naturallgurl
New Member
Hello all,
I am going to try to make this as short as possible. My family and I have been having issues for the past few months.
One, they dislike my boyfriend, I will be the first to admit that he's not perfect, but it's my choice and my life, I have to live with it...
So here's the situation,
1. I am an only grandchild, and the baby of the family, my father is deceased...
I've been with my grandparents for the past 3 years....
I met my boyfriend a year ago, and my grandma was/is the type of person I felt talking about anything with so when the b.f. would cut up, I would talk to her about it...looking for advice not judgement...
Then she started being judgemental...okay that's to be expected...we used to do a lot together, until I got my own car and went off on my own,this may be a factor...
All of a sudden she would become upset because I would always go to his house. She blames him for everything...
Im 22 and in college and over the Christmas break, I have heard that Im nothing but a disappointment, Im always being compared to my aunt, and Im stupid...and more... she even went as far to say that Im a bigger disappointment than my father being on drugs...WOW!
It gets worse, tonight, she diagnosed me with depression and said that if I have a breakdown it's my fault because of my bf and she was going to send me to the crazy house and let someone else come and get me.
What led to this was...me and my b.f. had an argument over the phone the other night and she heard us, I had a little something to drink and I was a little more hostile than normal. This gave her something new to complain about...
She complains because he...
A. doesn't come over -why? He gets off work late and by the time he gets here it would be 10pm or later...he thinks that this is disrespectful...
I agree, if he did this would be something else for her to complain about...
B. I spent the weekend with him (and I was every kinda of you know what in the book because of it)
Besides that...
everything I seem to do is wrong. I had started to feel Im not liked...since Im constantly being told what a big disappointment I am, so I just layed low...stayed in my room when possible...BUT,
I was lazy and had an attitude...
tonight, as I was being told off...I made a statement and even then I had an attitude and was being disrespectful...to which I replied...I can't talk to you, I was just making a statement and everything I do or I say, you claim I have an attitude. Everything I do now, I have an attitude...I can't say anything...
I've never really had an easy time expressing myself, but for you to be so hostile and judgemental...just pushes me away.
Even worse, she has dragged her sisters(my great aunts) into it...they say I have an attitude, but I hardly see them, so they're going off what she's telling them...
I am at a breaking point... I want/ NEED to move out, but I am a student and Im not working b/c of my class schedule(im looking) and Im stuck...until I graduate next year...but I don't know how much more I can take...
I just lost my maternal grandmother and I feel like Im losing another one...
I need relief from retired, old ladies who have nothing more to do than to meddle and gossip...how do I address this issue without out going off?
I want to tell them that my b.f. is not to blame, Im not my aunt, Im me...and I am tired of constantly hearing how much of a disappoinment I am, that Im stupid, a whore, depressed, crazy, and more...
Every argument... my b.f. comes up and it's his fault that Im like this...OMG,
Ultimately, I know that they want whats best for me, but they sure have a helluva way of expressing it.
HELP! HELP! HELP!
I am going to try to make this as short as possible. My family and I have been having issues for the past few months.
One, they dislike my boyfriend, I will be the first to admit that he's not perfect, but it's my choice and my life, I have to live with it...
So here's the situation,
1. I am an only grandchild, and the baby of the family, my father is deceased...
I've been with my grandparents for the past 3 years....
I met my boyfriend a year ago, and my grandma was/is the type of person I felt talking about anything with so when the b.f. would cut up, I would talk to her about it...looking for advice not judgement...
Then she started being judgemental...okay that's to be expected...we used to do a lot together, until I got my own car and went off on my own,this may be a factor...
All of a sudden she would become upset because I would always go to his house. She blames him for everything...
Im 22 and in college and over the Christmas break, I have heard that Im nothing but a disappointment, Im always being compared to my aunt, and Im stupid...and more... she even went as far to say that Im a bigger disappointment than my father being on drugs...WOW!
It gets worse, tonight, she diagnosed me with depression and said that if I have a breakdown it's my fault because of my bf and she was going to send me to the crazy house and let someone else come and get me.
What led to this was...me and my b.f. had an argument over the phone the other night and she heard us, I had a little something to drink and I was a little more hostile than normal. This gave her something new to complain about...
She complains because he...
A. doesn't come over -why? He gets off work late and by the time he gets here it would be 10pm or later...he thinks that this is disrespectful...
I agree, if he did this would be something else for her to complain about...
B. I spent the weekend with him (and I was every kinda of you know what in the book because of it)
Besides that...
everything I seem to do is wrong. I had started to feel Im not liked...since Im constantly being told what a big disappointment I am, so I just layed low...stayed in my room when possible...BUT,
I was lazy and had an attitude...
tonight, as I was being told off...I made a statement and even then I had an attitude and was being disrespectful...to which I replied...I can't talk to you, I was just making a statement and everything I do or I say, you claim I have an attitude. Everything I do now, I have an attitude...I can't say anything...
I've never really had an easy time expressing myself, but for you to be so hostile and judgemental...just pushes me away.
Even worse, she has dragged her sisters(my great aunts) into it...they say I have an attitude, but I hardly see them, so they're going off what she's telling them...
I am at a breaking point... I want/ NEED to move out, but I am a student and Im not working b/c of my class schedule(im looking) and Im stuck...until I graduate next year...but I don't know how much more I can take...
I just lost my maternal grandmother and I feel like Im losing another one...
I need relief from retired, old ladies who have nothing more to do than to meddle and gossip...how do I address this issue without out going off?
I want to tell them that my b.f. is not to blame, Im not my aunt, Im me...and I am tired of constantly hearing how much of a disappoinment I am, that Im stupid, a whore, depressed, crazy, and more...
Every argument... my b.f. comes up and it's his fault that Im like this...OMG,
Ultimately, I know that they want whats best for me, but they sure have a helluva way of expressing it.
HELP! HELP! HELP!