envybeauty
New Member
Without commenting (much), I thought it would be interesting to start a thread about what men ACTUALLY say about relationships. Straight from the horse's mouth!
Well, in a lively discussion about where the single men are and why Black women are not married ... a man posted some of his thoughts. I thought to share
Oh...and he is currently dating but not married.
Right or wrong.....this is how SOME men think. It would help some women just to read/hear what men really say (as opposed to what we think they say).
What do the men around you say? quote when possible PLEASE
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I don't think I would ever want to marry a woman that brought up the topic of marriage before me. As a man, I think it should be my idea and not hers. I know it sounds "cave mannish", but I hate to even think that some woman engineered my life. If I am going to have to accept all this responsibility that comes with marriage, then I want it to be of my own doing. I don't want to be miserable and think "This wasn't even my idea". I would much rather be miserable and think "Hey, I got myself into this mess, so I guess I have to see this thru". I live a very good life right now, and I refuse to believe that if I got married tomorrow that my life would somehow be transformed into this fairytale that has been sold to us in magazines and movies. If and when I choose to have kids, then I think it will make sense for me to alter the life I already love.
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Many of my married guy friends tell their wives or girlfriends gave them an
ultimatum. I have been given that ultimatum and I basically told my
ex-girlfriend of 3 years to get lost. I knew that there was no way I could
remain faithful, so I let her go. I believe its better to have a happy
boyfriend than a miserable husband. She moved to Florida and has yet to
find a husband. So much for moving to another state to find a better choice
of man. Please understand that I am not saying that I will never get
married, but it will be on my terms. I refuse to bend over backwards just
because I am afraid to lose a woman.
Well, in a lively discussion about where the single men are and why Black women are not married ... a man posted some of his thoughts. I thought to share
Right or wrong.....this is how SOME men think. It would help some women just to read/hear what men really say (as opposed to what we think they say).
What do the men around you say? quote when possible PLEASE
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I don't think I would ever want to marry a woman that brought up the topic of marriage before me. As a man, I think it should be my idea and not hers. I know it sounds "cave mannish", but I hate to even think that some woman engineered my life. If I am going to have to accept all this responsibility that comes with marriage, then I want it to be of my own doing. I don't want to be miserable and think "This wasn't even my idea". I would much rather be miserable and think "Hey, I got myself into this mess, so I guess I have to see this thru". I live a very good life right now, and I refuse to believe that if I got married tomorrow that my life would somehow be transformed into this fairytale that has been sold to us in magazines and movies. If and when I choose to have kids, then I think it will make sense for me to alter the life I already love.
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Many of my married guy friends tell their wives or girlfriends gave them an
ultimatum. I have been given that ultimatum and I basically told my
ex-girlfriend of 3 years to get lost. I knew that there was no way I could
remain faithful, so I let her go. I believe its better to have a happy
boyfriend than a miserable husband. She moved to Florida and has yet to
find a husband. So much for moving to another state to find a better choice
of man. Please understand that I am not saying that I will never get
married, but it will be on my terms. I refuse to bend over backwards just
because I am afraid to lose a woman.