30 year old man. Never been in a relationship

[blasianbeauty]

IDK it depends on the person. Maybe he is just career focused and or he just one of those types who are loners.

I agree with the bolded. If he's career focused (whether it be his own business or a full time college student for numerous years) then he very well may never had a relationship. Now, if he said he doesn't have any sex partners, FWBs, etc. then that's a different story.

 

[aribell]

About a year ago, I too dated a 37 yr old guy who only had one gf. I don't even think she was really his gf because now he tells everyone that I'm his ex, even though we only went out on 5 dates before I told him things were not working out. I too didn't have the patience to teach him how to be on dates, let alone in a relationship. There were so many things wrong right from the start. He is awkward, has little social skills and is very clueless.

But his real problem was his personality: he lacks charm. He has so many issues and also lacks self confidence. Plus he is sooo cheap and very set in his ways! When I found that he only had one relationship before that lasted only a few weeks, everything made sense!

Everyone was on my case about not giving him a chance, but I really did. Now I have to add to my ever growing lists of must-haves in my future husband 'prior relationship experience'

Ok, I just came out of a realtionship with a guy who at 34 never had a girlfriend. He may have hung out and whatever but nothing significant. He is very shy and does not have a comfort level to talk to a girl. Him and I were friends first and thats how it happened and I initiated it really.

Maybe the bolded in these particular situations suggest that these men hadn't been in relationships because of their lack of emotional/social skills, but not necessarily that not having been in a relationship was the cause of their awkwardness.

 

[Belle Du Jour]

I agree with the comments about it being more common than people might realize. However, I tend to think of men as initiators of relationships. So even though it may sound like a double standard, I think it's a little different if a guy has never been in a relationship at 30 versus a woman. Men should be the initiators of a relationship and although I know that some men are shy, I've always known men to go after what they want, even if it's in a covert way.

That being said, it's one thing to have never been in a LTR. But, it's another if he has never dated period or has never expressed interest in a woman. I wouldn't necessarily write him off based on that, but just be more aware.