Grow Long Hair for Others to Envy

[Ms Red]

Nope.........

 

[Lovelylocs]

Envy...thats a harsh way to put it, I would say...SHUT THEM UP...

Everyone in my family (mom side) has beautiful long lucious spanish hair. Some do on my dads side as well... The longest my hair ever was was MBL and I was in 5th grade... It was wild and tangly poor mommy didnt quite know how to handle this mixture of hair. so she slapped on a perm and I looked fine.. Well as screen name depicts I am Panamaian...meaning I'm spanish, I grew up that way, I was raised in a hispanic home, I was taught hispanic values, i speak spanish...Being hispanic is what I am.

BUT...society depicts a different tale.. I have been called a fake, a traitor, a liar, I was even told that Panama was a made up country...just because I dont look like what most people consider to be hispanic "aka Mexican"

Because I was not armed with the knowledge that I have now, my hair was usally a hot mess..I mean it grew and I did cute things to it, but IT DEF. was not like a typical hispanic womans hair.

With going natural and discovering the beauty of my natural hair, its kind of a symbol for me..I know it will grow long and thick and be beautiful. and for everyone who ever put me down about my hair, or my race or anything down those lines...will have to eat a hot bowl of "SHUT-IT-UP" cause there wont be any denying of who or what I am then......

Mi sangre es de mi tierra...Panama

This is sad. I hate how people are so ignorant when it comes to race and nationality! There are many afro-latinas out there. I commend u for going natural. U don't have to be the "stereotypical" latina. U are beautiful just the way u are.

Also, please don't be offended, but would u mind explaining y u use the word "Spanish" to describe urself?

 

[Maa Maa omo mti]

that's not my intension, but it comes with the territory. one of my friend has been one of the ones that's been there from the get go. I was the experimental specimen I guess cause she sure does see the progress and now she's really into doing what I'm doing.

My main reason was because I always wanted long hair. I would always play like my hair was long. People also told me I would look beautiful with long hair, and here I am finally trying to obtain that life long goal.

 

[PanamasOwn]

This is sad. I hate how people are so ignorant when it comes to race and nationality! There are many afro-latinas out there. I commend u for going natural. U don't have to be the "stereotypical" latina. U are beautiful just the way u are.

Also, please don't be offended, but would u mind explaining y u use the word "Spanish" to describe urself?

I use spanish because I feel it sums me up as a hispanic...instead of using hispanic as I have tried to for so long...I feel spanish is just freeing...(if that makes any sense)

 

[Energee]

Not at all! I personally think that sounds crazy. I just want to grow my hair longish for myself and that's it. Just my own personal goal just like every other thing in my life..has nothing to do with others.

 

[aurora3140]

I wouldn't say wanting people to envy me was my motivation, but I certainly wouldn't mind proving the naysayers wrong !

 

[lilamae]

kinda

 

[Dee-Licious]

kinda

don't be scared

 

[Poetrygirl]

No, I wouldn't say that I am, it is for me. Hell all the money I spent on weaves I could have been investing that in a head of healhy hair. I have had long hair in the past but it was never really healthy.

But let's be honest it does not hurt to let my haters be my motivators Go ahead and switch the style up and if they hate, then let them hate...

 

[Ms. Plain Jane]

Do people really think like that? That has never crossed my mind.erplexed

Off topic, but your daughter is soooo precious!

 

[Je Ne Sais Quoi]

No, i dont wanna grow my hair long so others can envy me. I never even thought about it to be honest. I just want my hair at a nice length so i can wear it however i want at any given time (long and sleek, nappy and free)

 

[AwesomelyNappy]

not for envy...

i'm doing this because this is something i've wanted forever. I admire long healthy hair, and I'd like to have it for myself. Also, i'd like to prove to myself and others that I too can have long, swingable pantene pro v hair. i dont want people to envy me... if i had admirers, that would be cool... but envy is kind of a strong word and wasted emotion.

 

[Swanky]

I'm growing long hair for many reasons and envy isn't one of them.

 

[curlcomplexity]

Nope...I'm doing it so I won't be envious of others

I'm joking! There are lots of reasons why i want long hair and I've posted them before. Basically, I've never had it before.

 

[Moroni]

Going through all the care and trouble of growing my hair to BSL just to get a negative response in the form of jealousy from someone would be the ultimate in being shallow, IMO. Can't imagine it.

 

[pazyamor]

I must agree with you. I feel the same way.

I thought I was the only one...I know that might be a little immature...but hey, I'm just being honest

Deep down, yes....I would love to be "that girl", I love haters, lol.

I also have to agree with you, because even though I don't live my life for other people, haters motivate me, because if you have haters, you must be doing something right...that's what my mother says.

 

[Eiano]

I wouldn't want others to be envious. That can lead to haters.

I want people to appreciate my hair though... I just want to be able to wear my hair in cute styles without worrying about adding pieces. I want to run my fingers through my hair and have it fall back in place and not have my hair get caught in some thread.

 

[StLucianSweetie]

The reason Im growing my hair out is for vanity. Pure, raw, unadulterated vanity. What can I say, Im vain. Heck, I probably think this song is about me.

 

[SpiritJunkie]

Nope! I want long healthy hair for myself. i like wearing weaves at midback and it would be nice for a change for tht to be my natural hair.

Most of the black chicks in my dept have apl and longer...dark and lightskinned ladies. so the white folks there know we can have long hair. they were skeptical at first about dem girls hair though! is that weave???

In addition to this i notice my man is liking the length. I ain't long by any strecth but lately his hands is all up in it!!!

 

[Imani]

As vain as I am, surprisingly, i can honestly say no, not really. Admire perhaps. Or inspire.

Its pretty much for me. I've never ever had long hair. and just always been told i don't have the "type of hair that will grow long". I am also curious to see what i would look like with long hair.

I want other girls w/hair like mine to know that it can be healthy and long. a whole nother subject, but i also want people to quit telling young girls that they have "bad hair", heard my grandmother say that about two of her grandchildren recently. But they ooh and ahh over my niece bc her hair is soft and curly.

 

[AgapeQueen]

No offense to everyone that said they are growing there hair for others to envy...but ladies just think about how shallow that is! Think about thise little girls and women out in the world that has lost there hair due to cancer or other illnesses, fires, drugs, etc...would you like for them to look at your hair and feel beneath you or less than a woman because that can not grow hair? Another thing, don't you think that is what is wrong with so many women today...TOO MANY OF US ARE TRYING TO COMPETE. Instead of lifting each other up, we silently tear each other down....Ladies plaese grow up...life is more than hair...

 

[STLCoverGirl]

Ok, my response sounded kinda bad, let me clarify....

For me, most women IRL won't come up to me and ask me what my regimine is or what salon I go to...they just stare me down most of the time...something like a hater move.

Now if/when women come up to me and ask, I will gladly go into detail about what I do, or give them this website. I have had a total of 3 women ask me about my hair in the last year and with each one I took the time to write down information...the whole nine...one lady worked at the post office and folks in line were pissed at how long we were "talking hair".

The way I see it, women are going to stare and mean mug you and you can't help that. That is obviously THEIR insecurities and jealousy shining through...I can't change that. I would prefer for a woman to step to me and ask me a question...I try to look approachable.

I don't think it's realistic to think that the same openness we have on this site with women, is comparable or realistic in real life...I wish it was, but it isn't. I was joking about the I want haters comment, but I think that hater attention translates into they are looking at me because something about me is different or unique. That's what I like, it doesn't bother me to see a woman with longer hair then me...heck I might ask her what her regimine is. It motivates me..if I see a woman with fly makeup I'll go up and ask her what products she uses. Ok, I'm rambling now, but I just wanted to clarify, lol...I'm done.

 

[STLCoverGirl]

If you want to talk shallow, if you REALLY think about it this site is shallow. We are all about getting longer hair, makeup, self-improvement..blah, blah...all of those things are shallow....where do we draw the line?

 

[AgapeQueen]

If you want to talk shallow, if you REALLY think about it this site is shallow. We are all about getting longer hair, makeup, self-improvement..blah, blah...all of those things are shallow....where do we draw the line?

I would not consider this site shallow...improving and maintaining a nice appearance is not shallow... that is our culture in America. Althouh to rub it in someones face is. Maintaininig healthy hair and skin is just apart of good health habits...this site is great with helping women (especially black women) learn how to take care of our hair b/c so many of us wer ignorant to the facts about or hair.

 

[Poetrygirl]

I think that hater attention translates into they are looking at me because something about me is different or unique. That's what I like, it doesn't bother me to see a woman with longer hair then me...heck I might ask her what her regimine is. It motivates me..if I see a woman with fly makeup I'll go up and ask her what products she uses.

I agree with this. When my hair was short, females would always say "that cut is bad, who cut your hair? " or "girl, you are rocken that cut" When my hair was long all I ever got was dirty looks and whispers of my hair being a good weave. Since cutting my hair and joining this site and now that my hair has grown and is healthy, shiney and bouncy I have women at my place of employment coming up to me saying, "you're hair is pretty" as they sneak a pat in to see if there are any tracks. Or even those same females asking other co-workers that I talk to outside of work if my hair was real and my hair is not what I consider long.

I would say that with any positive there are negatives and when I am doing good and people hate, I tend to allow their hate to motivate me even more.

We're all trying to gain more knowledge about hair growth and some of us may be a little self conscious about our hair, but I think that the site is a healthy way to discuss regimens and to display topics such as hair envy because we all know that it exists.

 

[STLCoverGirl]

I would not consider this site shallow...improving and maintaining a nice appearance is not shallow... that is our culture in America. Althouh to rub it in someones face is. Maintaininig healthy hair and skin is just apart of good health habits...this site is great with helping women (especially black women) learn how to take care of our hair b/c so many of us wer ignorant to the facts about or hair.

All I am saying is that CAN be considered shallow. We could discuss it for days. My point is where do we draw the line and who's decision is it on where that line is drawn? For some women hair is not a priority, most of my female friends think it's odd I am on a hairboard. I wouldn't be on here if I didn't think it was beneficial to me, but I can't expect anyone else to have that same opinion.

 

[AgapeQueen]

I agree with this. When my hair was short, females would always say "that cut is bad, who cut your hair? " or "girl, you are rocken that cut" When my hair was long all I ever got was dirty looks and whispers of my hair being a good weave. Since cutting my hair and joining this site and now that my hair has grown and is healthy, shiney and bouncy I have women at my place of employment coming up to me saying, "you're hair is pretty" as they sneak a pat in to see if there are any tracks. Or even those same females asking other co-workers that I talk to outside of work if my hair was real and my hair is not what I consider long.

I would say that with positive there are negatives and when I am doing good and people hate, I tend to allow their hate to motivate me even more.

We're all a little self conscious about our hair or we wouldn't have joined this site.

I agree with your statements about women hating b/c of your length...but I disagree about being self conscious...I think this site is just educational...do we get an education b/c we want people to envy us or b/c we are self consciuos..NO. We just want to better ourselves...now, there are some people that compete in everything that they do. I believe that those are the most self conscious people (due to psychological reseach studies). If you can not draw positive enrgy from within, then of course you will be little someone else in any kind of way you can to feel esteemed.

 

[determined_to_grow]

If you want to talk shallow, if you REALLY think about it this site is shallow. We are all about getting longer hair, makeup, self-improvement..blah, blah...all of those things are shallow....where do we draw the line?

ITA with this and your previous post! I think we all want LONG hair! I don't think that anyone here sought out this site simply b/c we want chicks we don't even know to envy us! It comes with the territory! Some ladies here hair never grew past their shoulders and now they're WSL - TRUST ME I don't think they did it all to be ENVIED!

 

[mscocoface]

TLC1020 and Sareca, I am so with you.

I want other black women to look at me and see the possibilities. I am not light-skinned, not mixed race, do not have locs, do not have straight hair...basically, I fit none of the stereotypes of long-haired black women, yet I have long hair. I want other black women to look at me and to notice this fact and then realize that long, healthy hair is attainable for all of us. I tell all my hair secrets to any sista who asks and at this point, 95% of why I am keeping my fotki is because I know it is really helpful to other sistas to learn from my experience instead of muddling through things the hard way. I want all my sistas to be rocking thick, luscious heads of hair. To encourage others is a big part (of course, it is not the only reason) of why I am growing my hair. So, envy is exactly what I don't want others feeling because that emotion stems from thinking someone has something you can't have, and the healthy, long hair on my head is something all sistas can have.

This is my determination also besides wanting for myself long healthy natural hair. I want to be a walking billboard for women of color to see that it is possible to have healthy, thick, long natural hair. I can't wait to be able to tell women yes it is possible and here is how to do it. I plan on making cards with my length comparisons and the hair sites that have help me. You think I am joking. Look what I have already, just trying to tweak it and get it ready. Each one teach one I always say.

I am getting more ladies stopping me and asking and you can believe no matter what I am doing I will stop and talk to them. We are so truly in need of this. Don't want envy or jealousy just want to drop some knowledge.

Mscocoface as stepped down from her soapbox. Thank you, thank you very much!

 

[Social.Buttahfly]

Envy, wow never crossed my mind, as haters/jealous/insecure individuals annoy me, I take no pleasure in others insecurity with themselves.

I have been natural since 2003 and been wearing wash n go's and have always cut my hair to keep the wash n go's short and cute. It was only last year Sept 06, that I stopped cutting it and now I am going for length. When relaxed my hair always grew long, so now I am interested in letting it grow to it's maximum healthy potential, as a natural.