I have a friend who's cougaring with a younger guy. She claims she does not want a relationship, (because that's what he said) but she is frequently crying over him cancelling their plans at the last minute.
I told her, if you're already at a disadvantage (age-wise) this dude needs to be extremely special for you to be with him. Like he needs to be kissing your butt something extraordinary. I think young guys are happy to go from bed to bed, and it would need to be demonstrated to me that this is something different for me to be with him.
She said she would not want a guy she could run over. Me, I always have to have a guy that caters to me. I can't function when I am the one who's head over heels. It never works out.
Realizing that these things change over the course of a relationship, when you initially get together who appeared to be in control? If you're single and looking, are you looking to be loved more, or to love more?
I told her, if you're already at a disadvantage (age-wise) this dude needs to be extremely special for you to be with him. Like he needs to be kissing your butt something extraordinary. I think young guys are happy to go from bed to bed, and it would need to be demonstrated to me that this is something different for me to be with him.
She said she would not want a guy she could run over. Me, I always have to have a guy that caters to me. I can't function when I am the one who's head over heels. It never works out.
Realizing that these things change over the course of a relationship, when you initially get together who appeared to be in control? If you're single and looking, are you looking to be loved more, or to love more?