LovinLocks
Well-Known Member
I saw this partial quote from another thread I was reading a moment ago. I have never seriously considered long-term shacking until the last couple of weeks. What I mean by "long-term shacking" is shacking without the benefit (and I do believe it to be a benefit) of being engaged WITH a set marriage date no more than 90 days away. I know the various scripture against such a practice so no need to expound upon those (even facing the religious consequences of coloring and keeping company with the opposite sex).
The quote went on to state that there are women on this board that are happy with shacking. Have you ever heard something to the effect of "People tend to ask questions to which they already know the answer"? Well, I've been dying to broach this subject here for some days now.
I've read "The Rules" and for the most part believe them. Alas, I seriously dropped the ball on this one and here's my excuse. My man is 66 years old and I believe, I believe, from talking to him if I tried "the rules" on him I've lost before I begun. He would see right through them. He is a no-nonsense person who put it out (in writing) exactly what he is looking for in a woman ("friendship to lead to marriage") among many other things.
I am unemployed (well "under" employed) and come 2/1/2010 for all intensive purposes I will need to vacate my apartment. A couple of weeks ago he stated, "I know your feelings about living with a man to whom you are not married; however, as far as I am concerned I would have already told you that you can live with me". I've been dragging my feet slowly as I can in taking items from my place to his (I do have an ounce of principles left). It ain't over 'til the fat lady sings though and who knows I may come up with lucrative employment by January 10 (my cut-off date figuring in working two weeks for a decent paycheck to pay February rent and start the countdown again).
I'm going to keep it real though. I like this man a whole heapa bunch and want to explore this relationship (while humping real hard to find a job, back me some money for in case I need to peace outta Dodge and get my own place).
The quote went on to state that there are women on this board that are happy with shacking. Have you ever heard something to the effect of "People tend to ask questions to which they already know the answer"? Well, I've been dying to broach this subject here for some days now.
I've read "The Rules" and for the most part believe them. Alas, I seriously dropped the ball on this one and here's my excuse. My man is 66 years old and I believe, I believe, from talking to him if I tried "the rules" on him I've lost before I begun. He would see right through them. He is a no-nonsense person who put it out (in writing) exactly what he is looking for in a woman ("friendship to lead to marriage") among many other things.
I am unemployed (well "under" employed) and come 2/1/2010 for all intensive purposes I will need to vacate my apartment. A couple of weeks ago he stated, "I know your feelings about living with a man to whom you are not married; however, as far as I am concerned I would have already told you that you can live with me". I've been dragging my feet slowly as I can in taking items from my place to his (I do have an ounce of principles left). It ain't over 'til the fat lady sings though and who knows I may come up with lucrative employment by January 10 (my cut-off date figuring in working two weeks for a decent paycheck to pay February rent and start the countdown again).
I'm going to keep it real though. I like this man a whole heapa bunch and want to explore this relationship (while humping real hard to find a job, back me some money for in case I need to peace outta Dodge and get my own place).