Grow Long Hair for Others to Envy

[SmartyPants]

I want long hair strictly for me. My maternal grandmother was part Native American. My mother, aunt, and cousins got their hair (and skin color) from her side of the family. I got my hair from my dad's side of the family. When I was a kid, all of them had nice long flowing hair. I never did. The teacher's at our school even treated them better because they were light-skinned with good hair (I grew up in New Orleans--ya'll have no idea). The longest my hair ever got was a little past shoulder length my senior year of college.

I want hair down to my waist just to demonstrate that you don't have to have "good hair" to have long hair. No revenge involved.

 

[kbfluff]

Humm...Never thought of it that way.
As for me, I'm growing it out to make my life and getting prepared/dressed for the day easier.

 

[freshlikemoi]

Thats a major part of it. But I do it for myself, which subsequently is for others to say, "oh it's so pretty"

 

[kbfluff]

All I am saying is that CAN be considered shallow. We could discuss it for days. My point is where do we draw the line and who's decision is it on where that line is drawn? For some women hair is not a priority, most of my female friends think it's odd I am on a hairboard. I wouldn't be on here if I didn't think it was beneficial to me, but I can't expect anyone else to have that same opinion.

Yeah I agree with the bolded.
Folks usually find out I'm on a hair growth journey via the foods that I eat.
My co-workers would wonder why I come back from lunch break with a Vitamin Shoppe bag, and wonder why I would eat Garden salads w/ tuna like everyday and munch on Met Rx protien bars.
I also have to say that I was blessed with genetics that allow me to stay slim but curvy, so they wondered what the hell am I doing.
So I confessed that I am growing my hair out.
They asked how long did I want it since they thought it was long already. (real life .vs. LHCF standards)
I was afraid to share, but I put my hand under my breasts...of course I was lieing about my goal...if i had told them tailbone, they would have flipped and officially labeled me crazy!
Even my husband thought I was crazy for being on an actual on-line forum for hair growth. However, after I permed my hair and he has seen the results, he hasn't commented on how crazy it is to him anymore.

Welp, all I can say to that discussion is, that people will envy you or hate on you anytime u go against the grain. They will also hate if you think that you can break bounderies. Of course, it's sometimes intriguing to be envied just alittle, it's when your sole purpose to get those results poses a problem with that individuals mind set.
No one's perfect, and no two people are alike...that's why I LOVE THIS FORUM, because we can all be truthful and speak from our hearts...but we all know that it is for the greater good of longer stronger more beautiful hair!!

 

[schipperchow1]

Honestly, no. I am growing my hair for me and no one else. For me it is a form of self-love and self-nurturing.

 

[miss Congeniality]

I am just growing my hair for me. If I don't get one complement I will be okay because my hair is just for me.

 

[Leslie_C]

Nope, I dont have anyone to impress other than myself and my SO. Growing one hair is just reaching another goal/making an accomplishment just like losing weight, putting more effort into my appearance (i.e. makeup, clothing, accessories),etc,etc. Its just something that makes me feel good about myself.

 

[glamazon386]

No.... At first it started out as me just trying to get it healthy and back to where it used to be after some bouts with damage. Now that I'm natural, taking care of my hair has become a bit of a hobby for me. Also, I like that it adds some else to me that is unique.

 

[shawniegee]

I want long hair strictly for me. My maternal grandmother was part Native American. My mother, aunt, and cousins got their hair (and skin color) from her side of the family. I got my hair from my dad's side of the family. When I was a kid, all of them had nice long flowing hair. I never did. The teacher's at our school even treated them better because they were light-skinned with good hair (I grew up in New Orleans--ya'll have no idea). The longest my hair ever got was a little past shoulder length my senior year of college.

I want hair down to my waist just to demonstrate that you don't have to have "good hair" to have long hair. No revenge involved.

I agree with the bolded part wholeheartedly. I wish I could do something to help young black girls whose self esteem is effected by this.

 

[OneInAMillion]

Not for envy at all! It's just a confidence thing. I wouldn't want to bring on envy because I don't want to draw attention, but I like that long hair adds something special, and gives me that little boost.

 

[esoterica]

I think most women grow their hair for themselves. If others choose to envy it (rather than educate themselves and get their own), then fine. Some women have never heard a good word uttered about their hair. It was either too short, too nappy, you name it. So yeah, for some other members it might be partially about proving those disbelievers wrong. Nothing wrong with that.

 

[Poetrygirl]

When I tell people that I am a part of a hair board they look at me and think it is odd. Some people have also told me that it was vain and self conscious which is why I put the statement in my last post. I am not growing my hair for others. I want long hair because after wearing long weaves I would like to see my hair be that long and healthy.

 

[SilentRuby]

No offense to everyone that said they are growing there hair for others to envy...but ladies just think about how shallow that is! Think about thise little girls and women out in the world that has lost there hair due to cancer or other illnesses, fires, drugs, etc...would you like for them to look at your hair and feel beneath you or less than a woman because that can not grow hair? Another thing, don't you think that is what is wrong with so many women today...TOO MANY OF US ARE TRYING TO COMPETE. Instead of lifting each other up, we silently tear each other down....Ladies plaese grow up...life is more than hair...

I was thinking the same thing. Also jealousy/envy can be a dangerous thing in any situation. Ever heard of someone putting a chemical in someone's hair product, someone cutting a baby out of someone's stomach because they couldn't have their own, or someone just destroying someone's property. (I know it sounds a little extreme, but it could happen) No envy for me , just admiration.

ITA with this and your previous post! I think we all want LONG hair! I don't think that anyone here sought out this site simply b/c we want chicks we don't even know to envy us! It comes with the territory! Some ladies here hair never grew past their shoulders and now they're WSL - TRUST ME I don't think they did it all to be ENVIED!

Please do not think that there aren't any narrow-minded girls/women that have, though. Not necessarily speaking for this site, but I see it all the time IRL. I feel like this, when you know you have it, you don't have to flaunt it. Just do you! The rest will come, just as the other ladies have stated.

 

[HoneyA]

I never thought about growing my hair long for others to envy. I just really wanted to stop wearing fake hair and have my own long tresses. I will accept compliments though and give info when requested...black women need to know long hair that is real is possible...

 

[Saida]

No offense to everyone that said they are growing there hair for others to envy...but ladies just think about how shallow that is! Think about thise little girls and women out in the world that has lost there hair due to cancer or other illnesses, fires, drugs, etc...would you like for them to look at your hair and feel beneath you or less than a woman because that can not grow hair? Another thing, don't you think that is what is wrong with so many women today...TOO MANY OF US ARE TRYING TO COMPETE. Instead of lifting each other up, we silently tear each other down....Ladies plaese grow up...life is more than hair...

Couldnt have said it better

 

[winterinatl]

Is that part of your reason?
Honestly

Naw.

It's so men can fantasize about me letting my bun down, or so they can wallow in it in other ways (and they do ).

 

[Evazhair]

No. I never have been the type of person to care what people thought about me since elementary school, so to want someone to be envious of me would mean that I had issues, imo. Not me at all. To me envy is someone wanting what someone else has and being insecure because of it. I was taught to go after what you want, vs. dwell on what somebody else is/has. Being the object of envy is not a good thing, IMO. I know people who have been killed out of envy.

 

[Energist]

I grow my hair to prove to myself that I can and just really out of my own personal curiosity... like I have a mental image I want to see if I can fulfill!

Also, I think it is dangerous to want others to be envious, because that energy will most definitely come across, and then will come the unwanted bad karma to your life from whatever situations arise from that envious/hate on someone elses part! Sort of like "well you asked for it, so here it is" and then bam... some hairdresser damages your hair, or someone starts a fight with you to pull it out

Even in this early stage of mine, I am becoming paranoid as it is whenever I go out to the dark movies and sit in front of someone who may decide to either put gum in it or cut it out of spite. I usually wear it in a protective style whenever I go now just incase These are new fears, but as it grows so does my fear of crazy things like that. I always think back to my friends experience with girls trying to sneak and burn her long hair off at a party because it was long... much longer than mine too. I just want to be happy and help others if they are open to it, not them hating on me for something that they can too have with patience and effort.

 

[Evazhair]

Do people really think like that? That has never crossed my mind.erplexed

My sentiments exactly. Wow.

 

[Dee-Licious]

Naw.

It's so men can fantasize about me letting my bun down, or so they can wallow in it in other ways (and they do ).

I love it!!!

 

[tricie]

Fluffylocks said:

....I think i will enjoy being a full black dark-skinned women with long hair and to surprise people and dispell the little myths that we cant grow our hair, but i do not at all want to start feeling special about myself because of it and flaunting it and hoping others will envy in a jeoulus type way...

Well put, fluffy!

I also have always wanted to have long(er) hair; I used to wear my mom's latch hooking yarn erplexed in my hair and pretend that I was the Solid Gold dancer, Darcel (even though her hair was braids). Dang, I am dating myself!

 

[br0wney3z]

You darn tootin right I want others to envy my hair. For so long my hair has been almost non-existent, I want people (all people, not just us) to look at my hair the way I look other people's hair now. It just comes with the territory, people are always going to envy what they don't have but want, and when my healthy head of BSL 4zzzzzz hair is swanging down my back they'll be looking, and I'll be loving it

 

[zzirvingj]

A couple of months ago a coworker told me my hair looked nice and went to touch my hair. As she was touching it she said..."Look..." and was giggling. As I turned around to see, she had one hand holding up a piece of my hair and the other hand she had scissors, posing like she was going to cut off my hair.

And had the NERVE to think it was funny.

So....no thanks....no envy for me

 

[zzirvingj]

I also just wanted to add that there is a big difference between envy and admiration.

 

[OneInAMillion]

A couple of months ago a coworker told me my hair looked nice and went to touch my hair. As she was touching it she said..."Look..." and was giggling. As I turned around to see, she had one hand holding up a piece of my hair and the other hand she had scissors, posing like she was going to cut off my hair.

And had the NERVE to the think it was funny.

So....no thanks....no envy for me

See now, that's not cool. This is exactly I don't want anyone envying me over my hair. And on another note, I really believe women when they say that as children, they had long hair and other girls bullied them for it. I look at the 4 yr. old kids in my Sunday classes and I see the same envy developing. It's scary.

 

[Barbara]

I grew my hair out in order for it to be a more decent length. Besides, it was always getting cut consistently every three months for nine years by my former hair stylist. He eventually moved too far for me to follow him, so I had to find another one. That's when I decided to get a "new look" by bringing in one of my old pictures and showing him what my hair used to look like before the haircuts.

Someone made a comment on this board a few years ago about how her hair was cut off by this guy who was leaning over her as if he wanted to hug her. I would never imagine a guy would do something like that. You just never know what's going on in the minds of people who see others with long hair . . .

Then this young girl with long hair was in a theater, and a strange girl behind her kept kicking her chair during the movie. Eventually, an adult she was with changed seats with her and the kicking stopped.

There are more important things in the world to think about besides hair, but I guess some people are so obsessed with it that they have nothing else important to think about.

 

[HappyHairDreams]

When i first started growing my hair it was 100% for me...but many people including family and friends do not believe i will ever get my hair long....now i want long hair for me, and also to swish in their faces

Same here.

 

[Dee-Licious]

i forgot aboout this thread

 

[LadyKaypnyc]

I'm growing my hair for me...that's it

 

[locabouthair]

I would LOVE to be an inspiration to other 4z's out there. I want to kill the hair myths out there. I would love to help others grow their hair but until I get mine in shape that can't happen. So envy's not my motivation.