Hello!!!
Household chores (kitchen, cooking, cleaning etc.): When I was dating my DH I did none of this... It was his house, not mine. I helped with the dishes once or twice when he was working late or he'd cooked dinner, but he KNEW that was a treat. I put all household chores/ homemaking in the "don't do until married" category. Respect his house and how he wants things, but don't volunteer to clean anything. If he asks for your opinion about decor, feel free to give it, but don't treat it like it's your house because it's not.
In the bedroom/coloring etc.: We were celibate so this was not an issue. There were some heavy petting sessions... on occassion... Looking back- I would have had sex with him. Our sex drives are completely opposite and this issue is the low point of our marriage. It's getting better, but girl....
Just don't assume that good sex equals a good husband. Looking back, it was best for me to be celibate with my DH because the quality of the sex would have turned me off. He spoils me in every other way so he's a keeper, but girl... patience is a virtue ESPECIALLY in the bedroom.
Expenses/Financial: They were seperate then and are seperate now except for household bills. We decide the amount we pay towards house hold bills upon the percentage we make towards the total income. Everything else is on the individual.
Family/parenting assistance: While we dated, I paid for my daughter's expenses. He didn't even see her until we'd dated for 6 months. I didn't want to confuse her because she was only 2 at the time. I think that children should not be a part of the relationship unless the people involved have seriously considered the possibility of marriage. Children are fragile and remember more than we think.
After we got engaged he started paying her daycare bill. I didn't ask him to though. I went to pay it when it was due and the lady said that he paid it and set up an automatic transfer to handle it from then on out. He was and still is a great dad. When he gave my engagement ring, he also gave my DD a necklace with a tiny ring with "daddy's girl" enscribed on it. He adopted her and that's his baby girl. She's spoiled rotten- lol.
I guess my best advice is to not assume a "wifey" position until he's offered it to you. If you give him everything before you get married then there's not much point to chasing you is it? No matter what they say, they do enjoy the chase- believe me....