Will you cheat?.......

My sister cheated on her husband of 17 years, they have been divorce not even a year and the guy she cheated on has since left her. I talked to her a long time ago and told her what she was doing was wrong,she is so sad. It don't pay!
 
Nope. Never will

I just don't have it in my to cheat.

Even in past relationships, wanted to....COULD have, never did. I'd just leave.
 
I hope and pray that I never would. I'd like to think I wouldnt. I'd like to say it's not in my character. So um...no.
 
I highly doubt the majority of those that have cheater ever intend to do so, especially if you asked them in advance when things are fine.

When asked ten years ago if I ever intend to have kids, my answer was no. Now I'm trying. :rolleyes:

You never know the actual answer of life altering situations until you're in that situation.
 
Please be aware that when you are married but seperated and seeing someone else you are still committing ADULTERY.

I was one who said I would never cheat, but after I seperated from my spouse I did start seeing and sleep with other men. So in essence I did cheat. That has always been a sore spot with me because I always exclaimed that one is married until you are divorced.

So technically I did cheat, but I got over it.
 
Lucie said:
I have cheated on my husband. I find it remarkable that I am the only wife that did. And I say that without sarcasm.
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You aren't the only wife that has done it, just the only one admitting to it...It's like those threads asking if anyone has cheated with a married man and every single person is replying no except for one, either they are lying or the ones that have done it just aren't saying they have.

ETA: Thanks for your honesty
 
Lucie said:
I have cheated on my husband. I find it remarkable that I am the only wife that did. And I say that without sarcasm.
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Legally he was my husband, so I cheated also. You are not alone, you know on this site most won't admit it, but I know there are more. Especially those in a situation like I was in who don't want to consider it technically "cheating", since we no longer want to be with our husbands or whose husband no longer wanted to be with them.

No matter which way it is spun it was\is cheating.
 
ThickHair said:
Please be aware that when you are married but seperated and seeing someone else you are still committing ADULTERY.

I was one who said I would never cheat, but after I seperated from my spouse I did start seeing and sleep with other men. So in essence I did cheat. That has always been a sore spot with me because I always exclaimed that one is married until you are divorced.

So technically I did cheat, but I got over it.
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True but that is complicated, I have a friend who is with a married man, the divorce is in process, he an his wife have sold their house and his wife has a boyfriend as well, while in essence he is cheating and so is his wife, it's complicated, if I was divorcing and I pray I never go through that, I don't know if I can abstain from a relationship with another person if I know that my husband and I are truly over. So yes with that answer I would cheat. And yes this is really my friend not me, I know how y'all get over here when people mention their friends.
 
ThickHair said:
Legally he was my husband, so I cheated also. You are not alone, you know on this site most won't admit it, but I know there are more. Especially those in a situation like I was in who don't want to consider it technically "cheating", since we no longer want to be with our husbands or whose husband no longer wanted to be with them.

No matter which way it is spun it was\is cheating.
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I discussed my cheating here before. I truly commend those (again no sarcasm) that never have, never thought of it, et cetera. But the ones that do/did are not monsters contrary to popular belief.

ITA with you. Cheating is cheating regardless of the reason. If it could not be done to your DH's face, it is cheating.
 
TCatt86 said:
True but that is complicated, I have a friend who is with a married man, the divorce is in process, he an his wife have sold their house and his wife has a boyfriend as well, while in essence he is cheating and so is his wife, it's complicated, if I was divorcing and I pray I never go through that, I don't know if I can abstain from a relationship with another person if I know that my husband and I are truly over. So yes with that answer I would cheat. And yes this is really my friend not me, I know how y'all get over here when people mention their friends.
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I don't believe it is complicate, it is truly black or white. You are married or you aren't. I do understand the process of getting unmarried (divorced) and you can't stop your life, BUT if you are seeing someone else and you are married you are cheating.

I know that the original questions wasn't asking for all the technical aspects but I had to put it out there because we all know Sista So n So all filled with the holy ghost will claim that she never cheated. In God's eyes yadda yadda yadda.................... But she was kickin it with Raheem before she was divorced but she wants to look down her nose at ThickHair for doing the same.

Come on now lets call a spade a spade.
 
I would not cheat. I don't think I could live with the guilt and I couldn't do that to my husband, my family...
 
Lucie said:
I discussed my cheating here before. I truly commend those (again no sarcasm) that never have, never thought of it, et cetera. But the ones that do/did are not monsters contrary to popular belief.

ITA with you. Cheating is cheating regardless of the reason. If it could not be done to your DH's face, it is cheating.
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I was gonna cheat, I just didn't get around to it--the only thing that stopped me was I'd slept with this guy before I was married so I knew his sex wasn't up to par:look:

But I digress.....I had an emotional affair. I VERY intense one that almost cost me my marrriage. That's why I say mental cheating is far worse than five minutes of physicality.

Thanks for being honest though. I know LOTS of women that cheat. Women typically cheat for emotional reasons and men for sex-lack of or variety of.
 
Lucie said:
I have cheated on my husband. I find it remarkable that I am the only wife that did. And I say that without sarcasm.
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I don't recall seeing you discuss this before, so I appreciate your honesty. :yep:

I'm not married but I will say this. The older I get, the more I learn to never say never. Like someone else said, you might feel differently when faced with the situation.

I would like to think that I'd leave before I cheat. Hell, I've said that about relationships. But I realize that walking away from a marriage is not as simple as walking away from a relationship.
 
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Not married, but I've cheated in the past. I know that it's in me, and that's why I'm not married today.
 
Zaynab said:
I was gonna cheat, I just didn't get around to it--the only thing that stopped me was I'd slept with this guy before I was married so I knew his sex wasn't up to par:look:

But I digress.....I had an emotional affair. I VERY intense one that almost cost me my marrriage. That's why I say mental cheating is far worse than five minutes of physicality.

Thanks for being honest though. I know LOTS of women that cheat. Women typically cheat for emotional reasons and men for sex-lack of or variety of.
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This is SOOOOO true. A lot of folk haven't physically cheated but they have or are emotionally cheating...which I do think is worse.
 
No, I wouldn't.

I realize that cheating is not something your spouse can "make" you do, it's a character issue- something is lacking in you to make you cheat. And, as a result you may go out and seek that thing you feel you are missing.

My husband is not the source of my joy. When he don't act right, I turn to my true source. Hence, my husband doesn't have the ability to make me do anything- no matter what he does. When we start relying on our spouses to be the sources of our happiness & joy, that's when we run into problems. Fulfillment should come from within first & foremost.

Just IMHO.
 
Won't say too much because I don't want it thrown in my face 5 years from now in an Illuminati thread.

Zaynab & Lucie & Thickhair, you are not alone.
 
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