Homo/Bisexuality is about who you are attracted(gender, not a specific person).
If we heteros can be virgins and still be hetero, how come they cant?
How can we be hetero with no particular person in mind, and they cant?
The notion that bisexual people cant control themselves is extremely absurd.
Yes, these are intriguing questions.
Per your notion, I am not sure how my post would lead you to believe that I was saying the bisexuals couldn't control themselves (or that they were hypersexed, per the other post that noted so). My point went from general (where I mentioned homo, hetero and bi) then went to ask a specific question to the poster I was responding.
Also to clarify, I was not saying that being BI or DL is EXCLUSIVELY adultery, the crux of my point was in this part of the statement: "Sexual relations with ANYBODY ELSE OTHER THAN YOUR SPOUSE (
including same-sex or "other" sex beings...and possibly ARTIFICIAL TOOLS?) is still adultery." The word "including" also meant for hetero folk as well.
And "touche" on the point about having a "grip" of your heterosexuality. This was also a point that came up in the classroom discussion. Amongst all that I am thankful for, I'm grateful for being at peace with my hetero self (emphasizing MY situation, not even attempting to speak for anyone else).
Also, despite the ignorance on the planet ON A LOT OF ISSUES, lying and deception that removes a person's CHOICE AND CONSENT is UNACCEPTABLE. In other words, a man or woman who fails to disclose their participation in a same-sex sexual contact/intercourse is WICKED. Adultery itself is wicked, whoever is involved.
With regard to this question: Based on that logic, if a woman is married but is attracted to another man, maybe she saw someone at the mall or at work but she never entertains the idea of involving herself physically or otherwise, does that mean she is cheating?
It's one thing to be attracted...to see a nice-looking man and notice that. We're human beings. We're sensuous beings. It's another thing to entertain and fantasize continually about an individual other than the spouse. There is such a thing as an emotional affair.... And (because my perspective is Christian), this scripture comes to mind:
Matt 5: 27-28"You know the next commandment pretty well, too: 'Don't go to bed with another's spouse.' But don't think you've preserved your virtue simply by staying out of bed. Your heart can be corrupted by lust even quicker than your body. Those leering looks you think nobody notices—they also corrupt. (The Message)
This is my humble attempt to respond so not to leave things hanging on the points I made.
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I remember that song. 
. It was a sad situation.
This is so true coming from someone who grew up in a household like this, i hate when parents get so misguided to think that they should stay in the marriage for the kids. Big mistake! Children are not stupid, they know when 2 people pretty much hate each other or have no emotional attachement to each other anymore, it creates so much stress on the child to have to deal with this because seeing your parents unhappy carries onto the kid. and i know its hard on kids whose parents divorce too but this is just as terrible because it creates an unpleasant and depressing view of marriage. Even before I was a teen i had wished that my parents would divorce so they could be happier people living their own lives.
.. Growing up, I abhored folks lamenting about how many years they had been together.. It struck me as odd, because the statements were so obviously lacking in vitality, joy... It sounded as if they were speaking of a race or war they had somehow survived... 
Just. Sad. IMHO 
