Glib Gurl
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Today I was chatting with some white male friends and they were talking about how difficult THEY have it in the dating world. (Of course, both guys are currently dating someone but I digress) Anyways, they were talking about all the things that they "could never get away with" and how "hard it is" and how "women want to much" and that, in their experience, "women choose men, men don't choose women."
I was the only black person in the room so I didn't feel like debating them, but in our community, it so often seems like it's the other way around. Now, I'm not here to drag up statistics about marriagability rates and how there are no good black men. Rather, I would like to talk about those good black men -- the ones who work for a living, take care of themselves and their families, and just generally behave responsibly. (I mean this to be an all-encompassing definition that does not discriminate based on a man's earnings. Whether he's delivering packages for UPS or a corporate executive at the local bank, he is/can be deemed a "good black man" based on the qualities I listed above - and whatever else you think is important to being a "good black man.")
So, I am wondering, what do you think good black men look for in a wife.
Off the top of my head, I'm thinking he'd want a woman who will be a good mother to his children.
He also wants someone who he is proud to have on his arm. (She doesn't have to be a dime, but at least someone pleasing to the eye.)
Someone who shares similar values (e.g., shared political or religious beliefs, similar ideas about child rearing, similar spending habits).
What else?
I was the only black person in the room so I didn't feel like debating them, but in our community, it so often seems like it's the other way around. Now, I'm not here to drag up statistics about marriagability rates and how there are no good black men. Rather, I would like to talk about those good black men -- the ones who work for a living, take care of themselves and their families, and just generally behave responsibly. (I mean this to be an all-encompassing definition that does not discriminate based on a man's earnings. Whether he's delivering packages for UPS or a corporate executive at the local bank, he is/can be deemed a "good black man" based on the qualities I listed above - and whatever else you think is important to being a "good black man.")
So, I am wondering, what do you think good black men look for in a wife.
Off the top of my head, I'm thinking he'd want a woman who will be a good mother to his children.
He also wants someone who he is proud to have on his arm. (She doesn't have to be a dime, but at least someone pleasing to the eye.)
Someone who shares similar values (e.g., shared political or religious beliefs, similar ideas about child rearing, similar spending habits).
What else?