My friend, let's call Dudette, broke up with her boyfriend, Dude a week ago. They were together for I guess 8 months before she had to move for school so they've been long distance for about 5-6 months.
There's been an ongoing problem with him constantly taking her for granted, putting his videogames and his band first before her. She breaks up with him. Then (this has happened countless times) he calls and says they shouldn't break up and she takes him back. But then something breaks the pattern this time, he all of a sudden starts giving her reasons why they should break up (this is a week after their reconciliation) and that he didn't love her. So it's over (again).
Then he calls her a few days later
saying "I miss us" and "we should get back together". She blows him off. He keeps calling. I commend her for that though cause everyone has been saying she's been a doormat.
Anyways, she had booked a flight to see him (for a month) before the drama happened so she had to go anyway, she is at his house now (awkward), she's leaving for her friend's house the next day though and staying with her the whole duration of her trip. He's not home (on tour or something) but his roommates are there. She's IM'ing telling me crazy things like she wants him back so much, she doesn't care if he'll hurt her. A sample of the convo:
[6:54:10 PM] comatose: he misses being your priority while you're the back-burner to his band
[6:54:27 PM] Dudette: whats wrong with that comatose
He's been real selfish and refused to go see her, giving her excuses that he might be on tour. She even offered to pay for him to come see her. What do I tell her so she can snap out of this/general opinions? She's scaring me.
There's been an ongoing problem with him constantly taking her for granted, putting his videogames and his band first before her. She breaks up with him. Then (this has happened countless times) he calls and says they shouldn't break up and she takes him back. But then something breaks the pattern this time, he all of a sudden starts giving her reasons why they should break up (this is a week after their reconciliation) and that he didn't love her. So it's over (again).
Then he calls her a few days later
saying "I miss us" and "we should get back together". She blows him off. He keeps calling. I commend her for that though cause everyone has been saying she's been a doormat.Anyways, she had booked a flight to see him (for a month) before the drama happened so she had to go anyway, she is at his house now (awkward), she's leaving for her friend's house the next day though and staying with her the whole duration of her trip. He's not home (on tour or something) but his roommates are there. She's IM'ing telling me crazy things like she wants him back so much, she doesn't care if he'll hurt her. A sample of the convo:
[6:54:10 PM] comatose: he misses being your priority while you're the back-burner to his band
[6:54:27 PM] Dudette: whats wrong with that comatose
He's been real selfish and refused to go see her, giving her excuses that he might be on tour. She even offered to pay for him to come see her. What do I tell her so she can snap out of this/general opinions? She's scaring me.
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UGHHHHH. But you guys are right, we learn on our own. I know I did! 
