Abstinence Challenge 365, 24-7

You don't know how much this post moved me. Thank you for sharing this and encouraging those of us who are waiting until marriage and go through rough spots. :kiss:


smartandblessed said:
I totally agree with waiting and I have the testimony to prove it. I was a virgin when I dated my last boyfriend. We dated for three years and never had sex. Sure times sometimes got tought but we both held on to God. I hear that sex clouds judgement. Without sex, we were able to get to know each other without the physical attachment. We had a spiritual and mental connection. We talked a lot about everything including God and his plan for our lives. We are both saved and we wanted to please God. I think it really helps if both partners are saved. He was willing to wait for me and he did the right thing and proposed. Boy was it a huge rock! I think the fact that we waited attributed to that. I really wanted a big wedding. The Lord smile upon us by keeping his covenant and he blessed us to have a HUGE wedding and we didn't owe ANYBODY after it was over!!! My wedding night was awesome. The first time that I ever made love was with my husband. The man that I married! It was so beautiful I cried! I am so happy that I waited. Now, I can tell everyone including my children (SOMEDAY) that it pays to wait for that someone special and my husband is truly someone special! Not many guys would wait over 3 years! Sure, it was difficult for him since he was experienced before he met me but he was up for the challenge. I love him with all my heart!!! Remember, nothing is impossible to him that believeth. As you go through this time of abstinence remember Phillippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ that strenghtheneth me!
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Hello ladies :D

I'm definitely joining this challenge.
This is truly a blessing to have this forum available
to encourage and uplift each other up in prayer.I am truly looking
forward to getting to know you all.


God Bless
 
Can ya'll pray for me? I need some scripture cause I really want to be celibate.:look:
 
sugaplum said:
[size=+1]�Challenge for Christian Single Ladies�[/size]

This challenge is to encourage my sisters to stay celibate & live for God. I feel that we as Christian women, we should respect our bodies and hold it sacred. Sex is a special gift that should be shared in marriage and it should not be dragged in the mud (like pornagraphy, videos, etc.). The Christian is called to live a life of unselfish love. Abstinence should always seek to glorify God and buildup fellow believers in the faith.

The Rules are:

1) No late night dates when initially meeting someone-especially if you are not a strong christian yet. No clubbing and no living together.

1 Thessalonians 5:22-23 - Abstain from all appearance of evil. And the very God of peace sanctify you wholly; and I pray God your whole spirit and soul and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.

2) No type of sexual contact (having sex, impure thoughts, oral sex, masturbation, etc.) and no sexual immorality.

Colossians 3:5 - Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: fornication, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.

Ephesians 5:5 - Be sure of this, that no fornicator or impure man, or one who is covetous (that is, an idolater), has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.

The Apostle Paul was never married. He followed Christ and used God�s teachings. Apostle Paul said, �The Believers body is the temple of the Holy Spirit and should not be polluted by unclean things.�

1 Corinthians 6 19-20 - Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, which you have from God? You are not your own; you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

Paul also exhorted the church of Thessalonians to �abstain from sexual immorality.�

1 Thessalonians 4:3-For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from fornication;

Holy Spirit Check---Also your Holy Spirit will let you know when you are not doing God's Will. :yep:

FINAL NOTE-The only reason for breaking this challenge----
[size=+2]IS IF YOU GET MARRIED!![/size]:dinner:

Genesis 2:23-24 - Then the man said, "This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man."Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh.

:angel:I will pray for all of you that this challenge will make you stronger in your faith, closer to God, following Jesus's path, and I rebuke anyone and anything that will try and stop you from getting the Prize.

God Bless you ladies. :rosebud:
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Not to seem rude but isn't all of this "celibacy" and not abstinece? Maybe I am wrong.:perplexed
 
snugglez41685 said:
Not to seem rude but isn't all of this "celibacy" and not abstinece? Maybe I am wrong.:perplexed
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I don't think that this was a rude question at all, as a matter of fact I think that it is very good one. When I read your post I got to thinking about it for myself and I decided to look them up and appears to me that both the words mean roughly the same thing.

Taken from the merriam-webster dictionary online I read:

Celibacy

Main Entry: cel·i·ba·cy
Pronunciation: 'se-l&-b&-sE
Function: noun
1 : the state of not being married
2 a : abstention from sexual intercourse b : abstention by vow from marriage




Abstinence

Main Entry: ab·sti·nence
Pronunciation: 'ab-st&-n&n(t)s
Function: noun
Etymology: Middle English, from Anglo-French, from Latin abstinentia, from abstinent-, abstinens, present participle of abstinEre
1 : voluntary forbearance especially from indulgence of an appetite or craving or from eating some foods
2 a : habitual abstaining from intoxicating beverages b : abstention from sexual intercourse
- ab·sti·nent /-n&nt/ adjective
- ab·sti·nent·ly adverb

From what I gather between the two of these definitions is that Celebacy means abstention from sexual intercourse and to abstain means not indulging in.

When I read the first initial post written by Sugaplum it appears that she means both abstinance and celibacy (from sex) and that this thread was intended just for that purpose only. But this is just the way that I have percieved it to be others may disagree.

But anywho, we'd love to have you join in with us on this special challange and I pray that will consider doing so. It has brought me closer to God and has recall made me access myself or a much broader scale. :)
 
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I am Down for the Challenge. My Boyfriend and I have been together for four years now, and it has definately been a struggle...Recently I listened to some R&B Music, and it got me started, So I am trying my best to stay away from as many things as possible that will stirr up images in my head.

I definately want to live for God and Him alone and show him that I humble myself before him and do not live according to my flesh!
 
I'm in as well. This is an awesome challenge, we try hard for hair challenges so let's put in the same effort to please God!
 
Thanks for sharing! I am glad to know this can be done. I have been dating someone for a little over 2 years and I also am a virgin while my SO is experienced. He has been waiting and I can't wait for the day I can tell your testimony as my own!

smartandblessed said:
I totally agree with waiting and I have the testimony to prove it. I was a virgin when I dated my last boyfriend. We dated for three years and never had sex. Sure times sometimes got tought but we both held on to God. I hear that sex clouds judgement. Without sex, we were able to get to know each other without the physical attachment. We had a spiritual and mental connection. We talked a lot about everything including God and his plan for our lives. We are both saved and we wanted to please God. I think it really helps if both partners are saved. He was willing to wait for me and he did the right thing and proposed. Boy was it a huge rock! I think the fact that we waited attributed to that. I really wanted a big wedding. The Lord smile upon us by keeping his covenant and he blessed us to have a HUGE wedding and we didn't owe ANYBODY after it was over!!! My wedding night was awesome. The first time that I ever made love was with my husband. The man that I married! It was so beautiful I cried! I am so happy that I waited. Now, I can tell everyone including my children (SOMEDAY) that it pays to wait for that someone special and my husband is truly someone special! Not many guys would wait over 3 years! Sure, it was difficult for him since he was experienced before he met me but he was up for the challenge. I love him with all my heart!!! Remember, nothing is impossible to him that believeth. As you go through this time of abstinence remember Phillippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ that strenghtheneth me!
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Add me to the challenge too! I was just saying last night "I wish there was a celibacy support group I could join". I should have known ya'll were on top of it. :D
 
I think I joined this a while ago but not sure, but hopping back on!

Life is about choices, Ichose not to put any man above God, I'd like to walk down the aisle knowing that I'm pure .
To ladies who wonder if it can be done, I've had several friends and family members who have, and they felt right on their wedding night.
 
I also believe in saving sex for marriage personally and also because God stresses that. More to protect us rather than to stop us from having a good time.

The temptation is hard at times, but I have self-control. (Which is one of the fruits of the spirit... Galatians 5:22-23. I also struggle with impure thoughts. Like someone mention on an earlier post. I also choose to honor God with my body, mind and soul.

Thanks for this Challenge and God bless you all!

*Preciouzone
 
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Hey ladies, I pray everyone is doing ok, and want to encourage you to trust God to see you through, that God touches the hearts of those with boyfriends and fiances. I also want to encourage those who are single to not be afraid to pray and claim their husbands in Jesus' name, do not be afraid to ask God for that life partner. I am in a new relationship, and I know it was blessed by God because of how it all came about, and every day I ask God for His spiritual wisdom be revealed to both of us so that we may walk right and make this special to Him. Do not be afraid to talk to your men about celibacy, a man who acknowledges you as a gift from God even if He has been swayed by the ways of the world, will be further strengthened by your principles. If God has made it perfect for you by giving you this person, then why mess it up, let Him be able to look at you and smile.
It is important to realize your position in God, I've been blessed way too abundantly by God for me to not do this for Him. I want to be pleasing in His sight, so I do this for Him and not for myself, if your partner is a man of God, He will honor and respect this. Do not be yoked with unbelievers, this holds true especially with this.
God is able to do exceeding and immeasurably more than we can ever Hope and imagine. Not only is He going to provide you with one He has prepared for you, but He's going to be attractive, lovely, respectful, and treasure and worship you and your temple.
Believe that and understand your faith in God works!
 
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Naijaqueen said:
Hey ladies, I pray everyone is doing ok, and want to encourage you to trust God to see you through, that God touches the hearts of those with boyfriends and fiances. I also want to encourage those who are single to not be afraid to pray and claim their husbands in Jesus' name, do not be afraid to ask God for that life partner. I am in a new relationship, and I know it was blessed by God because of how it all came about, and every day I ask God for His spiritual wisdom be revealed to both of us so that we may walk right and make this special to Him. Do not be afraid to talk to your men about celibacy, a man who acknowledges you as a gift from God even if He has been swayed by the ways of the world, will be further strengthened by your principles. If God has made it perfect for you by giving you this person, then why mess it up, let Him be able to look at you and smile.
It is important to realize your position in God, I've been blessed way too abundantly in God for me to not do this for Him. I want to be pleasing in His sight, so I do this for Him, if your partner is a man of God, He will honor and respect this. Do not be yoked with unbelievers, this holds true especially with this.
God is able to do exceeding and immeasurably more than we can ever Hope and imagine. Not only is He going to provide you with one He has prepared for you, but He's going to be attractive, lovely, respect, treasure and worship you and your temple.
Believe that and understand your faith in God works!
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Thank you, I needed this.:)
 
Wonderful. Thank you.

I am still here doing well :)
Naijaqueen said:
Hey ladies, I pray everyone is doing ok, and want to encourage you to trust God to see you through, that God touches the hearts of those with boyfriends and fiances. I also want to encourage those who are single to not be afraid to pray and claim their husbands in Jesus' name, do not be afraid to ask God for that life partner. I am in a new relationship, and I know it was blessed by God because of how it all came about, and every day I ask God for His spiritual wisdom be revealed to both of us so that we may walk right and make this special to Him. Do not be afraid to talk to your men about celibacy, a man who acknowledges you as a gift from God even if He has been swayed by the ways of the world, will be further strengthened by your principles. If God has made it perfect for you by giving you this person, then why mess it up, let Him be able to look at you and smile.
It is important to realize your position in God, I've been blessed way too abundantly by God for me to not do this for Him. I want to be pleasing in His sight, so I do this for Him and not for myself, if your partner is a man of God, He will honor and respect this. Do not be yoked with unbelievers, this holds true especially with this.
God is able to do exceeding and immeasurably more than we can ever Hope and imagine. Not only is He going to provide you with one He has prepared for you, but He's going to be attractive, lovely, respectful, and treasure and worship you and your temple.
Believe that and understand your faith in God works!
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sugaplum said:
[SIZE=+1]?Challenge for Christian Single Ladies?[/SIZE]

This challenge is to encourage my sisters to stay celibate & live for God. I feel that we as Christian women, we should respect our bodies and hold it sacred. Sex is a special gift that should be shared in marriage and it should not be dragged in the mud (like pornagraphy, videos, etc.). The Christian is called to live a life of unselfish love. Abstinence should always seek to glorify God and buildup fellow believers in the faith.

The Rules are:

1) No late night dates when initially meeting someone-especially if you are not a strong christian yet. No clubbing and no living together.

1 Thessalonians 5:22-23 - Abstain from all appearance of evil. And the very God of peace sanctify you wholly; and I pray God your whole spirit and soul and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.

2) No type of sexual contact (having sex, impure thoughts, oral sex, masturbation, etc.) and no sexual immorality.

Colossians 3:5 - Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: fornication, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.

Ephesians 5:5 - Be sure of this, that no fornicator or impure man, or one who is covetous (that is, an idolater), has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.

The Apostle Paul was never married. He followed Christ and used God?s teachings. Apostle Paul said, ?The Believers body is the temple of the Holy Spirit and should not be polluted by unclean things.?

1 Corinthians 6 19-20 - Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, which you have from God? You are not your own; you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

Paul also exhorted the church of Thessalonians to ?abstain from sexual immorality.?

1 Thessalonians 4:3-For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from fornication;

Holy Spirit Check---Also your Holy Spirit will let you know when you are not doing God's Will. :yep:

FINAL NOTE-The only reason for breaking this challenge----
[SIZE=+2]IS IF YOU GET MARRIED!![/SIZE]:dinner:

Genesis 2:23-24 - Then the man said, "This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man."Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh.

:angel:I will pray for all of you that this challenge will make you stronger in your faith, closer to God, following Jesus's path, and I rebuke anyone and anything that will try and stop you from getting the Prize.

God Bless you ladies. :rosebud:
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I'm in, it has already been 1yr 2month and a few days....I am still struggling with the impure thought though!!!
 
Can I join in on this challenge? I need this challenge and the prayer of praying women. I have read a lot of the posting before I decided to post, and all have been encouraging and what I needed to hear. I'm waiting for my lifetime partner, and leaving all that foolishness behind.
 
Naijaqueen said:
Hey ladies, I pray everyone is doing ok, and want to encourage you to trust God to see you through, that God touches the hearts of those with boyfriends and fiances. I also want to encourage those who are single to not be afraid to pray and claim their husbands in Jesus' name, do not be afraid to ask God for that life partner. I am in a new relationship, and I know it was blessed by God because of how it all came about, and every day I ask God for His spiritual wisdom be revealed to both of us so that we may walk right and make this special to Him. Do not be afraid to talk to your men about celibacy, a man who acknowledges you as a gift from God even if He has been swayed by the ways of the world, will be further strengthened by your principles. If God has made it perfect for you by giving you this person, then why mess it up, let Him be able to look at you and smile.
It is important to realize your position in God, I've been blessed way too abundantly by God for me to not do this for Him. I want to be pleasing in His sight, so I do this for Him and not for myself, if your partner is a man of God, He will honor and respect this. Do not be yoked with unbelievers, this holds true especially with this.
God is able to do exceeding and immeasurably more than we can ever Hope and imagine. Not only is He going to provide you with one He has prepared for you, but He's going to be attractive, lovely, respectful, and treasure and worship you and your temple.
Believe that and understand your faith in God works!
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THANK YOU.
 
Naiema1 said:
Can I join in on this challenge? I need this challenge and the prayer of praying women. I have read a lot of the posting before I decided to post, and all have been encouraging and what I needed to hear. I'm waiting for my lifetime partner, and leaving all that foolishness behind.
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Of course you can join! :)
 
I recently gave my life to God, and I'm in total submission to his perfect will for me. I would like to join this challenge. I'm in a relationship where me and my BF were having premarital sex. I told him my decision to practice abstinence. He's shocked, confused, and frustrated. Let's just say this will definitely be a challenge. I'm just going to keep in mind that I want to please God before I please my boyfriend. Please keep me in your prayers!
 
I'm re-committing to this challenge. Nothing goes the right way when I try to do things my way and not the way God designed...I believe I'm worth the wait, and anybody who's worth being with me should be able to respect that.
 
I would like to encourage everyone who has already commited to this challenge. I am not sure if I am ready to join yet. I haven't had sex in a long time, but I haven't officially said I was abstaining for it either. I have been thinking and praying about it. I am currently single and have never officially had a boyfriend just a "friend." But from that experience I can really see the true benefits in seperating sex from non-married relationships, I think sex can sometimes cloud our vision of the other person. Pray for me that I find my way through this and hopefully I will be back soon joining you ladies in the challege. Be blessed.:yep:
 
Finally joining this challenge. I must admit it's long overdue. It's been about 6 wks, I think. It's not easy, but with God all things are possible, even me being celibate. :grin:
 
Glad to see you ladies are hanging in there. Now, I will just continue to "Seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these other things will be added unto you."

So, that means my future hubby and much more.:yep:
 
Hi Ladies,

I joined this challenge a while ago and have been struggling alot. It seems like every since I became apart of this challenge, I fallen more than ever before. I feel like such a failure in HIM. I know this is how the enemy wants me to feel but I will not let him win. So as of right now, I AM TOTALLY COMMITTED TO ABSTAINING.

Please keep me in your prayers!
 
I'm in for this challenge. The more I get close to God the more I want to please him. I don't think a true relationship will last if it's based primarly on sex. If you can't communicate afterwards than it can only last so long.

I feel that I moving closer to marriage and God is just showing me how to keep my focus.
 
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