Re: Why He Won\'t Marry You from Essense
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Miss J, Miss J, Miss J! This is not about the article (I've read it already, pure rubbish), but why do you care what the guy on the MJJ board says, anyway? He can't even argue a point straight.
A simple Philosophy 101: Logic course can fix that.
"I am so sick of that garbage. There aren't fewer men out there who are good enough for women. There isn't something in the water making men less qualified to be get married. Could the problem lie with the fairer sex? Could it be ladies that maybe you need to stop b*tching about the smaller pool of men and concentrate on the available men out there? Are all you women perfect and the men getting dumber by the minute? Nope, the men await and when you spend less time derided them, they may actually stay away from the white girls."
"Strangely enough, this particular post wasn't directed at you, but you brought something interesting to light. There seems to be a double standard when it comes to mixed dating. If a black man dates a white girl, he is ignoring his black women and dating the enemy. If a balck woman dated the white man, its because there aren't enough black man out there. I love double standards...
By the way, since some of you get anal, I am not saying anybody in particular said this. This is what I hear.
Go ahead and find yourself a perfectly good white boy..."
So many fallacies, so little time
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Well, he's a 28 year old grad student at some university in Washington D.C. concentrating in political science. I don't know why he keeps arguing about certain things. It seems that he only wants to argue. I showed him that article that JFemme posted about wanting a wife, and this is what he had to say:
"Oh the horror!!! Because that piece of garbage is representative of every wife out there. It has to be true right? Not at all wives are that woman. Not even half the wives out there are that woman. So sad, how do you wives out there survive? God being a wife is so horrible. Most of all wives, you are forced to be that woman. The nerve of society, or maybe just maybe you don't have to be defined by an article. I don't want a wife, even if that article were representative of what she is."
He made me feel stupid for even bringing up the article.
Then I said this:
"Are you always in a bad mood? Anyway, no one said that EVERY wife was exactly like that. Although, I'm pretty sure that most wives are very familiar with the things pointed out here. Plus, this was written in 1971, so some of the things mentioned here are dated. Most of them are right on the money, though."
Then he said this:
"Expressing an opinion in dissent to this article means I'm in a bad mood? Then I've been pissed off for years. I am allowed to disagree and not be in a bad mood. The article is called "why I want a wife", that title denotes wife, not some wives, white wives, jewish wives, all wives. So that article is talking about all wives. Nobody is talking about you said. The article, no matter when it was published, generalized wives. That is what I am talking about. Everytime I say something, some of you take the statements to be directed at you. I AM NOT SAYING YOU DO, but some people do.
Not all wives are sexual slaves to their husbands, not all wives work to put their husbands through school, not all wives are trapped at home raising the children, not all. Some do it by choice."
I think our reward will be far greater than the pain ever was. And sweeter for the lessons learned.
I think we both will.
