it's a great book, every woman should read it. I bought a copy for my sister for her birthday.
ETA: Thread hijack alert! Please forgive me
I had a situation lately when I thought of you
hopeful and some of your excellent threads that we've had in the past, esp on the merits of women being a bit self-centered. And I got it, men really do respond to women who put themselves first and are a bit demanding.
In this case it was my dad. SO a few years ago, he decided he was out of the birthday business as he put it. So he wasn't buying gifts. Well fine. Well this year, I turned 30. I told him and my mom a few months ago, that I expected a present as it was a milestone bday. Well he tried to say 'well your sister is turning 25 so that's a milestones too and blah blah..'
Me: That's between you two. Just understand, I expect a present.
Him: A few more excuses
Me: That's good and all, but I expect a present.
About a week ago, he brought it up again like 'well maybe I'll let you skip a payment' (he lent me my down payment for my house so I pay them back)
Me: That's not a present, besides my payments are automated and I don't want to have to mess with that.
So on my bday, I got an email from him that said Happy birthday, i didn't for get your gift, love you. And I guess I didn't reply quickly enough because I got a text saying the same thing.
Sooo we'll see what happens (and yes I realize that this is a weird example) but it really made me realize that the concepts we discuss are right. 1) Men really do want to please the women in their lives and 2) it really is ok to demand/expect to be treated well by those that claim to love you.
---Hijack over