mischka
shrinkage.
5. Spend Less Time Together
So it's been a long week at work, both of you are stressed out and when you do see each other, you end up fighting like rabid monkeys. But now it's the weekend! You can relax and spend your free time playing tennis (which he loves) and taking pictures of each other with ironic finger mustaches (which she loves). But you have to do these things together because you are a couple, dammit, and you love each other.
Or not.
Wait, What?
This one sounds painfully obvious when explained, but we'll be damned if we can't think of a couple who doesn't make this mistake.
Studies show that it is actually better to keep your fun time separate, especially when it involves a hobby that one partner likes and the other just tolerates. A 10 year study showed that short of murder, the absolute worst thing a couple can do is engage in activities that only one partner enjoyed.
All other things being equal, those couples reported the least satisfaction with their marriages. And the couples with the cojones to admit they have more fun keeping hobby time separate report greater happiness with their marriages than the fools who forced each other to co-enjoy their crap hobbies.
Some relationship experts even recommend that couples take separate vacations to fan the flames of romance. After all, taking a vacation is a big undertaking and a huge luxury. So what happens when you really want to go to the beach but your girlfriend likes the snake zoo? There isn't all that much room to compromise -- someone is going to end up brooding and blubbering like a baby in the gift shop. The answer is simple, if a bit shocking: Go to the places you love alone or with like-minded friends. As long as your co-vacationer isn't your hot ex-lover, you're likely to come home relaxed and happy. And your spouse is likely to have enjoyed her alone time as well. WIN-WIN!
And on a similar note ...
4. Sleep Apart
As anyone who's ever watched a sitcom in the last 60 years knows, getting sent to the couch is a pretty obvious sign that someone in the relationship (the husband) has screwed up. In other words, in our minds, sleeping apart = unhappy relationship. So the idea of sleeping apart from your significant other, every night, on purpose, seems like a sure pit stop on the highway to Splitsville.
But in reality, it might be the best thing for your relationship.
Wait, What?
You're probably already aware that a big chunk of your quality of life depends on how much and how well you sleep. Well, there is almost no way those slumber hours are going to be improved on by adding another person into the mix. On average, people are woken up six times a night by their partner. Everything from hogging the sheets, to rolling over, to jimmy legs, to the sweats and night terrors can ruin the quality of your partner's rest, night after night, week after week. Not to mention the estimated 90 million Americans who snore. If you're one of them, you might be robbing your bed buddy of up to two hours of sleep a night.
And yes, this can lead to a breakup. Marriage counselors have known for years that, for instance, morning people married to night people have higher divorce rates due to the all around grumpiness that ensues because of their inability to mesh their schedules. With more people working jobs with irregular hours, as well as bringing bright, loud gadgets to bed, some of the happiest couples are intentionally splitting up to catch their Z's.
In fact, the idea is proving so popular that the National Association of Home Builders predicted that by 2015, 60 percent of custom built houses will have two master bedrooms. Of course, that prediction was made in 2007, before the economy went to **** and people started moving back in with their parents.
So it's been a long week at work, both of you are stressed out and when you do see each other, you end up fighting like rabid monkeys. But now it's the weekend! You can relax and spend your free time playing tennis (which he loves) and taking pictures of each other with ironic finger mustaches (which she loves). But you have to do these things together because you are a couple, dammit, and you love each other.
Or not.
Wait, What?
This one sounds painfully obvious when explained, but we'll be damned if we can't think of a couple who doesn't make this mistake.
Studies show that it is actually better to keep your fun time separate, especially when it involves a hobby that one partner likes and the other just tolerates. A 10 year study showed that short of murder, the absolute worst thing a couple can do is engage in activities that only one partner enjoyed.
Some relationship experts even recommend that couples take separate vacations to fan the flames of romance. After all, taking a vacation is a big undertaking and a huge luxury. So what happens when you really want to go to the beach but your girlfriend likes the snake zoo? There isn't all that much room to compromise -- someone is going to end up brooding and blubbering like a baby in the gift shop. The answer is simple, if a bit shocking: Go to the places you love alone or with like-minded friends. As long as your co-vacationer isn't your hot ex-lover, you're likely to come home relaxed and happy. And your spouse is likely to have enjoyed her alone time as well. WIN-WIN!
4. Sleep Apart
As anyone who's ever watched a sitcom in the last 60 years knows, getting sent to the couch is a pretty obvious sign that someone in the relationship (the husband) has screwed up. In other words, in our minds, sleeping apart = unhappy relationship. So the idea of sleeping apart from your significant other, every night, on purpose, seems like a sure pit stop on the highway to Splitsville.
Wait, What?
You're probably already aware that a big chunk of your quality of life depends on how much and how well you sleep. Well, there is almost no way those slumber hours are going to be improved on by adding another person into the mix. On average, people are woken up six times a night by their partner. Everything from hogging the sheets, to rolling over, to jimmy legs, to the sweats and night terrors can ruin the quality of your partner's rest, night after night, week after week. Not to mention the estimated 90 million Americans who snore. If you're one of them, you might be robbing your bed buddy of up to two hours of sleep a night.
LOL!
Insecure men are dangerous. I mean those kind of guys who have never gotten attention from one or more supermodel scientists 
because the day Nobel prize version of Naomi Campbell says they're hot, if they are insecure, they will say "wait a minute". 
I refuse to settle, because you always settle for less than what you bargained for!!
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