BeautifulFlower
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Thats the thing. I am 5'2 or 5'3. He's about 5'2 or 5'3
You so right. If he was taller, I'd be all over it. Shallow?!?!? Man looks at the outside but God looks at the heart.
Are you taller than your SO or DH?
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Thats the thing. I am 5'2 or 5'3. He's about 5'2 or 5'3
You so right. If he was taller, I'd be all over it. Shallow?!?!? Man looks at the outside but God looks at the heart.
That's right girlie.
You guys are right. I am interested in this guy but I am taller than him with heels and I like wearing my stilettos.
I know it shouldnt matter because he is a great guy but it wont lie and say I wouldnt prefer someone a little taller. Someone that is at least eye level with me with heels on.
Pretty - there is nothing wrong with having preferences. Don't be so hard on yourself. Just see what happens with this guy (based on the other thread). It could be that height won't matter. And if you went on a date with him and his shortness is all you can think about..then there's your answer right there.
Also, you don't need to decide on this now. I don't think you need to make a decision at all. Just see what happens.
BeautifulFlower
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Pretty - there is nothing wrong with having preferences. Don't be so hard on yourself. Just see what happens with this guy (based on the other thread). It could be that height won't matter. And if you went on a date with him and his shortness is all you can think about..then there's your answer right there.
Also, you don't need to decide on this now. I don't think you need to make a decision at all. Just see what happens.
Youre right. I want to be sweep away on all levels. I'm going to keep my options open.
Well, it's only human nature to question but I was being more so facetious. Still, I would certainly be praying and asking God if this is the guy he's chosen for me even if he's only 5'2"
~~HoneyComb~~
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Even with 3" heels on DH is taller than I am.
Oh no, thank God! I'm 5'4" and DH is about 6'0".
By my calculations, this is the perfect height difference for me. With 4" heels, I'm 5'8", then I add about 2" for my BIG hairdos, which puts me at about 5'10"...with 2" to spare before I reach his height. Yes...I'm anti- short-man, so I've given this a lot of thought.
By my calculations, this is the perfect height difference for me. With 4" heels, I'm 5'8", then I add about 2" for my BIG hairdos, which puts me at about 5'10"...with 2" to spare before I reach his height. Yes...I'm anti- short-man, so I've given this a lot of thought.
I think it's something about a man being a "protector" in us wanting him (generally) to be taller than us. Like, how can he protect me if he's shorter than me? This is not necessarily logical, just saying how we might think subconsciously sometimes.
~~HoneyComb~~
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I think you're right, and my DH is twice my body weight too, so I always call him my personal body guard when we're together.
And also, we want to feel "tinier" and more "delicate" than them and height is probably the biggest thing to give us this impression.
BeautifulFlower
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And also, we want to feel "tinier" and more "delicate" than them and height is probably the biggest thing to give us this impression.
I think this is it. I love looking up to my man. I love being able to curl up to him. I love feeling protector. I love the Jada/Will stares...hehehe.
I dont mean to push him off because he's a great guy and my cousins think he'd be awesome for me but I want to feel "protected" like you said. My first real BF was 6'4 and I am 5'2. I've dated on other guy that is my height but he was FINE and this boy treated me sooooo good. Eventually I let him go but he's married now. The shorties know how to treat women. Praying I find a tall guy with a short guy's heart
~~HoneyComb~~
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I think this is it. I love looking up to my man. I love being able to curl up to him. I love feeling protector. I love the Jada/Will stares...hehehe.
I dont mean to push him off because he's a great guy and my cousins think he'd be awesome for me but I want to feel "protected" like you said. My first real BF was 6'4 and I am 5'2. I've dated on other guy that is my height but he was FINE and this boy treated me sooooo good. Eventually I let him go but he's married now. The shorties know how to treat women. Praying I find a tall guy with a short guy's heart
That's so cute
!My husband looks intimidating, but he's a big ole teddy bear
I think this is it. I love looking up to my man. I love being able to curl up to him. I love feeling protector. I love the Jada/Will stares...hehehe.
I dont mean to push him off because he's a great guy and my cousins think he'd be awesome for me but I want to feel "protected" like you said. My first real BF was 6'4 and I am 5'2. I've dated on other guy that is my height but he was FINE and this boy treated me sooooo good. Eventually I let him go but he's married now. The shorties know how to treat women. Praying I find a tall guy with a short guy's heart
You are so right about that. I had one (too young of a Christian to understand what was even before me so I did not even consider it.) But boy, I hope to find a guy who treats me as well as he did (and we never even dated).
You guys are right. I am interested in this guy but I am taller than him with heels and I like wearing my stilettos.
I know it shouldnt matter because he is a great guy but it wont lie and say I wouldnt prefer someone a little taller. Someone that is at least eye level with me with heels on.
I agree with hairlove, who said that there is nothing wrong with having preferences...even physical preferences.
Scripture says that we are to let our requests be known to God (PHL 4:6). Also, we can trust Him to give us the desires of our heart (PSA 37:4). I apply those scriptures literally, in every area of my life, and it works! DH is the perfect man for me, inside and out.
BeautifulFlower
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You're so right. I think I was willing to settle. I guess I have this idea in my head that I wont get everything I want in a man. Not that I am looking for perfection but just someone that meets all my basic requirements. I am going to keep praying about it until the one that takes my breathe away arrives.
Yes, you just keep on praying. You'll be ok. Remember the prayer you sent me? It had something in there about asking God to send you someone who you will be attracted to physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I am learning to trust God in this area. Why would he send us someone we have no attraction to? (Sure, it can happen over time but if it doesn't, then something's probably not quite right.)
So, don't fret over this guy. You may end up finding yourself attracted to him and you may not.
ETA: You're only settling if you get a sign from God that he is NOT right for you. I would think that can come in many ways. ie You go on a date and all you can think about is how short he is and how uncomfortable you feel but you continue to date him feeling like that all the time. (At least that's how I think of it.)
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BeautifulFlower
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Duh...Ayannah wake up! Thanks for the reminder.
Yes, you just keep on praying. You'll be ok. Remember the prayer you sent me? It had something in there about asking God to send you someone who you will be attracted to physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I am learning to trust God in this area. Why would he send us someone we have no attraction to? (Sure, it can happen over time but if it doesn't, then something's probably not quite right.)
So, don't fret over this guy. You may end up finding yourself attracted to him and you may not.
ETA: You're only settling if you get a sign from God that he is NOT right for you. I would think that can come in many ways. ie You go on a date and all you can think about is how short he is and how uncomfortable you feel but you continue to date him feeling like that all the time. (At least that's how I think of it.)
Good for you! If God had wanted us to settle, He would not have told us to ask for what we want (JOHN 16:24). And yes, there are no perfect people, but there is a man that is perfect for you.
Marriage is work, no matter how you look at it, so when times get tough, you have a huge advantage of staying in for life if you feel he is the right man for you.
Let us know when the man of your dreams arrives....
BeautifulFlower
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prettyFine
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man o man glad i'm not. couldn't take it.
Same with my husband.[/b]
That's so cute
My husband looks intimidating, but he's a big ole teddy bear
My current SO is 5'9" and I'm just about 5'5", so yes, he's taller but not by that much! With heels on we're just about eye to eye and I call him Shortie...
I was dating (briefly!) a guy who was 5'6" and I'm sorry, but he looked like a midget to me; his arms and legs seemed sooo short!!
Allandra! (Hey Girl!!
) You got married?? CONGRATS!! When did that happen?? Or were you always??? 
I was dating (briefly!) a guy who was 5'6" and I'm sorry, but he looked like a midget to me; his arms and legs seemed sooo short!!
Allandra! (Hey Girl!!
) You got married?? CONGRATS!! When did that happen?? Or were you always??? Hey Sweetie,My current SO is 5'9" and I'm just about 5'5", so yes, he's taller but not by that much! With heels on we're just about eye to eye and I call him Shortie...
I was dating (briefly!) a guy who was 5'6" and I'm sorry, but he looked like a midget to me; his arms and legs seemed sooo short!!
Allandra! (Hey Girl!!
Thanks.
I haven't seen you in a little while. I've been married for just over 14 weeks.
Where have you been girl?
BeautifulFlower
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Congrats Allandra! I pray many blessing for you and your intimidating teddy bear 
vivEz daNs lamouR
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The current guy I'm dating is 5'11 and I'm 5'6. Depending on the shoes I wear, I could look him in his eyes with heels on.
But my first love in HS was SHORT! LOL I was 5'6 and I think he was 5'3 or so, I never wore high heels ever (well at that time I was a Jordans fiend anyway, but even for prom I wore ballet flats). I think it bothered him slightly but nothing to cause us to break up or stop dating. He was such a great person regardless of how tall or short he was.
But my first love in HS was SHORT! LOL I was 5'6 and I think he was 5'3 or so, I never wore high heels ever (well at that time I was a Jordans fiend anyway, but even for prom I wore ballet flats). I think it bothered him slightly but nothing to cause us to break up or stop dating. He was such a great person regardless of how tall or short he was.
glamazon386
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Thats the thing. I am 5'2 or 5'3. He's about 5'2 or 5'3
You so right. If he was taller, I'd be all over it. Shallow?!?!? Man looks at the outside but God looks at the heart.
Yeah I wouldn't be able to do it.
That's too short.
rainbowknots
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ITA with the bolded. I just couldn't imagine looking down on my (future) SO. I remember watching one of the judge shows...i think it was Judge Alex...and this couple were suing another guy. The man was a lot shorter than the woman ( I don't think he came past her shoulders) and at the very beginning Judge Alex starts of with "Is this your son" and she said no he's my husband! I don't know how she felt (especially since the crowd was laughing) but think I would've been mortified.
I don't knock women who date shorter mean because to each his (well her) own. It's just not for me.
