Crystalicequeen123
Well-Known Member
Yes i have
Last year i met an english dude who i thought was really cute. He was working at the café and me and my friends were having lunch there.
Some days later my friend joked and said "call there and ask him out! you clearly thought he was cute.."
The morning after i was like "off course i can do this" and i called. And asked him out
The day before my date with him i was on a date with an italian guy.. reallly gorgeous btw ... and i could tell a very big difference on the two dates.
I was more comfortable with the italian cause he came after me!
With the english dude it was almost like i had to prove something.. Hard to explain.
In my defence im only 21 and i won't do that again
I still cant believe how brave i was tho lol! My heart was beating like crazy when we had the phono convo
Omg! I remember when you were going through this situation a while ago LANGT !!!
Automatically a woman feels MUCH more relaxed and herself when it is the MAN who has pursued and asked the woman out. Don't ask me why it's this way....it just is! I say, let the man be the one nervous and trying to impress YOU on a first date. Let him try to prove himself to YOU!
I just think that a woman asking a man she barely knows out on a date is just admit for trouble IMO. Then you start to wonder about who should pay since you're the one who asked HIM out. Does he pay? Do you both go dutch? It just gets waaay too complicated. Almost like it inteferes with the natural order of things.
I see nothing wrong with a woman hinting that she would love to do xyz activity and then waiting for the guy to ask her out and make plans. But there's a difference between hinting and downrigt asking.
I have yet to see things progress to marriage when one of my friends has pursued a guy. It hasn't worked for them and it certainly hasn't worked for me. So I'm actually curious as to who this has worked for.
Keep the success stories coming ladies!
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