After 23 Years Of Dating, He Agreed To Marry Her. Then He Was Diagnosed With Cancer.

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After 23 years of dating, this couple was finally planning their wedding when the groom was diagnosed with cancer. So, a group of nurses planned a bedside wedding in the hospital to make their dreams come true

 

[meka72]

I hope that he beats cancer but I would never date anyone for 23 years.

 

[Ivonnovi]

What stage is the Cancer, and how does he look on p$per? Because, she's got a lot of thinking to do.

I'm not suggesting that she drop him, but she has put in her time. And unless he's rich, or can beat this I'd advise her to consider keeping her options open.

I forget where I read something along the lines of:

"I'll be glad when Black women don't have to {grovel, hustle backwards, deny themselves, put up with crap (a BUNCH of crap} in order to prove their worth [and maybe be wifed-up]. "​

It's not an exact quote but the point is still the same.

 

[Lymegreen]

I felt their joy but at the same time sad that it had to be bitter sweet after all that time.

 

[dancinstallion]

I have nothing nice to say so let me leave.

 

[Theresamonet]

Everyone is all excited like the Supreme Court just granted them the right to marry... They could have been done this.

I’m willing to bet cold hard cash that he was actually diagnosed with cancer and then agreed to marry her. In that order.

 

[TLC1020]

Did he need her medical insurance or something? WTH

I just don't understand being someone girlfriend for that many years..

 

[Mai Tai]

Everyone is all excited like the Supreme Court just granted them the right to marry... They could have been done this.

I’m willing to bet cold hard cash that he was actually diagnosed with cancer and then agreed to marry her. In that order.

See...me and you are >HERE< !!!

The first thing I said was "Oh...he knew about that cancer BEFORE he got married."

 

[Belle Du Jour]

Well, I guess as his wife she'll be entitled to life insurance if he doesn't make it.

I'm looking for the mandatory positive here.

 

[Silkycoils]

Well, I guess as his wife she'll be entitled to life insurance if he doesn't make it.

I'm looking for the mandatory positive here.

Assuming he was smart enough to get it before his diagnosis. Somehow, I doubt it.

 

[Starian]

Yay! Just in time to be his nursemaid and insurance dependent! How "heartwarming."

 

[ClassyJSP]

See I came in here negative, before I even clicked the thread I said to myself "who the dating someone for 23 years."

 

[Gin&Tonic]

In situations like this, I assume the sick person knew something was wrong. Some people get the diagnosis because they feel themselves declining and go seek medical help.

He proposed because he knew it was time to sit down and let a wife take care of him.

 

[caribeandiva]

I’m willing to bet cold hard cash that he was actually diagnosed with cancer and then agreed to marry her. In that order.

That’s what I think too

 

[caribeandiva]

He doesn’t look that excited to be marrying her.

 

[OhTall1]

A family member of an ex dated a woman for 10 years. The woman developed serious health issues, and told dude he needed to marry her because she didn't want to die a single woman. He told her he wasn't getting married again, but he'd step aside if she found someone to marry.

She didn't dump him when he said this. She survived and still didn't dump him. I don't keep in touch, but if they're both still alive, I'm sure they're still dating.

Which story is worse?

 

[oneastrocurlie]

See I came in here negative, before I even clicked the thread I said to myself "who the dating someone for 23 years."

My uncle is still with the only woman I've ever know him to be with since I've been alive and I'm over 30 lol.

 

[LiftedUp]

Maybe they're doing it for legal purposes in case he passes.

 

[yamilee21]

This blogger concurs with many posts in this thread: http://www.arahthequill.com/struggle-love-is-not-a-badge-of-honor/

The only way I can see it making some sense to have a long unmarried relationship is if you are older (past child-bearing age) when you meet, are already divorced from a decade+ marriage, and/or are in a position where keeping your finances and legal affairs separate is beneficial to you (like Oprah)... none of which seem to apply to this sad case.

 

[Ganjababy]

I hope he has good insurance

 

[caribeandiva]

Which story is worse?

 

[meka72]

My friend just sent this to me and it made me think of this thread.

Naw I’m good with my cats.

 

[Belle Du Jour]

View attachment 447473 My friend just sent this to me and it made me think of this thread.

Naw I’m good with my cats.

I legit SCREAMED!