Glib Gurl
Well-Known Member
Ok ladies. If you couldn't already tell from this thread or this one, I was unsure of how to go about ending a relationship.
After a weak attempt on his part to "do better," I decided yesterday that I'd had enough. I was tired of checking my phone every few minutes to see if he had texted or called. I was really starting to lose respect for myself. I mean, is this really what I'm limiting myself to - whatever crumbs he tosses my way? Especially with my birthday coming up, I just didn't want this hanging over my head.
Everyone in my "real life" as well as many members here advised to just go dark, but that didn't sit well with me. I really wanted closure. I wanted it clear that further contact was no longer welcome so I could stop being attached to my phone. So, I dialed his number and proceeded thusly:
"Don't worry about next Saturday. You are no longer welcome to celebrate my birthday with me. And going forward there is no reason for you to contact me."
He took it pretty calmly and simply said, "Alright then. Good night."
20 minutes later, I get a text - "You left your socks here. What do you want me to do with them?"
I ignored it.
I then get a loooong email via LinkedIn that basically says "I respect your decision. I've deleted you from my phone so you will have to contact me if you want to be in touch. Let me know if you want me to do with your socks. I can meet you someplace and bring them or you can stop by and pick them up."
As much as I was tempted to write, "Boy. I left those socks at your place over a month ago. I ain't thinkin' about them socks. Toss them in the trash. Burn 'em. I don't care." I didn't. I just ignored the messages.
I have blocked him from my phone. All old voicemails and texts have been deleted.
I am sad that he didn't measure up to what I wanted him to be, but I'm glad that I stood up for myself and put myself back in the driver's seat of my life.
After a weak attempt on his part to "do better," I decided yesterday that I'd had enough. I was tired of checking my phone every few minutes to see if he had texted or called. I was really starting to lose respect for myself. I mean, is this really what I'm limiting myself to - whatever crumbs he tosses my way? Especially with my birthday coming up, I just didn't want this hanging over my head.
Everyone in my "real life" as well as many members here advised to just go dark, but that didn't sit well with me. I really wanted closure. I wanted it clear that further contact was no longer welcome so I could stop being attached to my phone. So, I dialed his number and proceeded thusly:
"Don't worry about next Saturday. You are no longer welcome to celebrate my birthday with me. And going forward there is no reason for you to contact me."
He took it pretty calmly and simply said, "Alright then. Good night."
20 minutes later, I get a text - "You left your socks here. What do you want me to do with them?"
I ignored it.
I then get a loooong email via LinkedIn that basically says "I respect your decision. I've deleted you from my phone so you will have to contact me if you want to be in touch. Let me know if you want me to do with your socks. I can meet you someplace and bring them or you can stop by and pick them up."
As much as I was tempted to write, "Boy. I left those socks at your place over a month ago. I ain't thinkin' about them socks. Toss them in the trash. Burn 'em. I don't care." I didn't. I just ignored the messages.
I have blocked him from my phone. All old voicemails and texts have been deleted.
I am sad that he didn't measure up to what I wanted him to be, but I'm glad that I stood up for myself and put myself back in the driver's seat of my life.