Be Bold-- Date Yourself! :)

Xerxes

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Ok, have you ever wanted to go out and couldn't get a guy or a friend to go with you, so you stayed home instead?

Well, have you considered dating yourself?

That's right going out on your own, on a whim or plan it and do what you want to do without worrying about pleasing someone else. I dress up like I'm on a date and do/order everything I want without a second thought.

I like being with other people on occasion, but I have now started to take myself out and I'm starting to enjoy it. So far, I've gone to the opera and seen 3 movies all by myself, and gone to various restaurants. Tomorrow, I think I'll go get some sushi.

:)
 
I wrote a post about this recently. I think it's very important for women to be able to take themselves out, enjoy their own company, and have fun. I hate when people say they feel so lonely or like a loser when they go out alone. I think what you are doing is great!
 
I go out alone all the time - and I'm married! I've always been confused with people who couldn't be seen in public alone. :lachen: Esp. when you are single and trying to meet someone - what man is dumb enough to interrupt two women kikiking over lunch/dinner? But there are many men who will nicely introduce themselves to a woman dining alone..... and if you take a book to read, you might have an icebreaker/conversation starter in your hands, too.
 
I date myself often as well. I love hanging with friends and my sister. But men are more willing to approach a woman if she is alone.

I even took trips alone I've been to Vegas and Aruba. I ALWAYS had people men and women approach me and strike a conversation up with me (but then again, that happens when I'm on the bus too so :/ )
 
Girl, I've been dating myself ever since. I go to the movies, dinner, shopping etc. all by myself. I love it actually. People always ask how & why I do it? :perplexed
 
I do it frequently because my friends are flakey. They plan but if a guy calls, I get dumped. I have never done that. Then I tell them what I have seen or what I did and they are a bit preturbed because sometimes their dates have been duds. Oh well.
 
Girl, I've been dating myself ever since. I go to the movies, dinner, shopping etc. all by myself. I love it actually. People always ask how & why I do it? :perplexed

I've done this for years....and I'm married:grin:

(love it :yep:)

JN raises hand...

I've always dated myself as far back as I can remember and never, ever felt strange or odd about it.

My current SO doesn't like to go to the movies or hang out at all, so as not to totally despise him, I do me and I LOVE it! :yep:
 
I don't mind going to lunch by myself during the work day.

But I'm uncomfortable with dinner or even a weekend lunch. What do you do with yourselves so as not to look awkward.
 
I don't mind going to lunch by myself during the work day.

But I'm uncomfortable with dinner or even a weekend lunch. What do you do with yourselves so as not to look awkward.

I almost always have a book with me. Sometimes I'll just people watch. Sometimes I'll take a journal and write.
 
I almost always have a book with me. Sometimes I'll just people watch. Sometimes I'll take a journal and write.

:yep: - Book, magazine, newspaper, iPhone or iTouch, whatever or just people watch. I used to take a journal and jot down my thoughts and observations but I haven't done that in a while.
 
I do this as well. I've traveled alone, done dinners, clubs, restaurants, you name it.

I plan on taking myself to the movies tomorrow. :D
 
I go solo a lot... especially when I lived in dc. The experience was so different then when I had a guy on my arm that I made it a point to get some me time frequently. I often met many new and interesting ppl on the way that didn't really speak with me being on a outing with a man.

That's the weirdest, most unexpected outcome of going out on your own, you automatically draw attention from other people who want to chat.

I wrote a post about this recently. I think it's very important for women to be able to take themselves out, enjoy their own company, and have fun. I hate when people say they feel so lonely or like a loser when they go out alone. I think what you are doing is great!

Thanks! :)

I go out alone all the time - and I'm married! I've always been confused with people who couldn't be seen in public alone. :lachen: Esp. when you are single and trying to meet someone - what man is dumb enough to interrupt two women kikiking over lunch/dinner? But there are many men who will nicely introduce themselves to a woman dining alone..... and if you take a book to read, you might have an icebreaker/conversation starter in your hands, too.


LOL!! JustKiya, what you said about how is a man supposed to approach me when I am with another girl is a big reason why I no longer feel the need to have a girlfriend as a buffer to keep me from looking alone. If I'm always with someone, how can I expect to finally be approached by the right guy? :)
 
I have taken myself out on several occassions. No need to sit in and be bored b/c no one is available to hang out with me. The first time was a bit awkward though. I felt like everyone was watching me...:look:
 
I date myself often as well. I love hanging with friends and my sister. But men are more willing to approach a woman if she is alone.

I even took trips alone I've been to Vegas and Aruba. I ALWAYS had people men and women approach me and strike a conversation up with me (but then again, that happens when I'm on the bus too so :/ )

Ok, I've only taken business trips alone, I'll have to see about this vacationing alone idea.

Girl, I've been dating myself ever since. I go to the movies, dinner, shopping etc. all by myself. I love it actually. People always ask how & why I do it? :perplexed

Yeah, my friends don't get it at all. But I realized that if I want to do something, I'm going to do it.

I've done this for years....and I'm married:grin:

(love it :yep:)

Another happily married self-dater! lol

I do it frequently because my friends are flakey. They plan but if a guy calls, I get dumped. I have never done that. Then I tell them what I have seen or what I did and they are a bit preturbed because sometimes their dates have been duds. Oh well.

<giggling> I have been guilty of dumping a girl friend for a guy, so that's why I stopped even being upset by my friends doing it to me. And it always seems like I have more fun alone, than when I'm with a guy and trying to "read" him and decide if he's the One or not. lol

JN raises hand...

I've always dated myself as far back as I can remember and never, ever felt strange or odd about it.

My current SO doesn't like to go to the movies or hang out at all, so as not to totally despise him, I do me and I LOVE it! :yep:

Wow, I'm shocked he doesn't go with you just to see what you're up to while he stays home. :)

I don't mind going to lunch by myself during the work day.

But I'm uncomfortable with dinner or even a weekend lunch. What do you do with yourselves so as not to look awkward.

If I'm eating dinner alone, I'll bring a book or something to read. You know to look educated and stuff. Also, you might get entertained by all of the questioning stares you'll get from women on dates or huddled in groups with other girls. All of them will be trying to figure out why you feel confident enough to leave your house alone. :)
 
I have taken myself out on several occassions. No need to sit in and be bored b/c no one is available to hang out with me. The first time was a bit awkward though. I felt like everyone was watching me...:look:


You know what, they probably are all watching you because you're going against the social frame work which urges single women to desire the approval and company of others at all times, even when going to the restroom.

And it's ok for them to stare because 9 times out of 10, they wish they were alone and not with the company they're with anyhow. Shoot, they envy you. :)
 
I almost always have a book with me. Sometimes I'll just people watch. Sometimes I'll take a journal and write.

:yep: - Book, magazine, newspaper, iPhone or iTouch, whatever or just people watch. I used to take a journal and jot down my thoughts and observations but I haven't done that in a while.

If I'm eating dinner alone, I'll bring a book or something to read. You know to look educated and stuff. Also, you might get entertained by all of the questioning stares you'll get from women on dates or huddled in groups with other girls. All of them will be trying to figure out why you feel confident enough to leave your house alone. :)

Ok.

I usually do those things when I eat lunch during the week. But I thought it may be inappropriate some how if I did it during dinner at a nice restaurant.

At any rate, I smell a date yourself challenge. Well... you ladies seem to have it together, so I'm in the challenge by my lonesome. I'm excited.
 
Ok.

I usually do those things when I eat lunch during the week. But I thought it may be inappropriate some how if I did it during dinner at a nice restaurant.

At any rate, I smell a date yourself challenge. Well... you ladies seem to have it together, so I'm in the challenge by my lonesome. I'm excited.

Nope, not at all. Be courteous to the waiter, keep aware of your surroundings, focus on the food and not the book once you have grub, and leave a nice tip. Trust me, no one will mind. I often find sitting in a booth to be most comfortable - and personally, I like booths in the bar section - it's where the singles tend to hang out. ;) Urm - the nicest place I've gone to alone was a 35-45 dollar entree place. :lick: Twas delightful.
 
I am starting to enjoy going out by myself. I was just thinking that I need to go out by myself if I don't have anyone to join me.
 
Ok.

I usually do those things when I eat lunch during the week. But I thought it may be inappropriate some how if I did it during dinner at a nice restaurant.

At any rate, I smell a date yourself challenge. Well... you ladies seem to have it together, so I'm in the challenge by my lonesome. I'm excited.


Oh my, you want to make this a challenge? LOL

Then what should the rules be? :)

Seems like I've been doing this for the past decade. :lol:

LOL
 
I am starting to enjoy going out by myself. I was just thinking that I need to go out by myself if I don't have anyone to join me.

Great! We might even start a date yourself challenge, so you're right on time!

Nope, not at all. Be courteous to the waiter, keep aware of your surroundings, focus on the food and not the book once you have grub, and leave a nice tip. Trust me, no one will mind. I often find sitting in a booth to be most comfortable - and personally, I like booths in the bar section - it's where the singles tend to hang out. ;) Urm - the nicest place I've gone to alone was a 35-45 dollar entree place. :lick: Twas delightful.

Hmm and it seems like it should be easier to be alone at the more tranquil expensive places compared to the mid-range family-oriented spots. :)
 
Great! We might even start a date yourself challenge, so you're right on time!



Hmm and it seems like it should be easier to be alone at the more tranquil expensive places compared to the mid-range family-oriented spots. :)

It is - it's more peaceful, and more adult. If you go to a family place, go at off hours - very early dinner, or very late dinner, or a late lunch - otherwise, you won't get very good service.

*thinks*

Shoot, I need to go out alone at some point soon - this thread has reminded me that it's been a good minute!
 
Nope, not at all. Be courteous to the waiter, keep aware of your surroundings, focus on the food and not the book once you have grub, and leave a nice tip. Trust me, no one will mind. I often find sitting in a booth to be most comfortable - and personally, I like booths in the bar section - it's where the singles tend to hang out. ;) Urm - the nicest place I've gone to alone was a 35-45 dollar entree place. :lick: Twas delightful.

Thanks Kiya! You're always so helpful.
:)
Oh my, you want to make this a challenge? LOL. Then what should the rules be? LOL

Well, I don't know if its "official challenge" worthy. But I think I want to personally challenge myself. And I encourage interested parties to do the same.

I'm going to start with a once a month date. Maybe twice a month, who knows. I'm going to force myself to have dinner or a movie
BY MYSELF
.

Its going to be tough for me because I'm not accustomed to doing it.
 
Thanks Kiya! You're always so helpful.
:)


Well, I don't know if its "official challenge" worthy. But I think I want to personally challenge myself. And I encourage interested parties to do the same.

I'm going to start with a once a month date. Maybe twice a month, who knows. I'm going to force myself to have dinner or a movie
BY MYSELF
.

Its going to be tough for me because I'm not accustomed to doing it.

Aw, well good luck to you! I'm going on at least one more self date this weekend and then while I'm on trips with my family for the next 2 weeks, I will go on manhunts-- lengthy periods of unabashedly flirting with all of the cute men I encounter. :)
 
thanks for this. i wanna have the courage to take a trip by myself. i ve been to the movied and concerts alone and was glad i didnt miss the opoutunity. i wanna take myself to dinner and dancing. its a good feeling knowing u can enjoy life with out wating on other sechdules
 
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I wrote a post about this recently. I think it's very important for women to be able to take themselves out, enjoy their own company, and have fun. I hate when people say they feel so lonely or like a loser when they go out alone. I think what you are doing is great!

:sekret: You make me feel bad. I was just going to say that...again. I can take myself out for like ice cream or to the library, but I cannot, will not, AND HATE going places like Applebees, Chillis, the movies, the club, alone.

This is how I feel. I walk in confident and usually look really cute. I walk past a few couples and cliques before sitting. I look at the menu and then think about my day. Then my midn wanders. I feel like others are watching and noticing that I am alone. Makes me feel subject to getting carnapped or hurt in some way. I look like a loser. I have no one to talk to. It's nothing to do. I'm starting to feel anxiety now. I chill.

Times goes by. I play with my phone going down contacts and thinking of someone to call. I look up old txt messages. I play around with the ipod. Then I give up. I have nothing to do. WTF am I supposed to be doing? Savoring the flavor of the food? Nah, just tastes like food. I could do that at Wendys. I try to calm down again. :nono: I sit there for about 10 minutes. Order a margarita to stop feeling the anxiety, and by minute 15 I'm saying, "Check please with a doggy bag."

I quickly leave, drive off, and go home to eat my food. I just can't do it. I'm working on it, but ughhhhh I HATE IT!! :wallbash:
 
Great! We might even start a date yourself challenge, so you're right on time!



Hmm and it seems like it should be easier to be alone at the more tranquil expensive places compared to the mid-range family-oriented spots. :)

I would join this challenge. I hate doing things in my own company, but I love overcoming my personal adversities. I would be dedicated to going out by myself twice a month. ....If someone explained to me what I'm supposed to be doing. I really just don't get it. :nono: And I'm not even tryna sound immature. I just don't like the feeling of feeling like a nonentity.
 
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