:grin:
 
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