curlcomplexity
formerly qtslim83
It's Ok QT..
Thank you Brooklyn South...you know why
It's Ok QT..
Laughing at the disclaimer.... GIRL !! we know it's not trueJust a disclaimer: What was said on the card is not true! No Clorox needed..trust!
Just a disclaimer: What was said on the card is not true! No Clorox needed..trust!
Don't you understand that this is not even the point? I don't think anybody on here thought that was the case.... But here's the thing: if it was like that, it's supposed to be private between you and your SO.... nobody else but y'all two.... Nobody should have had any kind of information to get a card remotely referring to the topic.... and it refers to your ethnicity, too?
I had calmed down but feel like Fran.... let the WHAILIN' COMMENCE!:swordfigh:buttkick::hardslap:
Sorry I don't have anything to add but: put him out. He will stay as long as he can. If you want to ever marry him, put him out to be sure he can even take care of himself let alone a family. OUT.YES!!!! You hit the nail on the head, thank you! As for the job situation, he has tried. His parents told him that he didn't have to work as long as he was in school, so that's why he stopped. However, I don't have kids so I don't feel I should be taking care of anyone but myself right now especially since I'm in college myself and it's hard to support just me. I'm trying to be as supportive as I can, but 4 months?! It's getting old...
I would be HIGHLY offended if my SO got such a card from his uncle. Makes me wonder what other offensive "African" jokes have been cracked between them. Anyway the ladies have already given some good advice. I have nothing else to add.
I had to laugh..yes, I am Nigerian. I was most offended by that part, it was almost like he was I dunno...saying that all African women were like that, that's how I took it. Plus, I used to get teased alot when I was litlle, so that didn't make it any better. I asked SO how he knew, he said he told him.
UPDATE:
I finally got the chance to speak to SO...or so I thought. He still has not spoken to his uncle. He said that he had tried several times to contact him, but no answer. I told him once again how I felt. He told me that I should not blame him for what happened, blame his uncle (basically). Fast forward, we somehow get into an argument. He said that he has kept other things from me for this reason alone (so I would not get upset). Now wondering, I then asked him what he has kept from me. He assures me it's nothing serious...definitely not cheating. I do believe him, but I still calmly ask him what he has kept from me. He gets upset, leaves...I think that SO and I are no more.
UPDATE:
I finally got the chance to speak to SO...or so I thought. He still has not spoken to his uncle. He said that he had tried several times to contact him, but no answer. I told him once again how I felt. He told me that I should not blame him for what happened, blame his uncle (basically). Fast forward, we somehow get into an argument. He said that he has kept other things from me for this reason alone (so I would not get upset). Now wondering, I then asked him what he has kept from me. He assures me it's nothing serious...definitely not cheating. I do believe him, but I still calmly ask him what he has kept from me. He gets upset, leaves...I think that SO and I are no more.
UPDATE:
I finally got the chance to speak to SO...or so I thought. He still has not spoken to his uncle. He said that he had tried several times to contact him, but no answer. I told him once again how I felt. He told me that I should not blame him for what happened, blame his uncle (basically). Fast forward, we somehow get into an argument. He said that he has kept other things from me for this reason alone (so I would not get upset). Now wondering, I then asked him what he has kept from me. He assures me it's nothing serious...definitely not cheating. I do believe him, but I still calmly ask him what he has kept from me. He gets upset, leaves...I think that SO and I are no more.
UPDATE:
I finally got the chance to speak to SO...or so I thought. He still has not spoken to his uncle. He said that he had tried several times to contact him, but no answer. I told him once again how I felt. He told me that I should not blame him for what happened, blame his uncle (basically). Fast forward, we somehow get into an argument. He said that he has kept other things from me for this reason alone (so I would not get upset). Now wondering, I then asked him what he has kept from me. He assures me it's nothing serious...definitely not cheating. I do believe him, but I still calmly ask him what he has kept from me. He gets upset, leaves...I think that SO and I are no more.
Ok. Like it has been said, don't want to see your kind heart to be taken advantage of....
I may add: words are nice, but actions speak louder than words. Actions include defending your honor to his uncle and being more considerate of your resources.
Peace to you.
(((Hugs))) for you first, Sweetie. But I'm about to take it there. He prays for you and with you? If he was a real God fearing man, he would keep his hands off of you. This situation would be a moot one because him nor his uncle woud have any reason to discuss your vagina at all. And I'm sure your pastor would tell you the same thing.
The truth is that this is not about his uncle. So asking him to speak to his uncle is pointless. This is about his extreme lack of respect for you which he appears to be displaying in a number of ways. You are dancing around the real issue. And the fact that he has managed to get madder than you about this situation (to the point where he walked out) is a true sign of guilt. He has turned the tables on you.
I don't need to tell you what I would do. But what are you going to do?
Hello! I just want to address the bolded first. He has in no way physically put his hands on me in a violent manner (he knows better ). I wasn't quite sure if that is what you meant by that, if it wasn't then I do apologize. I do understand that the issue really was between the two of us, that is why I initially asked told him not to bother calling his uncle if he had not done it by now. The only reason why I asked him about calling today is because he mentioned he would. As I mentioned earlier, I know you can't change a person's ways so I know speaking to the uncle is not going to make him think any different about me, or SO's mother. Some of the other ladies did feel differently about that, but honestly I don't know him and vice versa. What I am going to do about this situation is pray and move on. Thank you for caring, I do appreciate it (((HUGS)) right back ya!
Honey, Mocha5 meant SEX.... A (true) God-fearing man wouldn't be lickin' you out of wedlock.
Hello! I just want to address the bolded first. He has in no way physically put his hands on me in a violent manner (he knows better ). I wasn't quite sure if that is what you meant by that, if it wasn't then I do apologize. I do understand that the issue really was between the two of us, that is why I initially asked told him not to bother calling his uncle if he had not done it by now. The only reason why I asked him about calling today is because he mentioned he would. As I mentioned earlier, I know you can't change a person's ways so I know speaking to the uncle is not going to make him think any different about me, or SO's mother. Some of the other ladies did feel differently about that, but honestly I don't know him and vice versa. What I am going to do about this situation is pray and move on. Thank you for caring, I do appreciate it (((HUGS)) right back ya!