TWA Support Thread

A month, 2 weeks and 5 days since my cut and I'm still in LOVE! :love:
I love my kinky, coily hair. It's strong and soft and it's growning too! :up:
 
It has only been a few days since my bc but I've noticed my scalp is really itchy. I already clarified. Any reason for the itchy scalp? It's driving me crazy.
 
KammyGirl said:
It has only been a few days since my bc but I've noticed my scalp is really itchy. I already clarified. Any reason for the itchy scalp? It's driving me crazy.
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Could be a reaction to a product

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[USER=1446 said:
Shinka[/USER];18689463]I like my hair when it's twisted (which takes about 5 hours to do) and I can braid it down at night and go in the am.

But wearing a Fro/WNG is a no no... It leads to tangles and shedding. The shrinkage. I have to wet it to prevent fluff up the overnight matting.

Its been 6 month and my 10th tine BCing. I miss my roller sets and pin curls. I could unpin and go about my day. Sigh! I'm still not sure if my natural hair fits my lifestyle- that makes me sad since I want to chemical free. ( no, braids, weaves, wigs are not an option)

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What's going on? Why are by bcing so much?

What about your natural hair doesn't fit your lifestyle?
 
faithVA said:
What's going on? Why are by bcing so much?

What about your natural hair doesn't fit your lifestyle?
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Hi faithVA

I did my first BC 12 years ago, summer after freshman year when I discovered nappturality. I realized that I hadn't seen my natural hair since I was five (I begged my grandma for a relaxer). I love "other people's" natural hair & each time I return to relaxing for a few reasons- family objections, personal dislike of my natural- I often feel I look ugly when it gets a certain lengthy, frustrations of limitations with time it took to manage/style my hair- even braids started to bald my edges and despite wearing them my whole life, I've had bad allergic to them over past few years. (Same with few weave installations)

I return to natural usually due to a bad relaxer or hair breakage ( usually my fault due to neglect or heat usuage), desire to be chemical free, and/or hair lusting naturals with similar hair types.

Relaxed hair suits me better because I've pretty much master styles and maintenance routines at various lengths. So it never looks "bad" from short halle berry cuts to chin length bobs. I love shiny hair with curls and bounce.I can do my hair from DC to style in 45min- hour flat. (20min with just a wash & flatiron). I start a master's program in the fall, possibly a high profile job promotion this summer and I have a 14month old son-I don't think my natural and hair and it's requirements will compliment withered.

my natural hair takes average of 5 hours to style once I have enough hair. If I take down twist, I hate wearing a fro/WNG due to shrinkage, tangles, &matting. Honestly, I don't think it's cute anymore. It gets frizzy and unmanageable. But I like seeing longer naturals with twist outs, braids out etc. I love playing with my coils and feeling its strength. I don't look bad with a straight boy cut, but once it grows past an inch/two, it doesn't look too cute or sassy unless styled. I keep thinking I can grow it out and be a straightened natural once I get to a decent length, but I never make it past 4 inches natural (currently my hair length).

I am so torn. I can't commit! Sigh. I have hairpsychosis.
 
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[USER=1446 said:
Shinka[/USER];18690951]Hi faithVA

I did my first BC 12 years ago, summer after freshman year when I discovered nappturality. I realized that I hadn't seen my natural hair since I was five (I begged my grandma for a relaxer). I love "other people's" natural hair & each time I return to relaxing for a few reasons- family objections, personal dislike of my natural- I often feel I look ugly when it gets a certain lengthy, frustrations of limitations with time it took to manage/style my hair- even braids started to bald my edges and despite wearing them my whole life, I've had bad allergic to them over past few years. (Same with few weave installations)

I return to natural usually due to a bad relaxer or hair breakage ( usually my fault due to neglect or heat usuage), desire to be chemical free, and/or hair lusting naturals with similar hair types.

Relaxed hair suits me better because I've pretty much master styles and maintenance routines at various lengths. So it never looks "bad" from short halle berry cuts to chin length bobs. I love shiny hair with curls and bounce.I can do my hair from DC to style in 45min- hour flat. (20min with just a wash & flatiron). I start a master's program in the fall, possibly a high profile job promotion this summer and I have a 14month old son-I don't think my natural and hair and it's requirements will compliment withered.

my natural hair takes average of 5 hours to style once I have enough hair. If I take down twist, I hate wearing a fro/WNG due to shrinkage, tangles, &matting. Honestly, I don't think it's cute anymore. It gets frizzy and unmanageable. But I like seeing longer naturals with twist outs, braids out etc. I love playing with my coils and feeling its strength. I don't look bad with a straight boy cut, but once it grows past an inch/two, it doesn't look too cute or sassy unless styled. I keep thinking I can grow it out and be a straightened natural once I get to a decent length, but I never make it past 4 inches natural (currently my hair length).

I am so torn. I can't commit! Sigh. I have hairpsychosis.
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Based solely on what you wrote here, I would suggest you just go for the relaxer. If you are willing to just put your hair in twist and just wear twists for the most part for the next 6 months to a year than stay natural. But if you can't commit to that I wouldn't struggle with it. All stages of natural just aren't easy or cute :ohwell: They do pass though but you have to be willing to hold on through them.
 
faithVA said:
Based solely on what you wrote here, I would suggest you just go for the relaxer. If you are willing to just put your hair in twist and just wear twists for the most part for the next 6 months to a year than stay natural. But if you can't commit to that I wouldn't struggle with it. All stages of natural just aren't easy or cute :ohwell: They do pass though but you have to be willing to hold on through them.
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Thanks faithVA for your words of wisdom. This back and forth prevents me from achieving any length goals. I settled on twisting, but if I don't have time or desire then I'm not happy with my hair styling options. I don't know if I'm willing to hold through those in between moments.
Thx
 
I know I probably don't belong in here anymore but I don't wanna leave! This thread is my baby. I just went back to the date I created this thread and my hair has come a looooong way....
 
At the car wash today as I was paying my bill, the cashier told me that she loved my hair. She said it was pretty. :grin: I was delighted and thanked her for noticing. I told her I just chopped off my relaxer a month ago and that I was loving it. We chatted about hair for a bit; and shared with me her hair cutting experiences. Her husband wanted her to grow her hair out (she used to buzz it down to the scalp every Summer and as soon as it started to grow, she relaxed). :spinning:

She made my day though. :yep:
 
[USER=346925 said:
APrayer4Hair[/USER];18692251]I know I probably don't belong in here anymore but I don't wanna leave! This thread is my baby. I just went back to the date I created this thread and my hair has come a looooong way....
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If you created the thread then you can't leave :lol:

Just stay until you are ready to go. No one will mind.
 
I had been avoiding washing my braids cause with my hair so short I was sure to have slippage.
I was right. Went swimming and washed my hair and lost half those braids. Lol I just pulled the rest out. I'm gonna get a weave this week, that'll be more secure and continue to keep my hands away.
 
Frustrated with my hair. I did a protein treatment and overnight DC on my hair and it still feels super dry...like I just did the BC again. My hair is not holding onto moisture again and not curling, it looks exactly the same...like some one half a**ed a blow out on my head. Getting discouraged. Maybe I just need to let it grow out for awhile.

I was hoping I could to like wash and go's and have nice pretty curly curls, but even the spirals in the back of my head aren't forming properly, never mind the top which is still waving oddly and still looks like relaxed hair ( in which she cut all the relaxed and heat damaged ends off )

Not sure what to do, I know this was going to be frustrating but I didnt know it was going to be THIS frustrating. I just wanna wear my hair out but I cant even do that at this point because its so short again (2-3 inches all over).

I kind of regret transitioning, its been 7 months and there have been no great things happening so far...its always dry no matter how much DC M/S etc, even when I drink more water, no curls form its just blah. At least before my hair had grown to almost shoulder length (it probably would have been by now for sure) I could make it curly by doing bantu knots and stuff and just not use heat on it...but now I cant do Anything with it. Really discouraged and not sure what to do.
 
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hnntrr don't be discouraged. Sounds like you have a couple of hair types going on. Also, as much as we try, not everyone has natural defined curls. I don't. Mine is a fine stranded cotton ball just like my father. Only my nape and bangs clump and have 4a coil. If I want coils or curls all over, I gotta make it happen thru styling.

As far as dryness have you found your porosity level yet? What protein and dc did you use? Your hair might be a minimalist and prefer less chemical and product

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DarkJoy said:
hnntrr don't be discouraged. Sounds like you have a couple of hair types going on. Also, as much as we try, not everyone has natural defined curls. I don't. Mine is a fine stranded cotton ball just like my father. Only my nape and bangs clump and have 4a coil. If I want coils or curls all over, I gotta make it happen thru styling.

As far as dryness have you found your porosity level yet? What protein and dc did you use? Your hair might be a minimalist and prefer less chemical and product

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*.~.*Sent from a distant Galaxy in the Unicorn-verse*.~.*
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I think I do, I think it might be 4a/3c (4a in the back (except my nape which is baby soft and curls into big coils) and 3c waves in the top but I dont know to be honest. Nothing curls really, like there are a few here and there but most of it is undefined and bushy.

And I think I am lo-po, coarse and thick, so I green house with a moisture conditioner once a week. Right now I am using güd conditioner, and 4 naturals protein conditioner, shea moisture leave in, avacado oil and castor oil. It was fine before I got shampoo'd and cut, the shampoo I used had coconut on it so I may be on the verge of a protein overload so I am going to DC a few times this week to see if thats what it was. I just I duno.

I wanna wear it out but its just ugly and :(
 
[USER=375439 said:
hnntrr[/USER];18702173]I think I do, I think it might be 4a/3c (4a in the back (except my nape which is baby soft and curls into big coils) and 3c waves in the top but I dont know to be honest. Nothing curls really, like there are a few here and there but most of it is undefined and bushy.

And I think I am lo-po, coarse and thick, so I green house with a moisture conditioner once a week. Right now I am using güd conditioner, and 4 naturals protein conditioner, shea moisture leave in, avacado oil and castor oil. It was fine before I got shampoo'd and cut, the shampoo I used had coconut on it so I may be on the verge of a protein overload so I am going to DC a few times this week to see if thats what it was. I just I duno.

I wanna wear it out but its just ugly and :(
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If you think you are low porosity then leave coconut oil alone until you get your hair straightened out. I've never used the Shea Moisture leave-in but I've never gotten one of their products to work in my hair. My hair does like 4 naturals reconstructor. But only leave that on for the time it says or less. Definitely don't do protein and coconut oil :nono: k

And if you are low porosity, not sure about the castor oil. I agree with DarkJoy, your hair may not need so much product and definitely nothing heavy. That is if you are low porosity.

Your hair may just feel hard now because you have heavy products on your hair which can just be product build up.

Can you get some small perm rods and rod it? You can do that at 3".

Are you natural, texlaxed or relaxed? I apologize if I'm not keeping up.
 
faithVA said:
If you think you are low porosity then leave coconut oil alone until you get your hair straightened out. I've never used the Shea Moisture leave-in but I've never gotten one of their products to work in my hair. My hair does like 4 naturals reconstructor. But only leave that on for the time it says or less. Definitely don't do protein and coconut oil :nono: k

And if you are low porosity, not sure about the castor oil. I agree with DarkJoy, your hair may not need so much product and definitely nothing heavy. That is if you are low porosity.

Your hair may just feel hard now because you have heavy products on your hair which can just be product build up.

Can you get some small perm rods and rod it? You can do that at 3".

Are you natural, texlaxed or relaxed? I apologize if I'm not keeping up.
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Natural now, and I didn't realize I was out of the other shampoo I used (and I hadn't used coconut anything for like a month and half)....which the shampoo my hair seemed to like.... is like 24 bucks :( *cries* so I cant buy anymore for awhile. I am also seriously running out of conditioners...I liked AO but I didn't buy it last time cause I was penny pinching, I like the burt's bee's güd I have now but I am almost out of that too. I also liked the One N Only hydrating masque which I might get cause that was the only thing that would over moisturize my hair if I left it in overnight...and it seemed as though that paired with the AO worked well...but that was on my relaxed hair I havn't tried it on my natural hair.

When I tried the castor oil and avocado oil mixed (like 1 part castor to two parts avocado) it seemed to be okay for awhile when I had it under my wig cap and would stay moist for like 2 days).

I am just ugh so frustrated with it. My stylist even cut it into a cute style...similar to this.
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except imagine it being like 3 inches shorter and weird wavy/curly/grossness.
 
Well hnntrr the cut is cute! If you don't like your hair like that as a wash n go deal, pin curling it overnight might make it work depending on the products you use.
 
DarkJoy said:
Well hnntrr the cut is cute! If you don't like your hair like that as a wash n go deal, pin curling it overnight might make it work depending on the products you use.
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I might. I just have to figure out what to do with the back since only parts of it are curling.
 
I'm henna-indigo/ing tomorrow to get rid of these brown-ish golden ends. This is how much I've retained since my last dye job in October 2012:




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I'm excited and nervous. Hope all goes well
 
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I am finally starting to LOVE my hair. On Sunday night I used a little bit of conditioner, gel and oil to lay down the sides of my hair. By mid morning Monday I was back in my twa but looking kind of wild because it hadn't been fixed right. The sides just poofed out over the course of an hour or two.

So on Monday night I used only gel to slick down my hair thinking the conditioner made it too soft but the same thing happened. Last night after I deep conditioned I let it air dry but then I blow dried it using the tension method and then added the gel with a little bit of conditioner.

This morning after taking off my scarf my hair looks wonderful. Everyone at work is telling me I look like someone from the 1940's because of the tiny waves in the front and on the sides.

The only issue now is my hair feels a little hard so I think it may be safe to add more conditioner as long as my hair is blow dried a bit.
 
Looks like I'm coming back here to hang out with you ladies. :wave:

I've decided to grow my hair out. I cut it in February and LOVED IT.

Short hair was fun for a while, but I want my hair back. Plus, styling my hair is a bit of a hobby, and I've been bored without hair to play in. :)
 
Here's what I'm working with now. I will continue to follow my reggie and ignore my hair.




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I'm not illiterate. It's my phones auto correct
 
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Bwahahaha!!! I hate you for that! I don't even know where the apl challenge is! I don't know them people =/

I'm not illiterate. It's my phones auto correct
 
faithVA said:
You should be shame to show yo face, um I mean your hair in here. I am going to follow you around until you head to the APL challenge which you will be in for all of 3 months before you move to the BSL challenge.
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Lol Omgosh I couldn't stop laughing. You wrong lolololololol

HPG

Don't judge...Sent from my Galaxy Note II using LHCF
 
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