LBoogie
Well-Known Member
Okay so, should I feel some kind of way about this?
Thursday is my birthday....and as we all know it's also Thanksgiving.
DH has been asking me what I wanted to do, and Ive been saying I just want him to make me a cornish hen and stay home (Ive never had one before). He's CONTINUED asking for weeks saying "well its YOUR birthday...are you sure you dont want to go somewhere or so something?"
I kept saying no, then about two weeks ago, he started talking about inviting his family over...me "uhm, no...I dont want to do that we don't have space for all of those people and I dont want to cook...its my birthday."
He accepts that, goes on about how Thanksgiving is about family, but its also my birthday so he understands (with puppy dog eyes) and asks if I want to have dinner with his family, I told him not really but since its a big deal to him, we can.
So there was back and forth all week about "are we going or are we not?" and I stuck with "I dont care. If thats what you want fine."
So now, we're going.
The issue is NOT that I dont want to be with his family, but we spend ALOT of time with them (they are very close) and I'm just not in the mood to spend my birthday/thanksgiving with them. Additionally, there isnt ANYONE in his family in my age group. Therye all 40 + or 18 and under....noone in their twenties or thirties, (the same issue we have with me not really being too fond of weekly trips to the church his family has attended since before I was convieved. LOL)
Yesterday it became a big thing about inviting my mother, (she already had plans) but his sister asked him AGAIN and he told her he would ask ME AGAIN, which he did...my mother and I (eh, I love her she's my mommy, BUT I'm not in the mood for family meshing next week, especially NOT on MY birthday). So I texted her, she called me back, and she didnt really want to go, but "since its your birthday," SHE'S now going as well. *le sigh* She didn't know she would be doing me a favor by saying no, but DH was in the driving so I couldnt tell her that. lol
His family spends EVERY birthday and EVERY holiday and almost EVERY Sunday together....he actually "compromised with me when I wanted just US on his birthday and took him to dinner since it was his first birthday as my husband.
Now I'm ust trying to find a way to get through Thursday without a sour look on my face since it IS our FIRST thanksgiving as a married couple.
Do I just need to get over myself?
Thursday is my birthday....and as we all know it's also Thanksgiving.
DH has been asking me what I wanted to do, and Ive been saying I just want him to make me a cornish hen and stay home (Ive never had one before). He's CONTINUED asking for weeks saying "well its YOUR birthday...are you sure you dont want to go somewhere or so something?"
I kept saying no, then about two weeks ago, he started talking about inviting his family over...me "uhm, no...I dont want to do that we don't have space for all of those people and I dont want to cook...its my birthday."
He accepts that, goes on about how Thanksgiving is about family, but its also my birthday so he understands (with puppy dog eyes) and asks if I want to have dinner with his family, I told him not really but since its a big deal to him, we can.
So there was back and forth all week about "are we going or are we not?" and I stuck with "I dont care. If thats what you want fine."
So now, we're going.
The issue is NOT that I dont want to be with his family, but we spend ALOT of time with them (they are very close) and I'm just not in the mood to spend my birthday/thanksgiving with them. Additionally, there isnt ANYONE in his family in my age group. Therye all 40 + or 18 and under....noone in their twenties or thirties, (the same issue we have with me not really being too fond of weekly trips to the church his family has attended since before I was convieved. LOL)
Yesterday it became a big thing about inviting my mother, (she already had plans) but his sister asked him AGAIN and he told her he would ask ME AGAIN, which he did...my mother and I (eh, I love her she's my mommy, BUT I'm not in the mood for family meshing next week, especially NOT on MY birthday). So I texted her, she called me back, and she didnt really want to go, but "since its your birthday," SHE'S now going as well. *le sigh* She didn't know she would be doing me a favor by saying no, but DH was in the driving so I couldnt tell her that. lol
His family spends EVERY birthday and EVERY holiday and almost EVERY Sunday together....he actually "compromised with me when I wanted just US on his birthday and took him to dinner since it was his first birthday as my husband.
Now I'm ust trying to find a way to get through Thursday without a sour look on my face since it IS our FIRST thanksgiving as a married couple.
Do I just need to get over myself?