What I learned from Becky today.....

[JayAnn0513]

she planted the idea in his head, and then she's going to act as though it was all his work

I like it.

That is How to handle a man 101! I like Becky's style.


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[Triniwegian]

That's a cute story. People refer to me as wife often when SO and I are out and about and I am quick to say "I am not his wife" or "We are not married". It hasen't done jack to speed up the process in my case lol

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[frizzy]

I don't see the problem. If a woman is gonna "scheme" or be "thirsty" then this seems like the way to do it. A simple plan. And like others said, if he wasn't marriage-minded she would find out sooner rather than later. It's not like she pinned a baby on him or something. Dang.

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^How many times has that been tried and failed.

I bet they verbally "played" husband and wife all day. *cute

 

[frizzy]

That's a cute story. People refer to me as wife often when SO and I are out and about and I am quick to say "I am not his wife" or "We are not married". It hasen't done jack to speed up the process in my case lol

Conterria
Now, you can't sound or be pissed-off when you say that! You will scare the fella! j/k

 

[tarheelgurl]

That is How to handle a man 101! I like Becky's style.


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This is exactly what I was thinking....none of that 3 years down the road and not knowing what he thinks of you. And it was handled so delicately. None of that cussing and shouting and emotion of not knowing and being confused in a relationship. She knows how to work a man. I aint mad at her.

 

[TrueToHair]

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[Triniwegian]

Conterria
Now, you can't sound or be pissed-off when you say that! You will scare the fella! j/k

Oh no goodness. I either laugh or smile when I say it, I just say it because I can't stand it when when men call their GF their wife. He doesn't have that privelege yet Lol

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[ladysaraii]

I love the way you told the story. And included the hot dog man!

The bits about the hot dog man was cracking me up

 

[yardyspice]

Two months?

 

[beebstt]

great story op. i'll keep this story in mind . beck musta really trusted you because you coulda really messed up her situation if you wanted to on account of how pissed you probably were at waiting for your friend.

 

[C@ssandr@]

Dang, if this is thirsty what isn't?

If someone asked me to do that favor, I would've. I don't think the OP had enough time to read into the situation...being manipulative?? He seemed like a nice guy, by his reaction...so if we're gonna read into the situation that deep can't we say that he's really into her? I mean the man did react like he was ok with the comment.

 

[Charz]

aint nothing thirsty about it IMO.

I think the thirsty/desperate/controller comments are because it was a becky

 

[Jynlnd13]

Cute story! I envisioned this happening in NYC, not sure if you mentioned that in your post or not. I think this was a smart move on Becky's part, no need to waste time on someone who is not headed in the same direction as you. I didn't find anything manipulative or thirsty about what she did.

 

[tarheelgurl]

Cute story! I envisioned this happening in NYC, not sure if you mentioned that in your post or not. I think this was a smart move on Becky's part, no need to waste time on someone who is not headed in the same direction as you. I didn't find anything manipulative or thirsty about what she did.

No, it was downtown Raleigh where all of the museums are.

 

[Makenzie]

Cute story..... I like her aporoach. I don't see manipulation and thirstiness. She found a way to have her unasked question answered without any awkwardness due to only being in the relationship for 2 months.

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[greight]

Cute story..... I like her aporoach. I don't see manipulation and thirstiness. She found a way to have her unasked question answered without any awkwardness due to only being in the relationship for 2 months.

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I'd do it

I think guys put you in either future wife or present GF categories when dating early on. They may not be married this year, but the girl can see where his mind is re: her. She knows what her status is with the guy.

 

[ellebelle88]

I'd do it too. As a matter of fact, thanks for posting this story.

 

[MyInvisibleChyrsalis]

I love this idea. I had one guy pay anyone willing to duet a love song with him to his girlfriend. Turns out he had a great voice and while we sang "Love", he got down on one knee to propose to her. I made 20 bucks! Unfortunately, Ive gotten the other version. A guy walked up to me, flirted and chatted me up to try and get my number. Turns out he was hired by my jerk ex to spy on me.

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[SweetNic_JA]

Cute story! I've had similar experiences, too, but the funniest is:

Once my SO and I were walking to the store and someone drove by in a truck and the passenger yelled "put a ring on it!"

 

[frizzy]

^Haha, LOVE it!

 

[InchHighPrivateEye]

You know what? I'm not above doing this. But you have to pick the right stranger to ask because clearly if you were mean or crazy that would have ended up *Tamar Braxton voice* TOTALLY DIFFERENT. lol

I do think men that already feel good about you, but might benefit from a little push, react positively to that sort of feedback.

 

[Do_Si_Dos]

This is a cute story!
Lol@ the title of the thread. Beckys stay getting wifed up so I believe there is a method to the madness.

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[kismettt]

this was cute. dying @ the hot dog man.

 

[LadyPaniolo]

Was it a shade manipulative/passive-aggressive? Well, yeah. But it was also wise. As much as men talk that stuff about wanting a woman to be upfront and totally clear with her feelings/desires/expectations.... they can't handle that without getting freaked out. So Becky hatched a plot in which nobody got hurt, nobody got used, and everything was low-key. Brilliant.

 

[Windsy]

Like it....at least she can make a decision as to whether she should continue seeing him or not.

 

[*SkolarStar*]

:claps: for Becky's future ring! You should get an invite op.

Her plan made sense and if I had the opportunity I'd do the same thing. Reading this situation makes me realize that I don't do enough to really find out what's going on in the guy's head. Not to say that every first date will be a test of faith but say we're dating for a few months and he comes to church with me. What could I do? Give one of my church sisters the wink and they'll know what to do.

 

[Christina Dior]

this is like something out of a movie lol cute

 

[InchHighPrivateEye]

This is a cute story!
Lol@ the title of the thread. Beckys stay getting wifed up so I believe there is a method to the madness.

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I feel kind of how that white lady that made the youtube video about "the butters" must have felt. What other secrets have yall been hiding from us!?



I know that a couple of guys I have dated have seemed pleased (as an adult they've seem pleased, because in middle/high school it would be like "uh uh. noooo!" I'm guessing that's the reaction you DON'T want ) with people referring to us an attractive couple or telling them things like "hold on to that one, man," or stuff like that but it never occurred to me pay attention to their reaction and/or proactively use it to my advantage.

Hm. *thinking cap activated*

 

[Iammoney]

cant knock the hustle

 

[tarheelgurl]

cant knock the hustle

Nope, sho can't!