Transitioning without BC'ing Support Thread

Hello Ladies,

I was going to transition last year and then in September for my 40th birthday I got a relaxer. Well I'm here again. The last time my hair just wouldn't cooperate with me and I was tired of trying to make it work. I had tried twist out, braid outs and wash and go's and nothing looked good. I just have a hard head to please.

As of last week I wasn't sure what I was going to do but then on Monday I tried bantu knot out and my hair actually looked decent and for the last two days I have been getting comments on hair good my hair looks. So I will continue the bantu knots, wigs and maybe braids with the occasional roller set/flat iron to transition.

For my bantu knots I did them on dry hair with shea butter. I make them small because I wanted the curly/rod set look. I then added a hair band and that's it. I will post a picture tonight when I get home.
 
Still thriving! I'm at 8 months post :clap: I noticed that non-sulfate shampoos are the way to go for me. Before I BKTed, I started using non-sulfate products and the tangles are gone!
 
So taking some hair inventory this week (I've been off and frankly bored, hence the name change among other things.) I think I'm going to lay off the heat for a while. I have been heat straightening for the past few months and while my natural hair is fine with this my relaxed hair is not! It's a war and since I'm trying to hold on to my relaxed ends for now this is my only alternative.
I've tried rollersetting in the past and I get a lot of breakage. I wished this worked better for me. Anyone have any ideas?
 
beans4reezy said:
10 Months post. I'm maintaning my hair with braids outs and pin ups. DC'ing twice a week is giving my hair the added strength it needs.
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Hey Girly:wave:! We're together @ 10 mths post. How long you plan to transition? I will be transitioning at least a year to 18 mths.
 
How are you guys dealing with clumping? My coils are clumping together no matter what i do. It feels good to the touch, but i tried to "unclump" the front at times, and it just becomes this frizzy mess that i tie with a scarf. It's not breaking....but...I wanted it to look kinda "together with curl formers...but alas... anyway, should i just leave them alone, suck it up and just ride with it, or should i just go ahead and chop?
 

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How are you guys dealing with clumping? My coils are clumping together no matter what i do. It feels good to the touch, but i tried to "unclump" the front at times, and it just becomes this frizzy mess that i tie with a scarf. It's not breaking....but...I wanted it to look kinda "together with curl formers...but alas... anyway, should i just leave them alone, suck it up and just ride with it, or should i just go ahead and chop?
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I leave them clumped unless I'm straighten. It is a HAM if I don't
 
25 weeks post. Still don't know if I want to relax or transition...everyday I feel different, so I'm just gonna keep on stretching!
 
Have to vent for a second then I"ll be fine. My braidout fell today after my workout. And now I am very mad at my hair. The natural and relaxed hair have been having a slap fight recently and I'm sick of it.
:hardslap: Ugh.

Going to henna tonight and try to find a hair style that lasts for more than 2 days that doesn't involve heat.

:offrant:
 
LaToya28 said:
25 weeks post. Still don't know if I want to relax or transition...everyday I feel different, so I'm just gonna keep on stretching!
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im the same way.
im 26weeks.. EXACTLY half a year lol :grin:
and i dunno what i'm doing.
i think i'm going natural but dealing with the 2 textures is driving me mad even though i REFUSE to BC.. and i love how the NG feels :lick:


my hair was hidden in 4 braids under a satin bonnet and hat all week :blush:
i just didnt want to deal with styling it lol

i think i shall curl it for next week tho
 
I'm 20 weeks post...this has also been my longest stretch ever and my transition is going well. I'm gonna wash my hair tomorrow but i wanted to see my new growth today so i put conditioner in some sections of my hair so i can look and play in it. It's also been a long time since i've canerowed my hair so i put conditioner in one section and canerowed it, so i can see how it comes out tomorrow morning. Tomorrow i'm gonna do a hardcore protein because the relaxed hair is breaking, suprisingly it's not even at the dermacation line. I don't think my new growth will like it.
 
I've been going back and forth for a while now trying to decide if I'm going to give up the creamy crack, and after a lot of thinking I've decided to take the plunge. If it doesn't work out then I'll just relax again. So I'm with ya'll
 
I am now 20 months post and my relaxed ends look manic!! My sisters keep saying I should chop them off because it looks stupid but I don't ever leave my hair out so I don't care. I may start the trimming process this time next year:)
 
Still hanging in there at 25+ weeks post relaxer; just got my sew in yesterday. Really down and devastated by the earthquake in Haiti and its effect on the nation and my family members. Not in a great mood lately...I'll check in every so often but letting you all know to hang in there with your hair growth and transitioning process.
 
I'm sad to say that for me, there may be no other choice but to do like i did last year, and thats keeping it simple with a wig (at least till AUG) to transition successfully. My transitioning hair likes the low manipulation regimen, and I've retained a lot this way. Also, this is helping me to prolong my trim time. The good part is that i'm getting more of a variety this year. Right now the wig I'm rocking is a "short-cut" look, and it's actually cute.

I will give my hair a couple of breaks though. I wore it out once. I gotta be able to have fun with the progress that I made. Going from above EL to SL is quite an accomplishment. :yep:
 
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I'm almost 41 weeks post relaxer. I decided to give up relaxing because it just wasn't working out for me anymore. It's been times were I didn't relax for a long time, only because I was in braids. I've always loved the fullness of my hair when I would stretch my relaxers a long time. I've been guilty of not really caring about my hair lately. Thinking, "I'm transitioning, I don't really care about my ends that much, Im gonna cut them anyway". I've been using way too much heat on my hair lately. So now I'm done with all that. I'm mean really, what's the point of transitioning and growing out your natural texture if your just gonna staighten it every week. I came across this YT video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=54y6XytcjHQ, and it help put some things in prospective for me. We all have our reasons for transitioning, I'm just realizing mine. I want something I haven't had in decades. Beautiful, healthy, natural hair. I won't stop until I get it.
 
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I think I stopped relaxing in March 2009. I just did not want to put relaxers in my hair. I liked the straight styles but with a relaxer, my hair would be limp and I only liked my hair at about 4 weeks post. I also liked versatility. So I just,... did not relax anymore.

I'm now almost 10 months post, spent a couple of months under a half-wig.
It can get weird and depressing at times but I try to make hairstyles with my own hair.
I flat ironed my hair today and pin curled it. It will last a couple of days before I'm itching to wash my hair.

It gets hard but i'll get my waist length healthy natural hair.
 
Working at about 9 months post now. For most of my head, I'm half natural and half relaxed. It's funny to pull out the strands and see the pretty waves, and then the straight part.

It DOES make you want to chop chop, but I'm going to resist!

I remember as a kid that the blow dryer would get my hair straight just fine. But now, by the second day it's pretty waved out and fuzzy. I'm wondering if I just have higher expectations for "straight hair" than I did back in high school.

I think I found something that worked for me in smoothing my hair down (not totaly of course) Whipped Gelly from Hairveda! The Macademia Oil from Shescentit and the IC Aloe Vera Gel from Sally's did NOT do the trick for me.
 
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