What grade would you give your mother for haircare?

[QBOE2001]

I give my dad an A-. My dad raised me as a single parent so he always did my hair. Thankfully my grandma who had waist length hair taught him how to take care of my hair and threatened to cut him if he let any of his female friends touch my hair (lol). She would often tell him that if those women wanted a doll to play with they had best go buy a barbie! Grandma made sure he washed and conditioned my hair every week, used olive oil as a hair grease and tied it up at night. The only negative was that my hair was always braided and my father never did learn to make a straight part!!!!!! My head never saw a chemical nor had more than a dusting until I was grown and paying all my own bills. I wasn't even allowed to comb my own hair until I turned 13 and even then I had to pass "inspection" before being allowed to go outside.

 

[Charlie555]

I would give her a solid A. I never left the house looking crazy and weekly washes were a must.

 

[BlackMasterPiece]

I think I'd give her a B+. She always kept my hair neat and styled, she always emphasized that my hair was beautiful and perfect natural and that it should stay that way. My hair was always relatively long and thick growing up .

However styling my hair often took way too long and would result in tears. I became accustomed to the "snapping" sound 4a coily hair makes when combed a bit too roughly or quickly, she did eventually start to try to hold the hair tight in the middle of each section so I wouldn't feel it as much but yea......she used to always press my hair for special occasions....for years that sent me a subliminal message about looking presentable and pretty without her even realizing it.

She had me sleep with a cotton headscarf at night (she no idea) and she always greased my scalp with a mineral oil/ petroleum based grease, its what she knew. My hair didn't look horrible at all it was pretty long and definitely thick, but she didn't know about retaining length. She did what she knew to do then, and now that I'm teaching her healthy hair practices her hair is thriving and growing

 

[mariofmagdal]

From age 1-5 she gets an A

Don't remember when, but she eventually sent me and my sis every two weeks to have it professionally done. My sis and I always had healthy hair. So, she gets an A all around.

 

[MJ]

An "F"!

 

[Likeyouneverseenme]

A+.
It was gorgeous and waist lenght till I started messing with it at 15.

 

[ceebee3]

My mother gets an A+, she didn't know a darn thing about hair so she never touched my hair.

She left it in the hands of my very capable aunts. My hair was washed conditioned, and braided every week.

No chemicals, no hot comb, no heat until I started begging for a relaxer at 13. Downhill from there.

My mother went to a stylist to get her own hair done.

 

[snillohsss]

oh man...

Well she tried, but she fried my hair with a hot comb daily. I had frenchbraids with beads for a while, but it never grew past ear length ever. No moisture, just grease. Then I got a jheri curl, and we know what that meant.

I never knew how to properly care for my hair ever in my life. I constantly relaxed it, never knowing what my true texture looked like. Then I came to LHCF.

I was always neat, but my hair broke off regularly but she just chalked it up to "black hair doesn't grow long".

For that, I have to give her an F. I will give her an A+ for effort.

 

[LookingandListening]

C-. My mom COULD do my hair--really well. But she HATED doing it. I give her a pass since I WAS the baby after 10.5 years and had very dense, spongy unpredictable hair. I think she was tired after the first two girls and being the 3rd oldest of 14 in the house. BUT--my sister gets an A. She was/is a little rough but my hair was always soft, pretty and LONG LONG because she used to it. When she went to college though--erplexed.

 

[cutenss]

A+++. My mom did an AWESOME job on me and my sisters hair. And it was always long and thick. She combed it every day for school. And a different style every day, not just the typical ponytail.. It was something to get compliments from teachers about your hair. On the weekends she washed and style. And when she would french braid our hair, she would always adorn it with beads. Just enough, not millions like I see some kids wear. We had a routine. She would always say: "Go get the comb, the brush, the grease and the can". The "can" was filled with barrettes, bows, balls, etc. And the snoopy shaped brush keep our edges smooth. I love my mommy

 

[Urban]

I'd give her a solid A. She was so gentle with my hair. The only thing she ever put in it was Vaseline and she made sure I was always in protective styles like the African thread styles... My hair was so thick back then ...

 

[Lita]

Perfect 5. She took great care of my hair.(It was soooo thick & healthy)
Happy Hair Growing!

 

[Keedah]

I would give my mom an A-. She is a stickler for doing my hair everyday and even used to let me pick the style (my fave was 2 puffs in the front and 1 in the back lol). I remember sitting down every morning as she redid my hair. She used to get mad at me on a daily basis for going out to recess in kindergarten and messing up my hair lol. Special occassions like pictures called for ribbons and a million twists with ballies. Sometimes shed keep my hair in braids for a few weeks. I didnt give her an A+ cause she loves grease! My hair thrived though and my baby sis hair is thriving too so I guess it wasnt that bad.

 

[longhairlover]

5! A+++++++ she was a stylist though and really knew her stuff, she kept my hair really healthy. she would do my friends hair too and now they have nice lengths of healthy hair, she got them started.

 

[aquajoyice]

I would have to give my mom an A, she did the best with the limited amount of information and tools that where available to african americans at the time.

 

[mscocoface]

Momma was ALWAYS getting someone else to do my hair.

If I had a nickle for everytime she said, "Lawd that chile has too much hair!" It did not help that I was also tenderheaded.

I would be very very wealthy right now.

I guess I would give her a C- and that was because she did have enough sense to send me to someone else who could do it when she did not want to.

I learned at an early age how to do my hair and my sisters hair.

 

[mxdchiq86]

a 1.

my mom is white, not to mention that she's not from this country, so she had no clue what to do with my hair. i think i just wore pigtails or half up/half down everyday. she always let me sleep with my hair out and it would be a tangled jungle every morning and i'd cry through her brushing through it. 1st grade i cried to her that i wanted longer hair and i wanted a weave.. so she put 12 huge LOOSE weave box braids in my hair and...... okay, i'm done here. i give her a 1.

 

[LushLox]

B or 4. My mum didn't have the best of hair styles but my hair was always washed and moisturised (or should I say greased) and I always looked neat; my hair was a healthy APl then. She point blank said no when I begged her to get a relaxer. Then, because I knew better, I went and got a relaxer behind her back when I was 15. She was really angry with me, and now I can see why.

 

[melodies815]

I'm not sure if 1 or 5 is the best on your scale, so I am going to just give my mom an A+++.

She washed our (me and baby sister) hair weekly and kept us in age appropriate styles. I can't recall her hurting me when combing or anything like that. What I do recall is her taking me to a stylist to get a relaxer at age 5 or 6...and I recall my hair being somewhere close to my shoulders. I shook it and played in it endlessly.

By 6th grade, I was doing my own hair...and it looked super crazy. I think I asked my mom to stop and I started trying to learn. I made a mess and she let me...but eventually, I learned enough to be presentable. It took over a year though.

I love my mommy, and I think she did the best she knew with what she had to work with at the time. She gave me a great springboard to eventually jump into healthy haircare.

cj

 

[Nayeli]

My mother did right by me. She gets an A+. My hair was natural till I was 14 I believe. She was in sole control of my hair till then. It was always soft, always moisturized. Once every two weeks I would get a wash and condition and I would lie across her lap for medium sized plaits that would last all the way through.

 

[longhairlover]

poor thing, well your hair is beautiful now.

a 1.

my mom is white, not to mention that she's not from this country, so she had no clue what to do with my hair. i think i just wore pigtails or half up/half down everyday. she always let me sleep with my hair out and it would be a tangled jungle every morning and i'd cry through her brushing through it. 1st grade i cried to her that i wanted longer hair and i wanted a weave.. so she put 12 huge LOOSE weave box braids in my hair and...... okay, i'm done here. i give her a 1.

 

[toinette]

A-. She washed my hair every week, my hair was always styled and combed, and always moisturized. Sure it was with grease but it wasnt dry. I give her an A- only cause when i was 8 and my dad went down to Miami, my mom up and put a relaxer in my head.I was so happy at the time but I know now that I was too young. When my dad came back he was so mad so I grew it out and didnt get another relaxer until right before my senior year of high school

 

[clever]

A+ . My mom was using techniques back in the early 90s that I have recently re-encountered on the hair forums (i.e. using olive oil, eggs, DC weekly, etc). My hair was TBL and very healthy until I started getting relaxers.

Man I forgot about those egg treatments.I used to run and hide behind the coach before she could get me ...especially those apple cider hair washings.

 

[Mizz Diamonds]

Definetly an A I had the biggest afro puffs out of my 2 sisters my mum was paitient with me since I was tender headed and couldn't let anyone else touch my scalp without shivering then crying when getting it braided (i took my tender headed-ness from my dad) Hair was soft since she used

Products of choice: shea butter, s curl lotion and sulfur 8

I was 10 the first time she hot combed it the old school hot comb on the stove way and it was really one of the first time i got to experience it without the shrinkage and it was swangin

 

[it_comes_naturally]

I'd give my mom an A. My hair was long and healthy. She didn't really have styling skills, but I won't hold that against her. I don't remember her using a mositurizer, though. I never had any problems with breakage. She didn't use any "special" products or all natural products. She used 99 cent sauve shampoo and conditioner every 2wks....sulfates and all and my hair was thriving. Makes me wonder why, I've jumped on the all natural bandwagon.

 

[Highly Favored8]

I would give her a A and a 5. She never had to relax my hair.

 

[Miss*Tress]

I would say a C...my hair always looked nice and my mother had hair care knowledge because she discouraged direct heat and emphasized PS'ing...but after I relaxed my hair without her approval, she kind of gave up on caring for my hair.

You need to give your mom an A already. LOL

 

[ctosha]

A++ My mom washed every two weeks blow dried and cornrowed. I repeated this process my whole life until i was 16 and got a perm. I was basically in protective styles for almost 16 years never had a trim used grease and my hair flourished. I am now natural for almost 3 years i would say the longest layer of my hair is bra strap so I am currently trying to be very healthy with my hair.

 

[babyb900]

I'd give her a B-, just because she gave me a perm early, not because my hair was kinky, it was just to thick and curly that she didnt want to devote the time needed to it. I want to go natural, but I'm not willing to devote the time to go back right now. But my hair was always long and well taken care of other than fact. So yeah, A B would be fine.

 

[10WordzOrLess]

My Mom gets a 2...I mean, I was permed too early, and I'd have perm burn every 6 weeks, my head scarf would have to be ripped away from my fried scalp in the morning . When all my hair broke off, then she decided It's time for me to go natural...And I guess she didn't understand that natural means NO PERMED EDGES...Ya'll I was in middle school lookin' like I'd taken an glue stick, and rubbed it all around my hair line.. HOT MESS. The only reason she doesn't get a "1" is because when I turned 16...SHE LEFT MY HAIR ALONE!