Odontyouwish
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Ahhhhh, so much drama
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IMO, you didn't do anything wrong.
You weren't wrong to keep seeing other guys since you guys weren't official.
Obviously, you told him about kissing your ex because you wanted to be honest, and it ended up biting you in the ***.
Personally, I would have been done with him after he had his friend hack my Facebook account.
Not only did he not trust you, he also sounds controlling and jealous.
You dodged a bullet. Consider yourself lucky.
IMO, you didn't do anything wrong.
You weren't wrong to keep seeing other guys since you guys weren't official.
Obviously, you told him about kissing your ex because you wanted to be honest, and it ended up biting you in the ***.
Personally, I would have been done with him after he had his friend hack my Facebook account.
Not only did he not trust you, he also sounds controlling and jealous.
You dodged a bullet. Consider yourself lucky.
IMO, you didn't do anything wrong.
You weren't wrong to keep seeing other guys since you guys weren't official.
Obviously, you told him about kissing your ex because you wanted to be honest, and it ended up biting you in the ***.
Personally, I would have been done with him after he had his friend hack my Facebook account.
Not only did he not trust you, he also sounds controlling and jealous.
You dodged a bullet. Consider yourself lucky.
ITA with the bolded, in theory.... my question is, if you're talking to multiple dudes, do you ever let them know that they're not the only one? what happens when you do decide to be serious with one? do you then tell the one you're serious about about the others? or do you just tell the others about the one you're serious with and leave it to them how they want to proceed?
i'm genuinely confused, and if you can't tell already, i've never been in said situation
I've never been in the situation either, because I can barely find one guy to date, let alone 2 or 3.
But I wouldn't necessarily tell them anything unless they asked. If they did, I'd be honest. If I got serious with one, I'd let the other know that we have to end things.
I've been in this game long enough now to know the importance of not putting all your eggs in one basket.
ITA with the bolded, in theory.... my question is, if you're talking to multiple dudes, do you ever let them know that they're not the only one? what happens when you do decide to be serious with one? do you then tell the one you're serious about about the others? or do you just tell the others about the one you're serious with and leave it to them how they want to proceed?
i'm genuinely confused, and if you can't tell already, i've never been in said situation
are we sisters?
so what if you're talkin to a guy and he asks if you're seeing anybody else, but you aren't... then a few days later, you welcome a new prospect into the fold. do you have to tell the first guy that you're now talkin' to another guy?
I don't tell any man about the presence of other men. Until we have both agreed to exclusivity, I am a free agent and owe you nothing. I assume the same of men... this is one reason why I say folks need to wait before jumping in bed when nothing has been established, because you will feel real crunchy if you know you slept with dude and the next night, he's sleeping with someone else. Cause if you're mad about it, you can't say a darn thing because you have no commitment to each other.
Anyway, if there is a commitment to exclusivity, and we become boyfriend and girlfriend, then I will stop dating the other men, BUT what I did (or didn't do) with them beforehand is none of his business.
good ol' bunny, right on time!
that is really good advice.... advice i plan on putting to good use right... about...now!
No you don't.
My answer would be...
"Until I am in an exclusive relationship with someone, I will remain open to dating whomever I'm interested in."
Yeah, I stopped talking to the other guys when we became exclusive. The other guys were just people I was hanging out with...not sexually involved.
I felt that I did lead him in the sense that I didn't tell him that they were my exes and he had to find out via FaceBook hacking. But I WAS NOT seeing them, and they knew about my relationship.
Also, I didn't take Carl seriously at first because I know how college guys are. I think they are all about games....so yeah I kinda was laid back about the fact that I had a bf. But I didn't see other.
One time I did go to a comedy show with my homegirl & one of m exes, but we arrived and left separately...we didn't hug or anything. He was just a guy...never had been with him sexually.
*new news*
I went to the gym to left off some steam. He called and was like "are u seriously in the gym? you don't care about my feelings. im going to give your ticket to my brother"
Hey lady! I agree 100%
I've been burned too many times as a result of keeping only one guy in the rotation.
He called and was like "are u seriously in the gym? you don't care about my feelings. im going to give your ticket to my brother"
Hey lady! I agree 100%
I've been burned too many times as a result of keeping only one guy in the rotation.
Hey hey!
You know, people always told me to date more than one guy, but I could never find more than one! And sometimes, that happens, but in those cases, I think it's best to keep it light for a little bit with the lone prospect so you don't get in too deep, ya know?
Yeah, I stopped talking to the other guys when we became exclusive. The other guys were just people I was hanging out with...not sexually involved.
I felt that I did lead him in the sense that I didn't tell him that they were my exes and he had to find out via FaceBook hacking. But I WAS NOT seeing them, and they knew about my relationship.
Also, I didn't take Carl seriously at first because I know how college guys are. I think they are all about games....so yeah I kinda was laid back about the fact that I had a bf. But I didn't see other.
One time I did go to a comedy show with my homegirl & one of m exes, but we arrived and left separately...we didn't hug or anything. He was just a guy...never had been with him sexually.
*new news*
I went to the gym to left off some steam. He called and was like "are u seriously in the gym? you don't care about my feelings. im going to give your ticket to my brother"