girlonfire
Well-Known Member
So I'm in a monogamous relationship with a guy and have been for 2 months now, lets call him B. When B and I were just talking I was talking to several guys, about 4 or 5. The one I liked the least if even at all, lets call him M. M is like a puppy. He's liked me for years but I wasn't really feeling it. One rainy night he invited me to hang out. I don't even remember how that came to be but basically I was in his car and we were talking. He was talking to me about my relationship status and I said point blank "I'm not trying to get into a relationship with anyone, just trying to chill" and I may have insinuated that I wanted to chill with M, not intentionally, but I did. So he starts divulging his lust for me how I'm so funny I'm so smart, etc. A whole bunch of other irrelevant things. The point is, I felt trapped and I said some things I didn't mean to make him feel good about himself. We end up going back to his house (I could just rant about the condition of his bathroom and bedroom but let's stay on topic) and I basically let him do whatever to my body except penetrate it. Not because I wanted too but I felt bad that I didn't return the same feelings. Crazy I know.
So fastforward maybe 3-4 months, he hit me up tonight (he's hit me up several times in that timespan but that's not the topic) just making conversation. Then he asked if I wanted to hang out (in his language that's a date with the possibility of a repeat of last time) and I threw every excuse in the book at him but made the mistake of saying thanks for asking after it all, too nice. That made him say, no problem, I won't hesitate to ask from now on...great.
Am I a whore for this?
My SO knows about the whole thing and disapproves but IDK what to do.
How can I iron out this situation. My preferred out come would be to put him in the friend-zone.
Edit: at one point I did tell him because of school I probable wont be available 95% of the time and shouldn't hold out for me but I don't think that took.
So fastforward maybe 3-4 months, he hit me up tonight (he's hit me up several times in that timespan but that's not the topic) just making conversation. Then he asked if I wanted to hang out (in his language that's a date with the possibility of a repeat of last time) and I threw every excuse in the book at him but made the mistake of saying thanks for asking after it all, too nice. That made him say, no problem, I won't hesitate to ask from now on...great.
Am I a whore for this?
My SO knows about the whole thing and disapproves but IDK what to do.
How can I iron out this situation. My preferred out come would be to put him in the friend-zone.
Edit: at one point I did tell him because of school I probable wont be available 95% of the time and shouldn't hold out for me but I don't think that took.