What you said right there is exactly what I do. I don't run in circles with men who make minimum wage. The majority of my friends from college are now lawyers, doctors, engineers, assistant professors, etc. All of these are careers with higher earning potential. I firmly believe that we date who we're around so I just make it a habit to hang out with people who make at least what I do, if not more.
This seems to be me. I don't make a habit of it, but IT just happens by my environment. In school I'm getting my masters at NYU I run into law students, and (interns) doctors and/or med students as well as other professionals who ask me out. That's not even the bulk of people I meet because of other things that I do that causes me to be in the environment of money.
In addition I love museums, and ballet, and theatre, so I go to events and also some charity stuff cause I was invited, as well as a few other events. Play openings, and invites to other things. I shop at whole foods, and sure some people who are less educated and also lower income shop there but it's mostly mid level to high income people. The fact that I love culture means I go to art exhibits, etc...well of course I run into even more high income people (and men) and I'm asked out a LOT.
I've also been invited to several film festivals during the year and that environment also has high earners who are also college educated not the actors...I stay away from them lol but that's just me. I like educated men and find most actors aren't. Plus I find other artists like me are not meant to be together. I like a balance between an artsy person such as myself, and a business man (whose more analytical to my analytical/artsy self it just balances everything out a little). But there are plenty of other people like entertainment lawyers and others behind the scenes that have money like distributors, etc.
But anyways these environments almost guarantee that I'm running into a variety of types with money. I can't count how many I've received from various places I've gone and phone calls I've gotten from those who looked me up saying I was "adorable" and I'm like...did I crack a smile (I do smile often but try to give off a more serious vibe when I'm at a business event like the film festivals)? How did you find me? Oh they talked to a few people and got my number.
Another example:
On the plane to connecticut (where I would find out my FH would propose) I ran into the VP of an engineering company and he was on me like there's no tommorrow. He's the one who threw around his Title which is why I know what he does. I thought he was just making small talk at first but would soon find out that wasn't the case. He nicely offered to lift my bags up and down, and even during the transfer again. How I got to speak to him, I was in first class... I asked for a complimentary upgrade, cause I always do now that I know most times they'll accommodate you (please keep that here so that there are still seats available in first class lol!
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). Well being there just invites people who have wealth. I like being there because you feel taken care of and have more leg room. I had told him I was with someone but some guys still try to make a move. He tried to convince me to go out with him up until my fiance showed up with flowers. When my FH (at the time my boyfriend)showed up he shrugged and said he'd facebook me. And pointed to my pocket. I had put his card in there to be polite and threw it away as I left with my FH. My FH laughed and said I was at it with my libra ways again. He was talking about attracting men in general. I really just think a friendly disposition does that plus I'm just not desperate.
As for the VP...got a facebook request because I wouldn't give out my number. I told him my name when I thought we were just making small talk before I realized where it was going. And my name is unique so there's no way that I wouldn't pop up easily. Anyways I also got a private email request for a date, at which I asked him to look at my profile update and I rejected him. It says engaged now.
I agree that environment dictates who you'll meet period. If you are already in an environment that attracts these types, like me, it's inevitable that you will most likely date these types and marry them. If you're not, then you may want to take a proactive step to be in the environment of the type of guy you want to attract. Hopefully you choose an environment which you like and want to be apart of in general.
I met my fiance through friends too, and we established a friendship first (and then went on to date). He is currently a doctor, having recently graduated...before that he worked in finance on wallstreet and made big bucks but hated the environment, and went back to school to get a science background and on to medical school because he yearned to help people. I was dating someone else when I met him, so of course I would not date him, nor did he approach me as if he was interested in anything more. As I was introduced to him through friends, I assumed he would take on the role of another friend. He was so funny and insightful and we became best friends. I would later find out that he was interested after I ended a relationship my with previous boyfriend (he stepped in and told me he's been interested all along). The previous boyfriend was also well off (again environment). So I'd say that it's rather easy and normal for me to attract types with money (just as it is for anyone) by being in the right environment and having friends too. Do I stipulate that a guy must earn a certain amount? No. However, I just happen to attract those types and I happen to be in the environment for them to find me so to speak, so that's who I run into.
As for money amount I've never stipulated, but it's like I magnetically attract those with wealth. And I'm starting to realize now it's because of the environment I'm in most times. I do not roam in these environments hunting for men, I enjoy plays, ballet, etc, as well as attending festivals which helps with my writing career. So the men happen to be a by-product of my environment.