Awwwwww h naw; and why do I care?

[LovinLocks]

I don't understand this post at all.

To you and Princess,

Here's what's up. I woke up, I enjoy writing and tend to write when my mind needs clearing. More often than not I read wholesome, down-to-earth responses here at LHCF. Instead of putting my writing skills to something productive like my niche blog, I decided to keep it light so I posted some thoughts here. Thanks ladies for your responses and time.

Namaste,

LL

 

[LovinLocks]

OP do the kids live with you?

Yes. Get this, he's so cool. He's had legal and physical custody almost from birth. I've gotta eat. Signing off this topic, ladies. Again, thanks.

 

[lesedi]

^^^^^
Even more confused now.
He has all the time in the world to be with them....and has done for the past 13 years.
maybe he is overcompensating because the two of you recently married and he doesn't want the kids to feel left out/ neglected etc..???
That's all i can come up with.
but he's your husband now and you deserve to share your bed with him. I hope you get through to him.
best wishes OP

 

[MissMasala5]

To you and Princess,

Here's what's up. I woke up, I enjoy writing and tend to write when my mind needs clearing. More often than not I read wholesome, down-to-earth responses here at LHCF. Instead of putting my writing skills to something productive like my niche blog, I decided to keep it light so I posted some thoughts here. Thanks ladies for your responses and time.

Namaste,

LL

Princess?

The post AND the situation are STILL confusing to me. Whatever, bon appetit.

 

[itsjusthair88]

How much time can you spend with a child that is sleeping? I think it's vwey strange to fall asleep and wake up with someone in your room. I'm assuming that a grown man is not spending the night in the same bed as teens and preteens...I just don't get it. If he wanted to check on them or tuck them in okay...but sleeping with them...that has me scratching my head.

The only grown kid I know who sleeps with his parents is Colombian and he is 18 years old, in college and everything. Apparently he was near death for a while when he was younger so his mom coddles him. His gf will come over and drag him out of his mom's bed and into hers...so creepy. I assume the dad has had enough of it because he hits on anything with legs. He drove us to the airport and asked my 2 friends and I if we would like to stop at the hourly motel...he's disgusting.

Like I said, we all bond in different ways...we don't know what OP's DH's life with his kids were like before this, this may be a ritual for them...my point is, a lot of the posts here have some pretty negative connotations, like there is something "off" going on. I think it's a mix of cultural differences and family differences...and add me and my Five grown/near grown siblings to your list of "kids who sleep with their parents" it is not uncommon for us (when we go home to visit, we all live in different countries but are super close) to pile in the bed with them and watch movies, or annoy them because we can and we do fall asleep, nothing weird or creepy at all, we're all healthy, functioning adults! They're our parents, those are bonds that will be with us forever, just my humble opinion.

 

[ladysaraii]

I clearly missed the original posts, so I could be reaching, but it sounds like dude os going to sleep with his kids instead of his wife?

I think it wouldn't matter how much time my dad and I had missed, he wouldn't sleep in my room, maybe come in and say hi, how are you.

I think that if I had a man trying to sleep in the bed with his kids (not the kids crawling into the parents bed) I would think some innapropriate was going on

 

[manter26]

Like I said, we all bond in different ways...we don't know what OP's DH's life with his kids were like before this, this may be a ritual for them...my point is, a lot of the posts here have some pretty negative connotations, like there is something "off" going on. I think it's a mix of cultural differences and family differences...and add me and my Five grown/near grown siblings to your list of "kids who sleep with their parents" it is not uncommon for us (when we go home to visit, we all live in different countries but are super close) to pile in the bed with them and watch movies, or annoy them because we can and we do fall asleep, nothing weird or creepy at all, we're all healthy, functioning adults! They're our parents, those are bonds that will be with us forever, just my humble opinion.

I don't doubt that all of us have climbed into bed and watched a movie with our parents, young or old. To me that is not at all the same as a grown man climbing into bed with a sleeping child. I don't know if that's the case with the OP, but that could be the case...we don't know. So yea, there is a negative connotation to that behaviour because it doesn't make sense in most cultures.

Even the kid I know in Colombia sleeps with both his mom and dad in their bed. It's common for Colombians but others still think it's weird because he's been in college for 2 years and is grown. His dad or mom, does not get out of their own spousal bed and go and sleep with him...just saying.

Anyway...different strokes...

 

[LovinLocks]

Good grief, he slept ON THE FLOOR. 11 y/o scared of dark; every now and again he'll sleep on the floor with them. He's not a pervert. We discussed; it's over.

itsjusthair88, thank you for your perspective. You were kind.

Peace out.

LL