30 year old man. Never been in a relationship

"Why the hell not?"

- That's the first thing that came to mind. I want want to know, before trying to rationalize that.
(cause I can't)
 
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There is something wrong with him. That's the first thing that would come to my mind.
 
A 30 year old man that has never been in a relationship sends my "GAY-dar" into OVERDRIVE.

I have a male cousin who's ~30 and has never been serious about a girl and another cousin who's ~25 and is a virgin...
 
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I dont see why it is so hard to fathom... That doesn't imply that he hasn't sealed the deal if ya know what I mean...

There are numerous women, heck even on this board that have never been in a LTR, so... :perplexed... not to hard to imagine, plus 30 is relatively young to me...
 
^As someone who is 24 and only had like one significant rlp, I understand.

I just wanted to know what LHCFers thoughts were.

And they (yes two people) have sealed the deal.
 
I wouldn't judge them harshly based on that alone, but I would look for other signs.

If he were 40, it would be a different thing.
 
I understand... I hope I didnt come off harsh... I am starting to feel like the wicked witch on board... Lol...:grin:

locabouthair said:
^As someone who is 24 and only had like one significant rlp, I understand.

I just wanted to know what LHCFers thoughts were.

And they (yes two people) have sealed the deal.
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I would say RUN.:blush: A man at 30 that never been in a relationship(at least 6 months), does not know how to be in a relationship, does not know how to keep one, and probably is afraid to be in one.:nono: Becareful pursuing someone like that because they are bound to break your hurt.
 
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my first honest thought.....he's really ugly. But thats just an initial response. I dont think 30 is too old to never have been in a relationship. im 24 and only had 1 serious so who am i to judge. I would luv to hear his story as to why tho.
 
Unless he has specifically said that he has never went out on dates, chilled with, kicked it with, spent time with, had sex with women (or men), I wouldn't believe him.

Maybe he meant that he's never been in an exclusive relationship with titles and boundaries? I'd ask for clarification, lol.
 
That depends on what you mean by "relationship"... DH didn't have his first LTR until he was 34 and started dating me (this was also my first LTR and I was 25). DH has a low tolerance for foolishness and wasn't about to waste months (nevermind YEARS) of his life with a woman with whom he was not compatible. Now, if you're talking about dating period, I'd assume there was a reason (i.e. religious beliefs, awkwardness with women, committment issues) and would ask him about it.
 
I'd automatically think of him being a big baby and all the relationship training he'd need :ohwell:

And I'm not sure if I'd look at him as a serious prospect.
 
AnjelLuvsUBabe said:
So what is the reaction to women that never been in a LTR...
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Lol. :yep: We're >>>here<<<


Honestly, I know it happens with men and women- so I don't look at it differently for either. I would make sure he's not a committment phobe - this is the sort of thing you do not want to take on (unless the person is actively working on resolving those issues- read:therapy). That's a real psychological issue- for both men and women :look:.
 
Women who have never been in a LTR are saving it for marriage, obviously. Men, on the other hand, are freaks of nature and should be shunned to insure that they never have a LTR. :lachen:

Seriously, I wouldn't think anything. I'd ask him why not, and start thinking things based on his answer.
 
AnjelLuvsUBabe said:
So what is the reaction to women that never been in a LTR...
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^^^about the same

I was explaining to someone the other day that while I've had little relationships here and there before, this is probably the first one that I'm actually trying to grow in. And there were/are tantrums and learning along the way. I'm also an only child too, so I know I'm a spoiled big baby anyway.
 
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It may bean something and it may not. There are plenty of women who are 30 and has not been in relationship.

Find out the reason. Don't jump to conclusion
 
I would see nothing wrong with it, but that is because men and women see relationships differently. That's the point we as women don't get. You can be with a man 4 days out of the week, go on trips, spend holidays together and he still might think you are "friends" or say he's not ready for a relationship. I've seen it first hand. Heck, he prolly had a girl 4 years who thought she was his girlfriend and he thought they were just "kicking it".

I would ask some more questions but not necessarily jump to him being gay. I'm sure homeboy has a jumpoff or sideline chick meeting his needs :lol:
 
It depends on what his definition of relationship is. He may have dated various girls/women for 3 to 6 months at a time but never been beyond 6 months with anyone. So to him, that would not be a relationship. If he had said he had never even been out with a woman, then I would give it the :rolleyes:.
 
If I didn't see him I would think he is extremely ugly and or extremely overweight.

I would think that was weird. Even if you are considered unattractive by the masses as long as you are a good emotionally and mentally stable person you should be able to have atleast one relationship in that 30 year span.
 
AnjelLuvsUBabe said:
I dont see why it is so hard to fathom... That doesn't imply that he hasn't sealed the deal if ya know what I mean...

There are numerous women, heck even on this board that have never been in a LTR, so... :perplexed... not to hard to imagine, plus 30 is relatively young to me...
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I'm one of them - I'm 36 and never a relationship. So please don't judge this guy without getting to know him first. Still, I can understand the thought "something must be wrong with him." Heck, I say it to myself! :ohwell:
 
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