Who Wears a Scarf or Bonnet Around the Home and/or to Bed?

Do you wear a scarf or bonnet?

  • Yes. Only to bed. I do this faithfully

    Votes: 276 85.2%

  • Sometimes, depends on if I remember or not.

    Votes: 32 9.9%

  • NO, my hair doesn't need it.

    Votes: 2 0.6%

  • Sometimes, depends on if I am around my man

    Votes: 11 3.4%

  • No, my SO doesn't like it, or I don't feel comfortable wearing it around my SO

    Votes: 3 0.9%
  • Total voters
    324
  • Poll closed .
Te'TahHead

Te'TahHead

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Okay, so I came to Hubs and asked him does he notice the smell of my hair. I asked him this because I was wanting to try some of the Indian products Candy_C and others speak of, but I know that they have smells to them. I don't want to turn his stomach by the way my hair smells.:perplexed I really care about his opinion, but, the conversation kind of strays.

Well, he says "I don't notice. As a matter of fact, I don't ever see your hair, smell your hair, anything". So, I ask him what does that mean and he continues to say that I always have my hair in a ponytail (PS'n) or in a scarf when I am home and that my hair has become virtually non existent.

So, I become a lil embarassed, partly because it's true and I have already been feeling funny about PS'n [hence, my other thread].

So, I say," Well, Babe, I am trying to grow my hair and I know no BLK women who don't wear some type of scarf when they go to bed". He then tells me that that is not true, and goes back to when we first started dating. I explain to him that that was because I was trying to look beautiful at all times and now I don't think that I should compromise what I am trying to do, especially now that we aren't "dating".

To sum up the story, he goes on and tells me that I scarf all the time because I am starting to care too much about my hair, even though I tried explaining to him that I care the same as I did 5 years ago (when we first met). I used to get my hair done every 2 weeks because I didn't KNOW how to take care of it on my own. He then ends by saying " Dang man, I KNEW I shouldn't have commented on your hair. THAT is why I don't like talking about your hair with you":ohwell:

So, singles, marrieds, buddies, whatever, do you wear a scarf or bonnet to bed? If so, does this change when you are with your HIM?
 
:perplexed Yup I do. I wear a scarf every night. I first tie my hair in a scrunchi. When I was bunning, I'd place a plastic bag on my hair then the scarf.

I hear it every now and then but he totally realizes how obsessed I am and I think he finally understands.

One time I came to bed with a roller in my bang and he was like what the hel! is that? I did that twice and then stopped.

My compromise is to wait until I'm getting ready to fall asleep before I put it on. Fortunately, he falls asleep first so that's my cue to wrap it up.

On the weekends, I always wear my hair out for Saturdays and on Sundays (when we are watching football) I have a ponytail or wear it out as well.

There is definitely a fine line for me and I want to still keep it sexy...:kiss2:
 
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I wear my bonnet or scarf any time Im resting my head (ie watching tv on the couch) and to bed. A lot of times I put it on shortly after getting home. I also carry a pretty scarf with me incase Im at someones house that does not have one.:lachen:
 
I wear a scarf pretty much all the time.....around the house and to bed. The only time I don't wear one is when I leave the house. I have my own personal reasons for this so even though I'm single I will still do this if I ever marry.
 
I wear one to bed every night. My SO comments sometimes but he knows I'm "obsessed" so he just deals with it. It doesn't stop him when he wants to get busy. :kiss2: LOL!!!
 
If I'm thinking about it, I'll wear a scarf/bonnet around the house, especially when I'm alone. I definitely wear one to bed, and my SO doesn't mind. He knows what I am trying to accomplish as far as my hair is concerned, and he's very supportive of that, so it really doesn't bother him. All he asks is that I wear my hair down more often instead of wearing a bun or ponytail.
 
I definitely wear a scarf and bonnet when lounging or going to bed. I never just wear one around the house though. I feel like my scalp can't breath when I wear a scarf during the day....it gets itchy and feels smothered. Hard to explain. I do bun and baggie everyday for the most part. Every now and then I may wear my hair out for a while during airdrying, then its back up. I will take it down for "special" moments.:yep:
 
I was always a little lazy about wearing a scarf to bed but since I joined this board I have been wearing a scarf everynight and on the weekends around the house. This has made such a difference in the softness and moisture level of my hair and of course it keeps the NG in check and gives me nice waves in the in the morning.
 
Thank you ladies for your replies.:yep:

Do you think that wearing your hair tie is essential for your hair's devlopment?

Anyone ever feel like "Aunt Jemimah"?


I am so shocked he said that because normally he doesn't have ANY comment on my hair....he is a smart man. But, today he seemed kinda bitter about it.


Man, having long hair and/or trying get it sometimes is NOT the business
 
I wear my scarf pretty much when I am going to bed. when I am just around the house my hair is pretty much not covered. My Hubby doesn't say much because I do wear my hair down sometimes. So, I compromise with him.

Try compromising with you hubby. Every now and then let your hair down and let him play in it. Maybe once he sees how long and healthy it is he will understand what you are trying to accomplish.:spinning:
 
yes, even around my bf. sometimes he will say something slick like i look like Harriet Tubman, but we are both goofy so it dont matter to me :)
 
There are ways to meet him half way.
When my husband and I make :over18:I always take my hair down . He loves hair . He loves for it to rub against him, he loves to smell it, he loves touching it. Thats is why I will not put anything that smells bad in my hair. It's just not sexy.
  • Satin pillow cases are good too.
One of the reasons I want to grow my hair really long is b/c I know how much he loves it .
Even when married you still need to preserve your sexiness . :grin:
 
Sometimes I don't but I'm just lazy. Also, I have satin pillowcases. The only black women I know who don't tie their hair up don't have any hair. :look:
 
I am definitely going to meet him half way. So, I am going to relax early (only by two weeks) tonight. A ten-week stretch is pretty good. I guess I'll post the pics in this thread... I said also that I was going to get the Vicky Secret Conditioner and add some to my Humecto...
I'll post a Before with my scarf on and an after with my hair down...lol:lachen:
 
Yes ma'am, I wear my bonnet all day, everyday when I'm in the house and when I go to bed. I even have some pictures in my Fotki with my bonnet on :grin:. My husband HATES it, but I don't care. I even wear it when I have on lingerie and my husband looks at me like :nono: . Not cute I know, but my hair is waist length and healthy.
 
I roll my hair and wear a bonnet to bed about two to three nights a week. I wrap it in a scarf, maybe once a week. I go to bed on my satin pillow case without covering my hair the rest of the time.

I never wear a scarf or bonnet during the day and I don't keep rollers in my hair during the day.

It's a great compromise -- both for my husband and my relaxation -- not to be covered and tied-up all the time.
 
I wear my scarf RELIGIOUSLY to bed, and I've done that for most of the time we've been together - even when I had dreads, I wore a scarf, to prevent me (or him!) from rolling over on them.

When I'm just around the house, if I have some goo in my hair, and have a shower cap on, I always try to put on a pretty scarf over that - I don't think my sexy is preserved in a showercap, but I look DAMN good in a scarf, if I do say so myself.

If I don't have a showercap on, my hair usually isn't covered.

All the same, DH doesn't seem to care nearly as much as I do, as he's an equal opportunity bonejumper. :lol:
 
I always were a scarf/bonnet to bed! My SO has never said anything about it either! I also sleep on a satin pillowcase... which we seem to fight over all the time. I think I'm going to have to break down and get some real satin linen so that I don't have to steal my pillow from him EVERY NIGHT!!!
 
I have a satin pillowcase too. It is so funny because Hubs and I fight over it too!!! LOL.

OT: When I slip with my satin pillowcase, I tend to...er.....drool..in my sleep. TMI...
 
tbaby_8 said:
Every now and then let your hair down and let him play in it. Maybe once he sees how long and healthy it is he will understand what you are trying to accomplish.:spinning:
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I totally agree with this quote. I wear a satin scarf to bed, but that's it. I don't understand the excessive babying some do to their hair.

I once thought it essential to keep my hair in a bun at all times to protect the ends, but I now know that's not true. I wear my hair down (straight) or out in a curly pony all the time, never pinning it up or concealing the ends. My hair has grown dramatically this past summer without me hiding it.

I think life is short and we should celebrate it and everything in it. What's the point of growing your hair if folks can't enjoy it, including you :confused:???

I agree with your hubby. You should ease up and let them luscious locks flow :)! You know men love them some hurr ;).
 
I always wear a scarf and a bonnet to bed- just better protection for my hair. I only scarf at home if I'm cleaning.

My husband commments sometime and he may take it off during "special moments":spinning: If lights are on- I won't wear it. :blush: If lights are off- he doesn't notice. . . or at least he acts like he doesn't. :grin:
 
Believe it or not I have heard this exact same complaint from my husband. He even went as far to say that he was jealous because the people I work with get to see my hair more than he does. Plain and simple, this was how I was brought up-if your in the house, wrap that head...when you go to sleep, wrap that head. I do try to compromise a little bit like I won't wrap my hair up when I get home until I am actually getting ready for bed. I used to walk in the house, kick my shoes off, wrap my hair, fix dinner, etc. I try to make it later in the evening now to see if that helps him deal a little better:perplexed.

I can say that the majority of my hair health comes from me keeping my satin scarf on it.
 
ShiShiPooPoo said:
Believe it or not I have heard this exact same complaint from my husband. He even went as far to say that he was jealous because the people I work with get to see my hair more than he does. Plain and simple, this was how I was brought up-if your in the house, wrap that head...when you go to sleep, wrap that head. I do try to compromise a little bit like I won't wrap my hair up when I get home until I am actually getting ready for bed. I used to walk in the house, kick my shoes off, wrap my hair, fix dinner, etc. I try to make it later in the evening now to see if that helps him deal a little better:perplexed.

I can say that the majority of my hair health comes from me keeping my satin scarf on it.
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Same here I sleep every night with it wrapped but I don't tie that scarf on till bedtime. I always try to look cute when my Hubbie comes home. I go for the cute pajama set . I don't want him to come home from working all day with other women and look at me and say DAMN!!!:lachen::lachen::lachen:
 
Another poster said they were "always kind of lazy"..this is exactly the reason why I wear a scarf around the house and bed.

I started wearing a scarf religiously because my hair attracts smells. I started limiting how often I fry foods when I noticed one morning, during the elevator ride, I could smell chicken from the night before in my hair.

That's always been an issue - if I'm outside for more than 5 minutes, I come back in and my hair smells like an animal :nono:

So, for years now (mostly because I'm lazy about hair), I walk in the house and before I even take off my shoes I wrap my hair. I initially just wanted to get that part out of the way because my nighttime rituals were long enough (floss, rinse, brush, shower....sometimes I feel like all I do is groom, go to bed and it's time to do it all over again), but I began to see that my hair stayed straighter and now I learn there's another benefit to wrapping :grin:.

:ohwell: Oh, well, the things we do just to maintain.
 
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