life_is_great
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Left my husband at the altar.
What would you do differently on your wedding day?
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firecracker
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I WOULD HAVE NOT GOTTEN MARRIED!
StartinOvah
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oh boy! an opportunity to talk about my wedding day!!!
first, i must say that my wedding day was soooo much more than i could have prayed for. we had the absolute best weather and everyone showed on time (for the most part). i didn't stress going into the day because i had an on-point coordinator and a focused maid of honor. and a nice hearty breakfast helped, too!
if i could have changed anything.....
- i would made sure the food stayed out longer. it was banging but they put it away too quickly. some people wanted seconds (and thirds). i mean, it was a buffet. isn't that the point?!
- i would have had more cake and champagne (they were both so good but someone kept cleaning my table!).
- i would have hired a better dj. the people up front didn't like the music, the people in the back couldn't hear it and some people just didn't feel like it.
- i would have talked to more people. i didn't get to meet whole tables full of my husbands relatives.
other than that, no regrets.
hmmm....i'm going to dust off my album and take a trip back to memory lane....
first, i must say that my wedding day was soooo much more than i could have prayed for. we had the absolute best weather and everyone showed on time (for the most part). i didn't stress going into the day because i had an on-point coordinator and a focused maid of honor. and a nice hearty breakfast helped, too!
if i could have changed anything.....
- i would made sure the food stayed out longer. it was banging but they put it away too quickly. some people wanted seconds (and thirds). i mean, it was a buffet. isn't that the point?!
- i would have had more cake and champagne (they were both so good but someone kept cleaning my table!).
- i would have hired a better dj. the people up front didn't like the music, the people in the back couldn't hear it and some people just didn't feel like it.
- i would have talked to more people. i didn't get to meet whole tables full of my husbands relatives.
other than that, no regrets.
hmmm....i'm going to dust off my album and take a trip back to memory lane....
blackbarbie
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mrspatriceww said:
.................my sentiments exactly
No, I take that back; I never would have even met him there!!!
I had a moment...when I was standing there that I thought to myself "what are you doing?" "Don't do this!"....I thought it was just cold feet...I wish instead that I would have listened to myself and stopped the wedding. Going through a divorce is a lot harder than cancelling a wedding.
godzooki
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What would I do different on my wedding day? Well, for starters, I'd remember to take off my jacket! Hubby and I suddenly ran off and eloped and everything happened at warp speed. We ran off to Reno, NV, rushed to the court house and then rushed back to a chapel and were immediately married by a woman with a thick drawling accent that had us snorting the entire ceremony. We tried to be married before midnight but ended up being officially married on the Veteren's Day holiday, not to mention 3 days before my birthday. (Hubby has no excuse to forget our anniversary due to it being on a holiday!) I was married in jeans, t-shirt and a jean jacket and tennis shoes. Hubby was in jeans and tee also... Oh, yeah...We also had "kidnapped" two of our friends to be best man and witness but when we went to snatch them, the idiots had been spending hours smoking and loading up on "you know what" and the whole 3+ hr ride up to Reno, thought we were joking and really going to gamble. They were so loaded and giggled the entire time. During the cermoney, the best man, after a round of giggles suddenly has a lucid momment and exclaims loudly and in shock "You guys are serious???"
After getting married we gambled for a couple of hours and then drove home...In pea soup fog. We had to drive 5 miles an hr on the road at one point because we could'nt see. We could barely see the divider and were inching up an incline on the side of a hill. On the other side (passenger)we could barely make out where the road suddenly veered down to who knew what. It was scary as S*** and all I could think about was we just got married and were going to end up dead from driving off a cliff in the fog. Suddenly the car (our lowered camaro) ran over something hard. I swear we all screamed as the car suddenly jumped into the air with a loud "bam!" Not being able to see because of the fog and already scared out of our wits that we'd drive off the road and down the cliff or worse, hit an on comming car, we thought we were dead! Hubby was too afraid that another car would smack into us if we stopped and kept going. we never knew what we hit but hubby later thought it might have been a huge chunk of tire tread from a big rig because when we finally got home he looked over the car and a section of the hard rubber trim was sliced but none of the metal undercarriage was damaged.. No bodies were reported found that night so we knew it would'nt turn out to be an "I know what you did last summer". We got home early the next morning and I promptly called in sick to work telling everyone we'd eloped, which was a mistake because the next day when I came in I swear everyone demanded to know if I was pregnant! Oh, yeah, did I mention that we were flat broke that week so I went and wrote a check for cash for money we did'nt have in our account yet knowing we'd get a payday on Tues. (it was Sunday). We've been married for almost 15yrs but I still think about having a real ceremony. Maybe for our 20th...
Dang...Did'nt expect to write something so long...Sorry!
After getting married we gambled for a couple of hours and then drove home...In pea soup fog. We had to drive 5 miles an hr on the road at one point because we could'nt see. We could barely see the divider and were inching up an incline on the side of a hill. On the other side (passenger)we could barely make out where the road suddenly veered down to who knew what. It was scary as S*** and all I could think about was we just got married and were going to end up dead from driving off a cliff in the fog. Suddenly the car (our lowered camaro) ran over something hard. I swear we all screamed as the car suddenly jumped into the air with a loud "bam!" Not being able to see because of the fog and already scared out of our wits that we'd drive off the road and down the cliff or worse, hit an on comming car, we thought we were dead! Hubby was too afraid that another car would smack into us if we stopped and kept going. we never knew what we hit but hubby later thought it might have been a huge chunk of tire tread from a big rig because when we finally got home he looked over the car and a section of the hard rubber trim was sliced but none of the metal undercarriage was damaged.. No bodies were reported found that night so we knew it would'nt turn out to be an "I know what you did last summer"
. We got home early the next morning and I promptly called in sick to work telling everyone we'd eloped, which was a mistake because the next day when I came in I swear everyone demanded to know if I was pregnant! Oh, yeah, did I mention that we were flat broke that week so I went and wrote a check for cash for money we did'nt have in our account yet knowing we'd get a payday on Tues. (it was Sunday). We've been married for almost 15yrs but I still think about having a real ceremony. Maybe for our 20th...Dang...Did'nt expect to write something so long...Sorry!
UmSumayyah
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Uhhhh... yeah. I think it's time for another ceremony. 
I'm just glad you made it back alive from your big day.
I'm just glad you made it back alive from your big day.
MissYocairis
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If I could have done something differently that day....I would have listened to my intuition, stuck to my decision and kept it called off....(yes, I called it off the DAY OF...and changed my mind an hour later) 
StrawberryQueen
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Bump 
If I could have done something differently that day....I would have listened to my intuition, stuck to my decision and kept it called off....(yes, I called it off the DAY OF...and changed my mind an hour later)
Wow me too.... If had known what I know now there would have been no wedding. I did not not listen to my intuition back then
I have been divorced for years now.To train or not to train. NOT I had a 10 foot train and I was concentrating so hard on not falling over, standing up etc. that I was not concentrating on marrying DH. My serious advice is manageable trains, ladies, it is not worth the hassle.
SweetCaramel1
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in general, don't have high expectations of other people, family included. no one cares about your wedding as much as you do. 
carcajada
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Top 5 List of Changes
1) Cursed out the florist then demanded she do her job
2) Got the top of my cake (since no one else remembered, it got trashed. So much for anniversary cake
)
3) Demanded my wedding coordinator check her pinky finger (she put my wedding band on her pinky, forgot, and then gave DH her ugly middle finger ring for the ceremony...DUH! Look down at your other hand, ****!
)
4) Took home all left over food
5) Took 1,000 pictures with my family before his family. (If I would have known they were acting like babies, then I would have catered to them and their whining on my wedding day. They caused sooo much drama afterwards...even broke things at our townhouse)
Thank G*d that day and the drama is over.
1) Cursed out the florist then demanded she do her job
2) Got the top of my cake (since no one else remembered, it got trashed. So much for anniversary cake
)3) Demanded my wedding coordinator check her pinky finger (she put my wedding band on her pinky, forgot, and then gave DH her ugly middle finger ring for the ceremony...DUH! Look down at your other hand, ****!
)4) Took home all left over food
5) Took 1,000 pictures with my family before his family. (If I would have known they were acting like babies, then I would have catered to them and their whining on my wedding day. They caused sooo much drama afterwards...even broke things at our townhouse
)Thank G*d that day and the drama is over.
I would have had a small wedding
I would have excluded most of his family
I would have excluded some of my family
I would not have gotten married at my church. My ex messed with the microphone so that they didn't work
I would have insisted that things be done my way
I would have paid someone else to handle everything
I would have had the reception at a different location
I would have done my hair myself exstead of having the MIL do it
I would have had a different DJ
I wish I was happier on the day and not so worried, upset, nervous and concerned about others.
I wish I had not had a wedding.
That's it for now.
I would have excluded most of his family
I would have excluded some of my family
I would not have gotten married at my church. My ex messed with the microphone so that they didn't work
I would have insisted that things be done my way
I would have paid someone else to handle everything
I would have had the reception at a different location
I would have done my hair myself exstead of having the MIL do it
I would have had a different DJ
I wish I was happier on the day and not so worried, upset, nervous and concerned about others.
I wish I had not had a wedding.
That's it for now.
deola
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Well one thing I was sure to do on my wedding day was live in the moment and boy did I ever!
I got to the door of the church before my hubby and waited for like 15 mins for him (by then the service had started and I was in the church without him!). I also left my bouquet at home cos I was running late and had to call my parent's house from my cell in the church for someone to locate it and bring it to me!), my bridal train which consisted of 2 guys and 2 ladies got to the church like 20mins after I got there
My darhleeeeeeen hubby came later scowling cos he had car trouble. But like I said I had had a small talk with myself and we (me, myself and I and my hubby) had agreed to enjoy the day no matter what!
Some family members who I had never heard of whined a bit (but I didn't care since I had never heard of them before). The food was guzzled up- so some guests did not get to eat. But I had instructed my sisters that everyone on the high table including my parents, parents-in-law, hubby and myself must be properly taken care of and we were!
So would I change anything?
Yes in retrospect, the music was provided by a live band and it turned out to be live nonsense, our pictures did not come out like I wanted them and though I love my mother-in-law, I would have had her seat at the back cos her frown was not pretty in my pictures!
But we enjoyed our day cos we married the right person(s) and love each other to death!
I got to the door of the church before my hubby and waited for like 15 mins for him (by then the service had started and I was in the church without him!). I also left my bouquet at home cos I was running late and had to call my parent's house from my cell in the church for someone to locate it and bring it to me!), my bridal train which consisted of 2 guys and 2 ladies got to the church like 20mins after I got there
My darhleeeeeeen hubby came later scowling cos he had car trouble. But like I said I had had a small talk with myself and we (me, myself and I and my hubby) had agreed to enjoy the day no matter what!
Some family members who I had never heard of whined a bit (but I didn't care since I had never heard of them before). The food was guzzled up- so some guests did not get to eat. But I had instructed my sisters that everyone on the high table including my parents, parents-in-law, hubby and myself must be properly taken care of and we were!
So would I change anything?
Yes in retrospect, the music was provided by a live band and it turned out to be live nonsense, our pictures did not come out like I wanted them and though I love my mother-in-law, I would have had her seat at the back cos her frown was not pretty in my pictures!
But we enjoyed our day cos we married the right person(s) and love each other to death!
I would have chose a different hall, although it was decorated beautifully. I would have gotten my hair, makeup and nails done professionally. I did them myself, it seemed I ran out of time. I would have also got a facial.
I would not have worn the veil over my head, as I walked down the isle. I would have gotten less pleats in my dress. I wanted some but the lady got pleat happy. I had so many of those darn little pinches in my dress, each offset with a little crystal. I was a sparkling fool. Oh...I would not have used my friend mom's catering service. She charged me an arm and a leg and only bought two people with her to serve(trying to help a sista out). My coordinator and her sister help with the serving. She would have had to pay out of her pocket for more people. I thought that was crazy!
I would have hired a different dj. I forgot to invite some people, in the whole crazy wedding plans, I feel bad to this day. It was just a crazy time. I would go on a honeymoon. I never got a chance to go anywhere. Finances played a part. Oh...I would not have aske my two cousins to be bridesmaids. I did it because my mom asked me and they played me. They used the excuse, my coordinator didn't call them back. Even though she left a message that included her name and number and fitting date and time. More importantly...they never called me once. I was mad at myself for listening to my mom. The weren't on my list initially to be a bridesmaid.
It's funny...I always find something wrong with my wedding when I watch those wedding shows! LOL!
I would not have worn the veil over my head, as I walked down the isle. I would have gotten less pleats in my dress. I wanted some but the lady got pleat happy. I had so many of those darn little pinches in my dress, each offset with a little crystal. I was a sparkling fool. Oh...I would not have used my friend mom's catering service. She charged me an arm and a leg and only bought two people with her to serve(trying to help a sista out). My coordinator and her sister help with the serving. She would have had to pay out of her pocket for more people. I thought that was crazy!
I would have hired a different dj. I forgot to invite some people, in the whole crazy wedding plans, I feel bad to this day. It was just a crazy time. I would go on a honeymoon. I never got a chance to go anywhere. Finances played a part. Oh...I would not have aske my two cousins to be bridesmaids. I did it because my mom asked me and they played me. They used the excuse, my coordinator didn't call them back. Even though she left a message that included her name and number and fitting date and time. More importantly...they never called me once. I was mad at myself for listening to my mom. The weren't on my list initially to be a bridesmaid.
It's funny...I always find something wrong with my wedding when I watch those wedding shows! LOL!
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LadyPaniolo
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* NO FAMILY. Just us two.
* I would have worn something prettier.
* I would have chosen our vows instead of leaving it to someone else.
I would never change my wedding day, really, though. Cuz I feel like we got a blessing that day. We were on our way to the courthouse when we saw an older man in a wheelchair have an accident. He was trying to get up on a curb and his wheelchair fell into the road! This was literally 1 second after I told DH to be careful of that man in the wheelchair.
We instantly pulled over, and DH put the man back into his chair. I helped him gather up his belongings, including his spilled money, that fell all over the ground. We were running late but we stayed there with him, making sure he was OK and talking to him. He felt so embarassed and humiliated by his accident. He felt better when we left, though.
I feel like we got a cosmic blessing that day, to be able to help someone in thier hour of need like that. The other cars just zoomed by, but we didn't even think about it, we instantly helped this man out. I'm not a religious person, but I almost feel like this man was God in disguise. (Does that make me sound wierd?)
* I would have worn something prettier.
* I would have chosen our vows instead of leaving it to someone else.
I would never change my wedding day, really, though. Cuz I feel like we got a blessing that day. We were on our way to the courthouse when we saw an older man in a wheelchair have an accident. He was trying to get up on a curb and his wheelchair fell into the road! This was literally 1 second after I told DH to be careful of that man in the wheelchair.
We instantly pulled over, and DH put the man back into his chair. I helped him gather up his belongings, including his spilled money, that fell all over the ground. We were running late but we stayed there with him, making sure he was OK and talking to him. He felt so embarassed and humiliated by his accident. He felt better when we left, though.
I feel like we got a cosmic blessing that day, to be able to help someone in thier hour of need like that. The other cars just zoomed by, but we didn't even think about it, we instantly helped this man out. I'm not a religious person, but I almost feel like this man was God in disguise. (Does that make me sound wierd?)
WaterMoccasin
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What would I do differently? At "Do you take so-and-so to be your lawfully wedded husband" I would say no and run like hell.
Evolving78
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I wish I didn't had to go to work the night before. I came home early, but I was rushing getting dressed. I did my own hair and makeup. That came out nice. I wish we would have gotten a cake. Just because I like cake. (not buttercreme frosting though)
Bmack
Active Member
Wow, I remember this thread....still would do the same things below...when my board name was Bmm...
I would have calmed down with all the stressing I was doing over alot of the small things. My nerves were shot. I was vomiting the day before my wedding.
I would have made sure that the flowers at the hall was what I thought they were going to be...um, I would have made sure my dress was tighter around my tata's... It was a lil loose.
Over all though I realize that no matter what you can not control every detail. I did enjoy my day though, and I bet no one else noticed anything unless I called their attention to it.
I have pics of my wedding in my fotki .
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