ITA..... With your post.
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You know, even though I'm going through a divorce, I know that God has the right person for me as well....for all of us who desire it.
I've just been reading random articles and blogs. I don't even know the exact ones. Mainly LHCF. Yeah I've been joining organizations. It's just hard for me to make friends. I make it difficult.
This is what I did
BTW, I wish you ladies all the best!!
I did this too! But, I do have a middle name. And, when I divorced, kept my married name. Now, I have credit cards and ID's in both versions using my maiden initial in the middle and sometimes using my real middle initial in the middle. It is confusing as heck! And, all my monogrammed jewelry is in my first, middle and maiden initials. I'm confused, no? I'm trying to decide now what I want on my JD degree....my maiden name in the middle or my maiden name as my last (in honor of my parents). IDK. If I were REMARRIED....this wouldn't be an issue. 
Count me in OP. Claim it!
, those two things will make a big difference. Being very feminine and friendly is a very attractive feature, especially to men. I wish you the best.Thank you!!I love it
I'm basically adopting the same positive attitude as the other women on here. Before LHCF, I would read all the statistics about marriage for black women and just give up. This will be my first time actually trying. When I look back I want to know that I put in enough effort in my prime years.
You once posted a similar post sort of highlighting the same things you said above. You never knew but I copied and pasted that post and kept it and have read it occassionally over time. You are so inspirational. You never know what words you speak that will really touch someone deeply. Thank you for being you. 
HOPEFUL! YOU YOU YOU!
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... then one day during lunch he told me that I was going to be his wife - just like that!. I'll bite. I met my FH earlier this year.
I had been meeting caveman after caveman. I think I even started a thread about one wanting to purchase things for me like he was brokering a sales deal!! That got old quickly and I actually never accepted anything from him. His entire attitude disgusted me especially because he felt that since he looked good on paper he had free reign to behave badly. In fact MOST men I had dated felt the same way so I decided to do something different.
I decided to remain positive and avoided negativity like the plague. I mean REJECT - RUN - FLEE from negative men and MEN with bad attitudes.
I decided I'd rather be alone than to be a victim of these men.
I also decided to 'own' what I wanted in a relationship. I honestly didn't want to be wined and dined. I didn't want to be at the fanciest restaurant in town with someone who ultimately wasn't the one for me.
I decided that in order to have real connections I had to be real. Part of me being real was running from jerks but then also a part was opening up and revealing my true self to those positive men. I had become used to closing myself up trying to deal with men I didn't trust.
and when I met FH I didn't recognize him right away and was still talking on the phone with other men etc "trying to find the one"
I stopped and looked at him SERIOUSLY and paused. I thought "could this be true?" and he was just smiling and nodding his head.
I had been honest and open with him up to that point but I did not love him when he said this but I agreed to an exclusive relationship because I liked him ALOT!!! I would have fallen in love with him eventually anyway even if he had never said this.
So here I am planning to be married. I am truly blessed and the date is set August 20, 2011!!!
happy. I did notice that fact.. But, we are shopping for one. That day he made a declaration. It's funny because from that day he behaved as if we were already married. He added me on as a domestic partner at his job so that I could begin taking free classes under his benefits! He started announcing to his co-workers, friends and any random person who would listen that he was going to marry me. But, he didn't officially propose. And while I was
He finally formally propose to me quietly at home last month w/out a ring
Amen, Zora, amen. Shooot, I want to be invited to some of these weddings yaw'll . .(beach) ceremony???? Take ya shoes off, wear some white linen or gauze and ladies let's just look purrrty, feminine AND be comfortable.
Get this, I am a Notary Public and here in Florida I have the power to perform marriage ceremonies (dang, I forgot about that). If anyone in our circle lives in FL, I gotcha when you say, "I do".
K, so back to my dream . . . yeah, the beach . . .uh huh. As far as the ladies who will agree to stand with me (and yup I am formerly asking my daughters and ALL OF YOU, right now) . . . .I say wear what ya wanna . . . it's going to be about the love in the place, not the garments. Oooh, our hair will be all condished, moisturized, and looookin' good from what we learn here and stuff. Mmm Mmm mm I shudder (in excitement) with my vision of my special day. That man just DON'T KNOW how wonderful his life is going to be, none of that devilish drama, no ahh huh, simply a woman who is going tothe heck outta him (spiritually and by-God physically too, amen). But wait, don't wanna get ahead of myself there . . .back to the ceremony, the
thing is blowing my mind (in a good way, I am truly excited). Wonder how long my hair will be by then? giggles
I'll be holding you to your notary duties when God truly sends Mr. Right my way.
I'll bite. I met my FH earlier this year.
I had been meeting caveman after caveman. I think I even started a thread about one wanting to purchase things for me like he was brokering a sales deal!! That got old quickly and I actually never accepted anything from him. His entire attitude disgusted me especially because he felt that since he looked good on paper he had free reign to behave badly. In fact MOST men I had dated felt the same way so I decided to do something different.
I decided to remain positive and avoided negativity like the plague. I mean REJECT - RUN - FLEE from negative men and MEN with bad attitudes.
I decided I'd rather be alone than to be a victim of these men.
I also decided to 'own' what I wanted in a relationship. I honestly didn't want to be wined and dined. I didn't want to be at the fanciest restaurant in town with someone who ultimately wasn't the one for me.
I decided that in order to have real connections I had to be real. Part of me being real was running from jerks but then also a part was opening up and revealing my true self to those positive men. I had become used to closing myself up trying to deal with men I didn't trust.
and when I met FH I didn't recognize him right away and was still talking on the phone with other men etc "trying to find the one"
I stopped and looked at him SERIOUSLY and paused. I thought "could this be true?" and he was just smiling and nodding his head.
I had been honest and open with him up to that point but I did not love him when he said this but I agreed to an exclusive relationship because I liked him ALOT!!! I would have fallen in love with him eventually anyway even if he had never said this.
So here I am planning to be married. I am truly blessed and the date is set August 20, 2011!!!
:blowkiss: That's an incredible story. HUGE congratulations to you and your future DH. Thank you so much for sharing.
