Ummm....

[glamazon386]

LMAO what? His stupid a$$ deserved to get hung up on. He did you a favor and put himself out the game early.

 

[alwayzalady22]

forgive my poor geography skills, but where exactly is lesbian island?

 

[SimpleKomplexity]

lol Laughter makes the soul happy, and I'm sure your soul is pretty happy after that convo! loool You did the right thing

 

[Almaz]

Hahahahahah Lesbian Island. This guy is a Douche Bag. I can't STAND cheap men stupid men like them. And you know what the REAL sad thing is.

Some women would have actually feel for the Okey Doke and went out with him ANNNDDD would have spent the night

 

[Angelicus]

At least on lesbian island, I know we'll be on the same cycle. Sheesh. It's a shame how so many men are like this and so many women that would go for this...

 

[NYAmicas]

Thanks goodness he was dumb enough to show his true colors through font. You dodged a bullet with that idiot. He's real lame for that one.

 

[Windsy]

Thanks goodness he was dumb enough to show his true colors through font. You dodged a bullet with that idiot. He's real lame for that one.

right, if you poke them long enough they get frustrated and show their true intentions. Gotta Love men!!!

 

[healthynhappy]

That was funny and all, but is placing ads for dates what it has really come down to?

I haven't been on the dating scene in years, so I am not be fascetious.

I meet men on the street quite often. Isn't it easier to holler back at someone you can see as opposed to some nutcase online?

 

[Caramela]

LOL...
I kinda get where he was coming from though If you were going to meet up at Starbucks then the rest of the date (if there was a rest of the date) didn't have to be mapped out to the "T". If you liked eachother, another date could have been planned or if you two decided to go catch a movie or a bite to eat then you could have done that too. You were leaving too many decisions up to him and it made you sound over eager and pressed.
The plan was to meet at Star bucks. Don't ask a man how you should dress. You wear something nice but casual. Don't ask him if you should eat first, dinner wasn't discussed and by you bringing it up it insinuates that you expect dinner. His comments were funny, but I think he was trying to BE funny based off the questions you were asking
Starbucks should have been used for an information gathering session only. And if like he said, you liked him, then perhaps a second more "real" date could have been planned. You don't have to do everything all at once. Woo-sah.
In my best Bobby Valentino voice "Slooooow dooooown, I just wanna get to know you!"

 

[Crystal]

He was a dweeb. No loss there.

But I also think you were asking too many questions for a first blind date. Men you've never met should never be the decision-makers on what you wear or what you eat.

First dates should like that should last 45 minutes to an hour tops in my opinion... Starbucks is a good choice, meet up, wear what you want and eat before you go, and then decide from there if dude is worth a second date.

 

[Windsy]

That was funny and all, but is placing ads for dates what it has really come down to?

I haven't been on the dating scene in years, so I am not be fascetious.

I meet men on the street quite often. Isn't it easier to holler back at someone you can see as opposed to some nutcase online?

Well, she may not have time to go out and meet people and everyone doesn't meet men on the street quite often as some as it's been proven that location has a lot to do with meeting single men.

ETA: Nutcases walk the streets too and meet women quite often.

Anyways, I'm quite NS can speak for herself.

 

[LadyPaniolo]

SMH

This guy is insane. See what this Free Love **** done started? Guys EXPECT to meet you at Starbucks to see if they like your body, and take you home to wear it out for FREE and if you object to being treated like a narsty pigeon, you must be selling puss.

Boy, I am so glad I am done with dating. I got my DH. If I ever lose him I'll be single the rest of my days, cuz men these days have truly lost thier minds.

 

[TPayne75]

Girl that was CRAZY!!! Sounds like something these lame a** men would do in Cincinnati LOL

Then he called and cussed me out on my voicemail. Said he wasn't spending his money on my fat, broke arse Keep in mind that he doesn't know what I look like...Okay you cheap, dumb and disrespectful?

He gave me a fake name (I did the same) but used his regular emailerplexed

 

[AceH]

clearly he is a crackhead

Sadly, there's some poor soul somewhere with low self-esteem who WILL try to get with that loser erplexed

 

[foxxymami]

I agree with this. I think you should have played it low-key. Just go out for an hour "meet and greet" at Starbucks or wherever. Then another day, have your first official date if you are both still interested in each other.

Granted he is a LOSER and now labeled as scum for how he left that vm and text.

However, I don't see why you asked all those detailed questions. Thats just my opinion.

LOL...
I kinda get where he was coming from though If you were going to meet up at Starbucks then the rest of the date (if there was a rest of the date) didn't have to be mapped out to the "T". If you liked eachother, another date could have been planned or if you two decided to go catch a movie or a bite to eat then you could have done that too. You were leaving too many decisions up to him and it made you sound over eager and pressed.
The plan was to meet at Star bucks. Don't ask a man how you should dress. You wear something nice but casual. Don't ask him if you should eat first, dinner wasn't discussed and by you bringing it up it insinuates that you expect dinner. His comments were funny, but I think he was trying to BE funny based off the questions you were asking
Starbucks should have been used for an information gathering session only. And if like he said, you liked him, then perhaps a second more "real" date could have been planned. You don't have to do everything all at once. Woo-sah.
In my best Bobby Valentino voice "Slooooow dooooown, I just wanna get to know you!"

 

[kinkicurlyfyne]

WOW. LOL. Did he really think you would be content chewin on a Nutrigrain at his house for a first date?

 

[spelmanlocks]

LOL...
I kinda get where he was coming from though If you were going to meet up at Starbucks then the rest of the date (if there was a rest of the date) didn't have to be mapped out to the "T". If you liked eachother, another date could have been planned or if you two decided to go catch a movie or a bite to eat then you could have done that too.

I agree with this post and with Foxymamii. He didn't sound so bad to me up until the end, he probably said that out of spite. Many times people just meet somewhere low key for a first date so there is no pressure. I wouldn't have been asking him how to dress or all that other stuff either, pretty much it would have just been where to meet (which he already told you at the beginning) and what time, the end.

 

[ElizaBlue]

Sounds like you may have just avoided being on the back of a milk carton....

 

[nappystorm]

For the record, I didn't mind a quick meet and greet I just wanted to know whether or not we meeting and greeting or if we were going on a date...Appreciate the feedback but in this case glad I did ask the questions because I dodged a bullet and weeded out a loser.

 

[Ebony Majesty]

womp womp womp
what an idiot

 

[tilati]

nutrigrain bar

 

[Caramela]

For the record, I didn't mind a quick meet and greet I just wanted to know whether or not we meeting and greeting or if we were going on a date...Appreciate the feedback but in this case glad I did ask the questions because I dodged a bullet and weeded out a loser.

I think he answered that question more than a few times.

Okay I placed a personal ad and this guy contacted me. Keep in mind we never met. We made a date for today. Here's part of the convo...

NS: So what are we doing?
RG: We can meet at Starbucks and if we like each other go from there...
NS: Okay...and then what
RG: Well we got to see if we like each other first
NS: I mean, I need to know how to dress etc.
RG: Dress sexy
NS: To do what?
RG: I don't know I have to see if I like you.NS: I mean are we going to eat? Do I need to eat before I leave?
RG: I have a nutrigrain bar you can eat if you're hungry
NS:
RG: You there?
NS: Yeah...
RG: I'm not playing
NS: You're serious!?
RG: Yeah or I can come to your house and you can cook for me...
NS:
RG: Or you can come to mine and I can cook for you...
NS:erplexed
RG:Trying to decide which one
NS: Trying to decide if I'm still interested...
RG: Well that's okay. I don't want to just sit through dinner and I'm not attracted to you. You are more interested in where we going than if we like each other or not. you can call somebody eles for all that.
NS: No I'm more interested in what we are doing. How do I dress? Do I eat before I leave? Do i put my food back in the freezer? Will I be out late? Am I only staying out an hour?. See what I'm saying?
RG: Well dress sexy. You will be eating and spending the night.
NS: Spending the night?
RG: Yeah we're going to spend the night
NS: *Hangs up*

He was already telling you this was a quick informal meet and greet to find out IF you guys liked eachother. Sexy is subjective so that doesn't alarm me.
His comments were out of pocket and I guess you weeded him out but I honestly can see how he might be thinking he weeded out someone who was just looking for a free meal. Just chalk it up to a win/win situation and move on. Next time though you might want to to tweak your approach slightly