Why do men think they can tell us what to do with our hair

[mj11051]

Last nite, the hubby's friend was over and he asked me what was I gonna to do my hair when I take my braids down? I asked him what did he mean. He says you're gonna relax it right? I said no I'm not. He says If you were my wife you would have to change your hair for me because I couldn't be seen with you in public. I told him "Well Thank GOD for small favors as I'm not your wife and no man is gonna tell how to wear what grows out of my head" He told hubby he didn't see how he could stand my nappy hair. He said he likes a woman with long straight neat hair. The nerve of some. I got up and went in my room before I called everything but a child of GOD

 

[JustKiya]

Men think they can tell women what to do with their hair because most women try to shape themselves in the image of what a man wants. I mean, there are plenty of threads around here on the same topic - where women are doing something/not doing something based largely on the impression it will give the men around them - so it's not like he was coming from so utterly off-base place.

 

[Nubenap22]

He was wrong for that I hope ur hubby put him in his place for that one. Bc it dont look like he respects ya much!!! Because of your hair!!!

 

[Ronnieaj]

Ooohh he got some NERVE !! I wish a man would say some ish like that to me! The only person I even remotely did my hair for was my grandmother this Christmas, because it's also her birthday. She can't stand "out" hair, and I was rockin a full blown 12 inch afro. I twisted it for her. She's the ONLY one. And I'm glad you told him what's what. I'll bet you anything he and his wife have had a conversation about her hair recently. These things do not come out unprovoked.

 

[CarLiTa]

WTH?! This man is incredibly rude. I don't understand how he feels he has the right to say such a thing to your face. You do not have to abide to his wishes.
If I were you, I would speak to my husband about this. He may have his friends, but they need to know not to say any old thing to his WIFE. That is incredibly disrespectful.

 

[glamazon386]

Don't pay his ignorant behind no attention. Men swear they're the authority on everything.

 

[LaToya28]

I hope your hubby stood up for you...or does he not like your hair either? I wouldn't consider the opinions of my husband's friend, but if it's my husband telling me that he doesn't like my hair then the hair will have to change.

 

[Kerryann]

i wish a negro would
If your hubby doesnt have a problem with it why does he think his views matter
who the hell made him the hair fairy
I wouldve told him he was ugly and kept it moving

 

[mj11051]

WTH?! This man is incredibly rude. I don't understand how he feels he has the right to say such a thing to your face. You do not have to abide to his wishes.
If I were you, I would speak to my husband about this. He may have his friends, but they need to know not to say any old thing to his WIFE. That is incredibly disrespectful.

He apologized if he offended us, but we always talk candidly. I just look at him and went to bed. My hubby told him about it. This fat creep ain't married.

 

[shandaw]

Girl, don't get me started on this. Men say anything they want out there mouths but I'm time enough for em. You told him right!!!

 

[Prudent1]

Last nite, the hubby's friend was over and he asked me what was I gonna to do my hair when I take my braids down? I asked him what did he mean. He says you're gonna relax it right? I said no I'm not. He says If you were my wife you would have to change your hair for me because I couldn't be seen with you in public. I told him "Well Thank GOD for small favors as I'm not your wife and no man is gonna tell how to wear what grows out of my head" He told hubby he didn't see how he could stand my nappy hair. He said he likes a woman with long straight neat hair. The nerve of some. I got up and went in my room before I called everything but a child of GOD

Yea- somebody would've def been getting up and leaving the room but not me. In my own house? What does his wife's mane look like? Do tell... It's men like that... I feel sorry for the message they send their DD at a young ageerplexed, then they wonder why we are scarred and have a poor self image...erplexed

 

[curlicarib]

I have no problems putting anyone out of my house, and he would have seen the door. NOBODY insults/disrespects me in my house and if husband had a problem with it (which he shouldn't) he'd be snuggling the couch pillows that night.

 

[beans4reezy]

Your hubby's friend shouldn't feel comfortable saying these rude remarks to your face. I would have a conversation with your hubby for him to check his friend or else I would; and I'd go in so hard, I'd take a piece of his manhood with it. He would end up never addressing me again, nevermind bringing up my hair.

 

[RockCreak]

That just pissed me off.. The nerve of him. Girl you're good because I would have and hubby would have :gunner7: that fool out that house.. that bamma would have been out of there while huby was his tail out!

 

[mj11051]

I hope your hubby stood up for you...or does he not like your hair either? I wouldn't consider the opinions of my husband's friend, but if it's my husband telling me that he doesn't like my hair then the hair will have to change.

Hubby loves my hair and has been very supportive and Hubby doesn't bite his tongue if he didn't like believe me I'd know.

 

[beans4reezy]

but if it's my husband telling me that he doesn't like my hair then the hair will have to change.

Ooooooooh gurrrrl, please don't get this debate started up in here!

 

[mj11051]

He thought hubby was just going along with the natural hair thingy until he said that crap. Hubby handle his bidness and ole boy was apologizing all over the place, but like I told him, I ain't his wife and how I do anything is not for him to say. Again dude is divorced.

 

[mj11051]

if it's my husband telling me that he doesn't like my hair then the hair will have to change.

If hubby didn't like my hair TOO BAD because I DON'T tell him how to wear his hair.

 

[cmw45]

He apologized if he offended us, but we always talk candidly. I just look at him and went to bed. My hubby told him about it. This fat creep ain't married.

Really? I'm shocked.

 

[Pink Hair23]

I try to think about it like this, if my husband said he wanted to grow out his hair and add some thick sideburns I would FREAK! That's not the look I've grown accustomed to, so naturally I may object to it. This other man is not accustomed to seeing the beauty in women with natural hair. Your husband obviously doesn't have a problem with it, so to hell with someone else's opinion.

 

[I Am So Blessed]

for standing up for yourself and your hair is so---->. and y our husband better had opened up a can of-->

 

[Almaz]

My husband would have not tolerated that.

 

[BostonMaria]

LMFAO Are you sure he wasn't kidding? That was pretty funny. Maybe he knows how sensitive you are about your hair.

 

[beans4reezy]

If hubby didn't like my hair TOO BAD because I DON'T tell him how to wear his hair.

And here we go

 

[mj11051]

LMFAO Are you sure he wasn't kidding? That was pretty funny. Maybe he knows how sensitive you are about your hair.

Maria he said we are always honest with each other, which is true and he dates women with long straight hair. So he thinks that his friends taste should be the same as his. I really think he's jealous of our happy marriage and he tries to start crap between us and it back fires on him.

 

[DDTexlaxed]

I wonder why he's divorced. What a stupid thing for him to say. Maybe he said the same to his now ex wife. Glad you and hubby told him off! Your hair is gorgeous! He's got some nerve!

 

[washize]

Last nite, the hubby's friend was over and he asked me what was I gonna to do my hair when I take my braids down? I asked him what did he mean. He says you're gonna relax it right? I said no I'm not. He says If you were my wife you would have to change your hair for me because I couldn't be seen with you in public. I told him "Well Thank GOD for small favors as I'm not your wife and no man is gonna tell how to wear what grows out of my head" He told hubby he didn't see how he could stand my nappy hair. He said he likes a woman with long straight neat hair. The nerve of some. I got up and went in my room before I called everything but a child of GOD

well men set the beauty standards for women. Women accept the beauty standards of men. Which is straight hair, small waist, big boobs, blond hair, make up, big butt.

 

[SkorpioLust]

Yes, why do men think they can tell us what's best for our hair.

That's exactly what I thought when Chris Rock had the nerves to do his documentary where he and a bunch of men who aren't even stylists gave their unnecessary opinions on black women's hair.

Anyway, glad you husband eventually spoke up.

 

[mj11051]

Yes, why do men think they can tell us what's best for our hair.

That's exactly what I thought when Chris Rock had the nerves to do his documentary where he and a bunch of men who aren't even stylists gave their unnecessary opinions on black women's hair.

Anyway, glad you husband eventually spoke up.

Hubby knows me well and he didn't get the chance to SPEAK UP when his friend first said the stupid ish. I checked him hard, but I can't use the words I said on this board.

I saw the crap and Chris needed to deal with wife's weave before made that crap.

 

[mzbrown]

I agree with everyone... He was rude! I'm glad you spoke up and didn't just laugh it off like some other women would have, and I'm glad your husband spoke up. Now I'm ganna have to ask my hubby what he would have done in this situation (he better have the right answer (lol)).