Food for Thought: It is possible to kiss without going all the way. I've done it many times in the past without going all the way. BUT, what does kissing cause to happen in your thoughts? Kissing can and usually will make you think of MORE even if you do not do MORE. (MORE=sex) Whether it's you fantasizing or the thought pops into your head because of the passion of the kiss, your thoughts do wander. This is not to say that these thoughts don't come to those who choose to refrain from kissing, but it's less.
To the lady that said (paraphrasing)it's hard enough to find someone that will be with you without having sex. It would probably be difficult to find someone that will be with you without kissing.
TAKE NOTE: The RIGHT man will have no problem or complaint with either of these whatsoever if these are the choices you've made. He will respect them and I will go to the extreme and say that the RIGHT man will have the same values.
When I became celibate, I would think to myself that I hope that when I get into a relationship, he will tolerate my celibacy. Little did I realize that I should not be with someone who would "tolerate" it, but someone who had the same values. My fiancee and I were on the same page with this when we got together almost 6 years ago. We were young then, but we had this area down pretty good! I also appreciate the fact that we waited on one another through our relationship. It was tempting to rush into marriage, because of hormones. (relating to another thread) But our waiting shows our desire for one another outside of the physical. If you meet a guy and you are celibate and he seems to be wanting to rush into marriage--RED FLAG! It is respectable to want to marry before sex, but there is a fine line--you want to make sure that someone isn't tying the knot with you just for your goodies.
EXAMPLE:
One of my pedicurists--very cute sista, about 21 years old, Christian celibate was marrying an older man about this time last year. In fact, she was doing my feet on her wedding day a few hours before the wedding! Anyway, do you know that 3 weeks later, this fool told her that he'd only married her to have sex with her and that he wanted a divorce!