As I sit here asking the Lord to help me get through this wilderness in my life, I begin reading scripture and he spoke to me immediately.
Luke 6:46-49 Parable of the Two Foundations
46 “But why do you call Me ‘Lord, Lord,’ and not do the things which I say? 47 Whoever comes to Me, and hears My sayings and does them, I will show you whom he is like: 48 He is like a man building a house, who dug deep and laid the foundation on the rock. And when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently against that house, and could not shake it, for it was founded on the rock. 49 But he who heard and did nothing is like a man who built a house on the earth without a foundation, against which the stream beat vehemently; and immediately it fell. And the ruin of that house was great.”
He is preparing me for the future I desire. He is digging my roots deep and laying a solid foundation for me. This is just a test. This is a time for me to be strengthen and steadied. So when I begin to build my house, and the enemy comes, I will stand. But the one who did not build on a solid foundation, his house will fall the moment things get hard and the fall will be great.
This is why it's so important to be spiritually grounded before you get involved in any relationship or get married. You can not start building a house and then ask God to bless it. He will not and Im sure most of us have experienced this. The scripture is clear....you didn't build your foundation on a rock, you didn't take the time to dig deep enough, you didn't include Him in the process from the beginning.
When the trouble comes, the house will fall and its near impossible to fix a sinking house while the storm. You'll be too tired, desperate, searching for anything to help, and impatient to a fault.
So the only way to save the house is to destroy it (Often times you don't have to do anything, house is already been destroyed), dig deeper (in Him), then rebuild the house (he will supply all the materials you need when you've dug deep enough).