And it ended as fast as it began...

[FluffyRed]

He sounds crazier than my ex-husband who tried to "beat me" like Harpo.

That controlling stuff, setting down the rules... It makes him look like 1) he's doing something 2)looks the beginning of domestic abuse syndrome - isolating the female or 3) he could be taking out his trust issues from the past on you.

Either way, he's not right. You did nothing wrong.

 

[new-life]

Sry for the very blunt response but your thread kinda hit me in a sore spot only because I have someone close to me who's going through almost the EXACT situation you're in. Dude acting like yours, with the wack arse mind games- and she'd feel bad every day for ish she ain't do! The only difference btwn you and her was that you were smart enough to leave. She didn't, she's still with dude, and yea, like the other ladies here predicted, he already started hitting on her, she'd come w/a black eye and she'll make up some dumb excuse about messing w/her lil cuzin and getting accidently punched in the eye (????). I probably would've hurt his arse a long time ago, but this chick is sooo far gone that I'm almost 100% sure, that she'll defend him even though i'm fighting for her- and then I'll have to beat her arse too lol and I'm not going to jail for no dumb chick. So yea, please ignore dude, please don't go back to dude, he's wack and yea it doesn't seem that serious, but these "little things" add up. Stay strong girl.

 

[alwayzalady22]

Alright!!!


By the way, I never was able to date multiple people either until like, last month. I'm talking to a few guys right now... no one is serious yet, there's no sex in any of these situations... I'm just sitting back and watching to see who might emerge from the pack.

It's kinda like dating Royal Rumble. They're all battling right now (although they don't know it), and some are throwing the others out of the ring. New people can enter the ring at any time. Whoever's left in the end wins... ME!

my idol!

 

[Likeyouneverseenme]

Um, you should have ended it after he hacked into you Facebook account.
Creepy as hell!

 

[Odontyouwish]

wow...hmmmm idk. pretty sad right now. idk how ill feel later though

 

[Odontyouwish]

*sigh*
I do know this....
If I broke up with him and he was at his ex's that same night...I'd be mad
If he left out that his ex was at a comedy show with him...I'd be mad
If the day we broke up he called my ex bf....I'd be mad

But I don't know if it would be to the point that he is @

 

[LisaLisa1908]

So, you're okay with him hacking your Facebook and telling you your tears don't matter?

What would you tell your little sister if someone did that to her?

 

[Odontyouwish]

I see....
He says it's because I always go back and do the same things...but that's not necessarily true because I didn't go hang out with my ex the past 2 times we were having issues. I don't even speak to him anymore.

I am just gonna read my Bible and go to bed, I guess.

 

[Bunny77]

I know you have a lot of unanswered questions, but I think it's probably best to let this one go. There's too much drama on all sides, too many breakup-to-makeups, etc... each time it gets worse and worse and it's just becoming a big mess.

Chalk it up to a loss.

 

[LisaLisa1908]

I see....
He says it's because I always go back and do the same things...but that's not necessarily true because I didn't go hang out with my ex the past 2 times we were having issues. I don't even speak to him anymore.

I am just gonna read my Bible and go to bed, I guess.

He's blaming YOU for HIS behavior?

You're doing a LOT of explaining for yourself AND him. It just doesn't take all that to be happy in a relationship. If you don't have trust, you don't really have anything. A relationship is supposed to be something that brings you up, not take you down. I wish you well, but I hope you can see how this isn't healthy, for either of you.

 

[Odontyouwish]

LisaLisa1908
you keep it real sis...and that's the real deal Holyfield
yeah he says i made him into the untrusting person he is
i used to not even defend him,
but i was like..."ok let me look @ myself & see if it's me"
and it seems to me that you guys are saying that it's not
its been majority that its not....just as i used to think
I have waaaay to much on my plate to be crying.....stressing
I know i did do some things wrong...but it was a learning experience

 

[Bunny77]

LisaLisa1908
you keep it real sis...and that's the real deal Holyfield
yeah he says i made him into the untrusting person he is
i used to not even defend him,
but i was like..."ok let me look @ myself & see if it's me"
and it seems to me that you guys are saying that it's not
its been majority that its not....just as i used to think
I have waaaay to much on my plate to be crying.....stressing
I know i did do some things wrong...but it was a learning experience

Reading your whole post, if it was me, there were some things that I might have done differently, but I wouldn't say he was justified for his behavior. Like you said, it's a learning experience, and we've all had them!

That's why I said it might be best to let this guy go, just for your own sanity. The fact that so many drama has gone down in such a short period of time is not good and like you said, you have waaaay too much on your plate to be going through all this!

 

[SqrpioQutie]

So, I've been trying to work things out with my man.

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.....so what do I do now?

you sound very young.... if you're in school, concentrate on school.... dude sounds insecure and neither of you sound like you're ready to be in a serious relationship... there's no reason why you should be waiting on his approval to do ANYTHING... he's not your father... even if you've made mistakes, his actions (as portrayed in the OP) are not the actions of someone who's fit to be someone's partner... and, quite honestly, it sounds like you need to develp a better sense of who you are and then discover your strength... when you do that, you will nip stuff like this in the bud (should a similar situation ever happen again)....

 

[SqrpioQutie]

When we are together and the conversation isn't about trust...things are great.
He takes my little brother places.
My family (who hates everyone) loves him.
He is always there to listen to my issues.
I feel like when I was acting nonchalant about our relationship...I hurt him pretty bad.
He has introduced me to his entire family.
That's why I thought it was maturing.

means... nothing...

dude is not stable... at least not relationship-wise.... i can't see why you would stress yourself to hold onto to someone who is making you feel soooooooooooooooooo bad...

 

[Ms_Delikate]

Alright!!!


By the way, I never was able to date multiple people either until like, last month. I'm talking to a few guys right now... no one is serious yet, there's no sex in any of these situations... I'm just sitting back and watching to see who might emerge from the pack.

It's kinda like dating Royal Rumble. They're all battling right now (although they don't know it), and some are throwing the others out of the ring. New people can enter the ring at any time. Whoever's left in the end wins... ME!

I always love your posts. ALWAYS!!