Ladies I just want to encourage you guys to keep pressing forward. I used to be the poster girl for short broken off hair and it took going natural 3x to finally start to understand what my hair needs. This is what my hair looked like after almost 3 years back in 2014.
View attachment 428807i didn't understand why my ends were so chewed up and why my hair was always so dry. I chucked it up to having bad hair. Later that year, I colored my already damaged hai. It broke off so I cut it down to a brush cut. I relaxed my twa and that didn't work out as planned. I big chopped again but this time I went completely bald.
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This was in November 2015. About a year later, after trying for over 2 years, my husband and I found out that we were expecting our first child. It was a very exciting time but my natural hair started to become a bit of a hassle. I wanted to give heat training a go. That turned out to be an awful idea. I'm still transitioning out of that and dealing with some breakage from it to this day. This was the first pic I took of my hair on January 1 2018 compared to the pic I took yesterday.
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There are a few key things that i'm doing differently now to retain length on my 4b natural hair. My hair grows 4.5 inches a year on average.
1. I keep my hair moisturized with Luster's s curl spray, seal the ends with whipped Shea butter, and tuck them away.
2. I detangle my hair with vegetable oil, Aussie moist and a wide tooth shower comb under running water. Lately I've been dry finger detangling a little bit but I lack the patience to fully finger detangle. The greasiness of whipped Shea butter helps my shed hairs slide out without taking other strands with them. This reduces knots and tangles.
3. I use aphogee 2 step protein treatment every 6 weeks (this is about how often I wash and detangle my hair)
4. I follow that up with tgin honey moisture mask to deep condition
5. I protective style with wigs, mini braids and buns. Once my hair has been moisturized and sealed, I leave it alone.
6. I don't let anyone else touch my hair...if they want to feel it, that's one thing, but no combing or brushing. I haven't been to a salon in years and I'm honestly terrified of them.
7. I don't trim my ends because I'm transitioning out of heat damage anyway. The whipped Shea butter reduces friction on my ends
My regimen isn't fancy. I think it's rather simple. I don't think our hair requires as much stuff as we think it does. Properly moisturizing/sealing, detangling and protective styling works wonders for my hair type. I hope this post is helpful. Happy hair journeys everyone!