Why do men approach me mainly when i wear my hair down?

[**SaSSy**]

I'm on a personal buns/baggie bun challenge for 2 years. I'm on month 16 which means I'm almost there. I only wear my hair down every 6 weeks, or the first 3 days after a touch-up.

When my hair is down and straight I receive more attention from all types of men. The last time I wore my hair down I met this guy who asked me to dinner and we were talking. Then after the first date I asked him how would u feel if I cut my hair, he said I'll push you out my car! I was so shock, I didn't know if he was joking or not until the next time we chilled and I had my hair up, he said "what happen to your hair?" Wasnt it down when I met you?" So long story short we're not together and I think he was only interested in me based on looks. Has anyone experienced this? Has ur hair goals hinder your dating?

 

[SHEANITPRO]

Cause dey sum shallow azzez!

 

[Mai Tai]

Maybe you look extra FLY with your hair down.

 

[Livingmylifetothefullest]

Now I don't like wearing my hair down (it sticks to my neck, gets in the way, etc.) but ironically when I do, yeah, the men seem to stare longer and harder. It's probably due to their nature of men liking longer hair vs short hair.

 

[Lucie]

I think men fantasize about coloring with you and pulling your hair. Hair up = not sexy unless it's some fancy updo. If a man had said that car comment to me, I would have excused myself from the date. I have low tolerance for touched men.

 

[Helpmeblongagain]

Its way sexier than a pony tail...its super feminine n flowy

 

[Dposh167]

maybe ur hair down fits your face...or makes it look more...beautiful. like it frames it better than it being back. idk I'm trying! lol
Its funny cuz i get more attention when my hair is back in a pony/bun, than i get when my hair is down.

 

[lovely008]

His reaction to your hair being up is ridiculous. I also get more attention with my hair down but I prefer it up and away from my face. I just try to wear it in a way that is flattering either way. If a guy ever reacted so strongly, I'd never wear my hair down around him again.

Who do you think you are? And if that alone would be enough to make him leave then GOOD RIDDANCE. What about when you are sick or having a bad day and don't look as good in the future?

 

[CoilyFields]

I think men in general (BM & WM) like long hair...and do we. And I presume that if protecting our hair was not an issue then most of us would choose to wear it down the majority of the time. I mean, how many of us are bunning with the intent of doing so forever ( not just an occassional style)? So we're really not that different in preferring long hair.

My DH just told me the other day that I could get away with tying my hair back because I had that sexy librarian look...I look prim and proper but like i have a wild side lol

 

[MusicandWine]

A lot of men equate long hair with beauty, just as much as a beautiful face or hot body. Men are very visual in what they find appealing. I've had a guy tell me that he usually didn't talk to women with short hair and really didn't have a reason why. The funny thing is when he struck up a conversation with me on the train I had a hood on that day. The first time we hung out he realized my hair was short (and when I say short I mean SHORT) but didn't seem bothered by it. Funny. Men are kinda hypocritical so I wouldn't think too much on it.

 

[moonglowdiva]

I find that this is the case with me too. When my hair is down I get hit on by men and boys. I do believe that me find women with long hair alluring. I don't have long hair by the way but I am in training. It is at best SL and the average black woman wears faux hair constantly. IDK. I do believe that men like longer hair on women.

 

[Crystalicequeen123]

Yeah, I think men just like longer hair on women. It's more "feminine" since it's different from them. Men find anything sexy on a woman when she accentuates the DIFFERENCES between the sexes. Hence, why men find sexiest a woman in heels, a woman with her hair down, a woman w/an hour glass figure, or with a low-cut top showing cleavage, women in dresses and skirts as opposed to pant suits like men, etc.

But yeah I tend to get more stares and attention from men when I wear my hair down. Women tell me that they prefer my hair down to up also...so it's not just men. I think I just look BETTER w/my hair down.

Even one guy friend of mine told me that I "take it to a different level" when I wear my hair down. He said I was attractive w/my hair up, but that when I wear my hair down, I look totally different and look like I"m in a different league altogether!!

So yeah... I think men prefer hair down as opposed to bunned up any day of the week.

 

[blue_flower]

If that's all it takes to get men to approach me, then I might as well start wearing my hair down everyday. Maybe I'll finally get a REAL date.

 

[rinahbaby]

I'm a little embarrassed to say this, but YES this happens to me all the time. I damn near gets NO attention from guys when my hair is in a pony tail but when I flat iron my hair and wear it down, I get all types of men trying to get my number.....I kind of feel insulted when this happens because technically, I'm not excepted "just the way I am"