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What grade would you give your mother for haircare?
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ajacks
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My mother gets a 1.5. She let me start doing my own hair at nine years old, which was way too young. She would let her crazy cousin experiment on my hair, giving me relaxers with touch ups twice a year. The only reason I did not give her an "1" was because she did care a little when I was 11 and nearly bald from two years of mishandling. The bad part was her solution to the problem was to give me a gheri curl.
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PerplexingComplex
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She gets an A for my hair and a D for her's. It's weird how everything she does/did to her hair she would never do to mine. She didn't want my hair to break off, yet she was always trying to get her's to grow.
doll-baby
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My mom would get a 4 . My hair was super duper thick and long and kinky ! She had to drag me from under the table every time it was time for her to do my hair. When I was 5 she put a jehri curl in my hair, my hair eventually broke off (it was mid back length). By the time I reached my teens years I had ear length hair an had discovered weaves (and weave glue), But now many years later I am taking care of my hair and giving my mom tips for her hair.
SouthernDimps
Active Member
I would definitely give my mother an 5 even though she used the hot comb weekly and used bergamont to "oil my scalp." My hair was very healthy when I had my first relaxer at 11 because of deep conditioning twice a month. I was MBL throughout middle and high school.
jerseyjill
New Member
An F - I lived with my grandmother who either used Ivory soap and no conditioner, or Baby shampoo and no conditioner. Then she would fry it with dixie peach and a straightening comb and abused it further with rubber bands - the worst.
almondjoi85
New Member
I would say a C. I looked back through photos of my hair, I always had cornrows (which were done by an aunt ... usually too tight) Then once I 'thought' I had outgrown braids I begged and pleaded for a relaxer, which of course I got. But my hair was always somewhere between neck and shoulder length never any longer. It wasn't until I took over and was 'enlightened' about healthy hair practices that my hair has grown and been healthy.
I gave a C because I wasn't bald and my hair was always clean and 'done' just not as healthy as it could have been.
I gave a C because I wasn't bald and my hair was always clean and 'done' just not as healthy as it could have been.
Misshairdiva
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I would say an F! My mom gave me a jheri curl when I was in the fifth grade, then she continuosly gave me a relaxer, putting it on root to tip breaking off my hair and all the while telling me that I must have hair like my fathers family cause it just aint growing. (ofcourse it had nothing to do with the relaxers and the hot combing)
C+
She did an ok job with my hair. I went to the salon a lot to get my hair washed and pressed.
She didn't use heat in my hair any other time. My hair was in ponytails most of the time and she but rollers in it for curls.
But, in the fourth grade she left the daily styling up to me. My hair went downhill from there in terms of health. The only good thing was that I got a lot of practice with doing my own hair. All that trial and error is why I'm good at styling my hair now.
She did an ok job with my hair. I went to the salon a lot to get my hair washed and pressed.
She didn't use heat in my hair any other time. My hair was in ponytails most of the time and she but rollers in it for curls.
But, in the fourth grade she left the daily styling up to me. My hair went downhill from there in terms of health. The only good thing was that I got a lot of practice with doing my own hair. All that trial and error is why I'm good at styling my hair now.
AllAboutMoi
Active Member
My moms get an A+. It was always long and thick and she would sometimes take me to the salon with her.
But most importantly I begged her for a Jheri curl and she would not let me get one. Thanks ma!
But most importantly I begged her for a Jheri curl and she would not let me get one. Thanks ma!
keepithealthy
Well-Known Member
A+ she kept our hair braided 99% of the time. Washed it every two weeks and only pressed it on special occasions. No hair horror stories for me.
keepithealthy
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Cassandra1975
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Hmmm...good question. I think for the first 7 years of my life, I'd probably give her a B. She did what she knew how to do, and I certainly wasn't bald. She didn't hot comb it too much - only for special occasions. She couldn't braid, so that was left up to my oldest sister, who usually gave me cute styles.
From age 8 on? C, maybe even D. My other sister got a curl and I wanted one, she let me get it. But then she really didn't participate in taking care of my hair much after that, other than making appointments to get the curl touched up. We're talking about the 3rd grade here. I was left to fend on my own, and by 5th grade it was falling out and I had to get it cut down to a TWA. But as soon as it grew out again I was allowed to get a relaxer, and then somehow I ended up with a curl again! Way too much going on there.
Even later in life, when I had relaxers, when she did them, they were always overlapped onto previously processed hair. Once in college, I relaxed my own new growth after taking out braid extensions. I wasn't bone straight like it was when she usually did it. So I called her and she said she'd just re-do it when she came up for my graduation. And I let her, like a do-do bird. Mind you, my graduation was like 2 weeks after that call.
Now, her hair is a mess. She has to wear wigs. My hair is the healthiest it's ever been, since I went natural in 2003. I just gotta stop cutting it.
I'm not mad at her - she did the best she could with what she knew. And if I ever have a daughter, I have already been through a variety of lessons on what NOT to do. 
From age 8 on? C, maybe even D. My other sister got a curl and I wanted one, she let me get it. But then she really didn't participate in taking care of my hair much after that, other than making appointments to get the curl touched up. We're talking about the 3rd grade here. I was left to fend on my own, and by 5th grade it was falling out and I had to get it cut down to a TWA. But as soon as it grew out again I was allowed to get a relaxer, and then somehow I ended up with a curl again! Way too much going on there.
Even later in life, when I had relaxers, when she did them, they were always overlapped onto previously processed hair. Once in college, I relaxed my own new growth after taking out braid extensions. I wasn't bone straight like it was when she usually did it. So I called her and she said she'd just re-do it when she came up for my graduation. And I let her, like a do-do bird. Mind you, my graduation was like 2 weeks after that call.
Now, her hair is a mess. She has to wear wigs. My hair is the healthiest it's ever been, since I went natural in 2003. I just gotta stop cutting it.
I'm not mad at her - she did the best she could with what she knew. And if I ever have a daughter, I have already been through a variety of lessons on what NOT to do. I would give her a A+++ even if I would probably not have given the same appreciation ten years ago (I am currently 28)
My mother was a stylist she knew her job, she kept my hair really healthy and gave me at least weekly care. She started to "educate" me very young. I was put under the hooddryer with big rollers as young as 6 ! I have got hair midback long for several years during my youth and haircare was the weekly rollerset after deep conditioning. She was also helping me to comb everyu night. When I turned 14 my mother started to let my hair grow at waist and increased dramatically the size of the rollerset at such point that she needed help to get me under the largest hooddryer she had in her salon. My hair was outstanding, and some friends mothers also brought their daughter to the salon to et the same treatment. On saturdays, you could see 3 or 4 big heads in the salon ...my mother readily got them started to long hair care and most of them still get their long hair.
When I turned 16, the rollerset had become huge and, believe me, the drying time every saturday and sometimes twice a week was a nightmare: 2 hours under very hot hair without being able to move by 1 cm as I was readily packed under the dryer. I hated it and in those moments I would have given her a F at that time. But for sure I had a lot of sucess with boys.
When I moved to college, I was fed up with those huge rollersets and I cut my hair to midback again before resuming hair at waist when I was married
My mother was a stylist she knew her job, she kept my hair really healthy and gave me at least weekly care. She started to "educate" me very young. I was put under the hooddryer with big rollers as young as 6 ! I have got hair midback long for several years during my youth and haircare was the weekly rollerset after deep conditioning. She was also helping me to comb everyu night. When I turned 14 my mother started to let my hair grow at waist and increased dramatically the size of the rollerset at such point that she needed help to get me under the largest hooddryer she had in her salon. My hair was outstanding, and some friends mothers also brought their daughter to the salon to et the same treatment. On saturdays, you could see 3 or 4 big heads in the salon ...my mother readily got them started to long hair care and most of them still get their long hair.
When I turned 16, the rollerset had become huge and, believe me, the drying time every saturday and sometimes twice a week was a nightmare: 2 hours under very hot hair without being able to move by 1 cm as I was readily packed under the dryer. I hated it and in those moments I would have given her a F at that time. But for sure I had a lot of sucess with boys.
When I moved to college, I was fed up with those huge rollersets and I cut my hair to midback again before resuming hair at waist when I was married
fyb87
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Up to age 12, I would give her a 4! I started combing my own hair when I was 7 years old because I felt I did a better job than my mom. She has 2b/2c hair and she really didn't know how to comb it without putting a thousand ponytails and it would take her forever to get it done. I liked three ponytails maximum and I could get it done faster.
Now after I got my first relaxer when I was 13 I would give her a 5 all the way. Because she made sure I rollerset my hair (I couldn't use any heat) and I had to wash my hair a minimum of once a week. Those were habits that were instilled in me and what attributed with me keeping my hair healthy.
Oh, and I've had what people say is long hair all my life. APL to BSL until I was 30. Then around 32 yrs old I decided I wanted to see how long it would grow and it grew to TL until I had enough and cut it to just an inch or so past my shoulders.
myxdchiick
New Member
Umm the times when I went to my moms house a B. I say this because she did the whole protective styling thing and did a very good job at keeping my hair moisturized...
BUT! She used pink oil moisturizer....she didn't and still doesnt know about the whole mineral oil thing not being good..She used it on hers and mine. My hair was butt-length as a child(don't know the code for that) and hers was MBL..and still is..
My asian grandma that I grew up with... I give her a D because she didn't moisturize my hair that well..She "combed" my hair when it was dry using a plstic pick., she didn't detangle gently. However she did give me protective styles because it was the only way to wear my hair neat.
BUT! She used pink oil moisturizer....she didn't and still doesnt know about the whole mineral oil thing not being good..She used it on hers and mine. My hair was butt-length as a child(don't know the code for that) and hers was MBL..and still is..
My asian grandma that I grew up with... I give her a D because she didn't moisturize my hair that well..She "combed" my hair when it was dry using a plstic pick., she didn't detangle gently. However she did give me protective styles because it was the only way to wear my hair neat.
Duchesse
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I'm gonna say C+ in an AP chemistry class.
She tried her hardest, but the subject matter was difficult, so she passed, but didn't make it to honor roll. For my moms benefit, there were 4 of us all close in age and she was like a single mother, though my parents are still married, but she had a lot of other things to do besides hair. And me and my sis both have thick type 4 hair, while my mom is 2-3, so I don't think she really knew what to do with us.
I was never bald nor horribly permed, but gosh darnit, I had the wackest most corniest hairstyles growing up. No cool beads, no cool cornrows, just wackness.
She tried her hardest, but the subject matter was difficult, so she passed, but didn't make it to honor roll. For my moms benefit, there were 4 of us all close in age and she was like a single mother, though my parents are still married, but she had a lot of other things to do besides hair. And me and my sis both have thick type 4 hair, while my mom is 2-3, so I don't think she really knew what to do with us.
I was never bald nor horribly permed, but gosh darnit, I had the wackest most corniest hairstyles growing up. No cool beads, no cool cornrows, just wackness.
I would give her a A... She did the best that she could and my hair was always looked neat (when I left the house). But, I didn't have long hair (the longest was probably SL-APL) because I don't think that she knew healthy hair practices to grow long hair, considering she had kept her hair short since she was about 12. But it was pretty healthy. And I didn't have a perm until I was 8 after begging for it. THAT WAS THE DOWNFALL!!!
bbdgirl
New Member
A+, My mother had growing hands.
She would wash my hair every 2 weeks and then braid it into 5-6 plaits and I was forbidden to touch it, My hair was always long and healthy.
She liked soft sheen, the green one, water and vaseline and my hair was always healthy and strong.
I didn't relax it until junior high.
It's funny b/c alot of the same methods that we employ now are the same things that she did when I was a kid:
low mani
and keeping your ends protected.
She would wash my hair every 2 weeks and then braid it into 5-6 plaits and I was forbidden to touch it, My hair was always long and healthy.
She liked soft sheen, the green one, water and vaseline and my hair was always healthy and strong.
I didn't relax it until junior high.
It's funny b/c alot of the same methods that we employ now are the same things that she did when I was a kid:
low mani
and keeping your ends protected.
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Shay72
Natural, 4A
I give my mom an A+. She knew she didn't know how to do hair so she would pay someone else to do it. Not like at the salon but like the next door neighbor or her sister. We have proof of the fact my mom can't do hair 
. She couldn't find anyone to do it and we had picture day 
. She couldn't live that down for awhile. I tended to do things to my hair when my mom was not there. She would be so upset. I put a relaxer in my hair for the first time when I was at grandma's one summer. I knew she wouldn't ask my mama if it was okay. Another time I cut my shoulder length hair to ear length when she was on TDY (Army). A mess....I know.
. She couldn't find anyone to do it and we had picture day . She couldn't live that down for awhile. I tended to do things to my hair when my mom was not there. She would be so upset. I put a relaxer in my hair for the first time when I was at grandma's one summer. I knew she wouldn't ask my mama if it was okay. Another time I cut my shoulder length hair to ear length when she was on TDY (Army). A mess....I know.
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glamazon386
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I'd give her an A. My hair was always clean and styled. I got a relaxer around 5 or 6 and even coupled with the fact that my hair was fine it was healthy. It wasn't until I was a teenager and got my hands on it that it went down the tubes.
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