Hey ladies, I am new to this thread. I am really serious about my transition. I am only 5wks post I did a mini- chop last month. I just created a challenge for transitioners to develop a plan of transitioning and update regularly. I will be in often because I failed four times at transitioning because I was too focused on length, now I have grown my hair to MBL, I am no longer worried about length. See my thread for my plan. I am going to need support to reach my goal.
Hi, welcome!
I wanted to give you some encouragement! You will find much support here! I was in the SAME POSITION as you about 3 yrs ago. I had MBL hair, and I had tried about 3 times to transition. I sat at home one day with a head of thick, healthy, MBL relaxed hair. I just was tired of my long hair, and had been contemplating cutting it into a rockin' relaxed fauxhawk. Because I was at the end of a 3-4 month stretch, I went in the bathroom and started cutting free-handed with scissors, using a pic of a style I loved and had found online.
I finished cutting 14 inches of hair, and was left wit about 4" on the top, and 1-1.5" on the sides! Needless to say, after I did my TU for that style Sept. 10, 2007, I just let it grow out for 13 months thereafter. It was kind of an impromptu/unplanned transition. I became preggs w/my daughter in Nov. 07, and just never put another 'laxer in my head for the time being. I literally BC'd (June 2008) in my L&D bathroom before delivery. I had "new" hair (June '08) and a new baby (July 08)!
I had a TWA, and since it was a bit choppy due to the impromptu job I did with medical bandage scissors
look
...so I wrapped this head up wit fly headwraps, and when I had time between taking care of the baby, I got it braided w/extensions. In 5 mos (by Nov. 08), I had APL length hair...then I texlaxed. Now, I'm transitioning again.
This will be my 5th transition attempt, and only
one of those (described above) actually resulted in me BC'ing and being fully natural. I plan to forego the BC this time. Just wanted to share my experience, so
don't feel bad that you've tried many times and haven't followed through!
So have I,
whenever I got past 4 mos, I would break down and relax, mostly due to the fact that I thought I couldn't manage my hair, or due to family making stupid comments like, "Well what you gonna do with your hair," or, "Why don't you go and let so and so press it?" Eventually, I'd give up and I was like, to hell with this! Too much pressure to stay straight!
I am happy to say that in many areas of my life I have thrown what other ppl think out the window...I live my life and wear my hair these days without care of what other people say (whether I need to wear it relaxed, natural, straight, kinky, etc). And, through the awesomeness of LHCF, the 'net, YT, and other hair boards, I've learned that I can do many things to take care of my transitioning hair over the years...and I'm having fun in the process. KISS really helps me, as well as low-manipulation styles (my hair likes to be left ALONE)! HHG, and see you around!!
BTW: Your hair is very pretty!