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faithVA
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I have found no word to be suitable 
So I usually just say, This is [First Name]. And let it progress from there. Sometimes if I am talking about him in general conversation to some unknown person I may say boyfriend. I don't know of any I like: boyfriend?, SO?, partner?, man?, friend? guy? I just the easy route of avoidance. 
So I usually just say, This is [First Name]. And let it progress from there. Sometimes if I am talking about him in general conversation to some unknown person I may say boyfriend. I don't know of any I like: boyfriend?, SO?, partner?, man?, friend? guy? I just the easy route of avoidance. 
Tamster
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I would like to say "partner". I haven't yet.. in the past I just introduce the person with their name and people figure it out. i adore when I hear my boss and his friends/colleagues refer to their wives as partners. It always has such a tone of respect and equal footing to it. I like it... a lot.
InchHighPrivateEye
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I was going to say this. For some reason, I can't really verbally say "my boyfriend." IDK why, I just remember when my first boyfriend would call himself that I'd cringe and now I don't like it. The first time I introduced him I didn't know what to say but after I said "my" my mouth didn't want to say boyfriend so I said his name. I happened to look at him and he was smiling so I figured, that works. I'm sure I'd be comfortable saying "my fiance" though
This was in a casual setting. I guess in a more formal setting, I would just say his name.
ETA: I don't have a problem with "boyfriend" because of age--I don't mind appearing immature
It's just weird.
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faithVA
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This reminds me of what old southern women say when they are gettin it in and don't want anyone to know.
melissa-bee
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I would hate for someone to call me their lady friend if we were in a relationship.
I would use the word partner.
That just sounds extra
I would use the word partner.
That just sounds extra
Do_Si_Dos
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i say boyfriend. i feel like partner is something you have to earn... from actually living as partners. i havent been there yet.
i will sometimes say "gentleman caller" if im being funny
ITA. Partner feels like we are actually building a life "together" as opposed to seeing if we fit into each other's life. Interesting.... glad to know I am not alone in that thought process.
UrbainChic
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Partner indicates a long term monogamous same sex relationship where i'm from. Do straight people use partner? My parents have some gay friends that i grew up hearing rhe term "partner" for, and As recently as 6 months ago there was a lot of confusion about someone using the term partner for someone accompanying us on a trip, because everyone in the group had expected a same sex couple and were thrown off at the partner showing up and being a different gender.
My friend has an aunt in her late 60s who has a boyfriend in his 70s and she refers to him as her companion which i think is a nice way to put a mature spin on the relationship, without any confusion on the nature of relationship, or the heterosexual orientation.
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My friend has an aunt in her late 60s who has a boyfriend in his 70s and she refers to him as her companion which i think is a nice way to put a mature spin on the relationship, without any confusion on the nature of relationship, or the heterosexual orientation.
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Incognitus
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Oh, I would hate for a man to refer to me as their lady friend. It just seems like I'm just a sex partner. And if I am just a mere sex partner, then I don't want anyone else privy to that.
This reminds me of what old southern women say when they are gettin it in and don't want anyone to know.
EXACTLY. It's a polite way of saying we're just sleeping together...lol.
I would hate for someone to call me their lady friend if we were in a relationship.
I would use the word partner.
That just sounds extra
Ditto.
JFemme
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this made me snort...
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Yes, that reminds me of Blanche from GG, she had many "Gentleman Callers".This reminds me of what old southern women say when they are gettin it in and don't want anyone to know.
I just say, this is _____. I am too grown for BF talk. When I hear "Partner" my mind always goes to homosexual couples.
firecracker
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It depends on my mood, place and people. Hell sometimes I say this is the stranger I picked up on the way here whatchoname is?
*CherryPie*
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I just say boyfriend. All of that other stuff sounds ridiculous to me.
LaidBak
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Glad I'm not the only one who has trouble calling a man over forty a boyfriend! I prefer to introduce him as "my best friend" to coworkers/strangers. Our body language makes the boyfriend/girlfriend thing obvious. If you're one of my close girlfriends I'll refer to him as "my sweetie".
LilMissRed
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Im married now but as I recall.. when I intro'd him I usually just said " this is (his name)' and left it at that. If whomever I intro'd him to knew 'me' then they knew 'what' he was to me.. otherwise it wasnt anyones business.. hes just (his name)
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