SheenaVee
Well-Known Member
I briefly mentioned this tech dude who recently left my company. Let me share the whole tea.
Backstory:
Let's call him Lenny. Lenny tried it on with every single woman he came in contact with. He literally flirted with every woman regardless of race, age, or attractiveness levels. However, he'd have months where he'd be fixated on one person and would give them most of his attention. Then he'd get bored and move on to the next. Usually the fixation was on whoever was the most recently hired woman. However, his fixations came and went with older members of staff. Like me for example, when I was first promoted to supervisor he became fixated with me again for a few months because he said that my new power made me extra attractive to him.
So he would harmlessly flirt but, basically, if you didn't show disgust in any way then he'd take it as a sign to start harassing you, saying super inappropriate things to you in the workplace, inviting you over to his house. I'm so shocked that this guy didn't ever have sexual harassment complaints against him, honestly, especially considering he did this with white women too. I do think he did it worse to black women though.
But he was always complaining that he'd worked for the company for so long and had never been promoted. So I think the company knew how he was and that's why he never progressed. Because how are people gonna take you seriously and promote you to management level when you spend half your work day chatting up women? Plus, you're a sexual harassment lawsuit risk!
Anyway, so my work friend (let's call her Vicky) became Lenny's fixation. And we thought he'd get bored of her after a while BUT she was actually flirting back with him and then she revealed to me that she actually liked him!
Sidenote: Lenny's Jewish (black Jamaican jew). Vicky's Muslim (Eritrean).
So they were getting closer at work to the point where everyone assumed they were together. They weren't though. They just 'liked' each other. We went to Ibiza and I shared a room with Vicky, and Lenny was just always around Vicky and always coming to our room. Then after a drunken night out with some other workmates in Ibiza I came back to our room and interrupted them kissing.
So we came back from Ibiza and they were sort of dating, I think. She told me she went over to his house on the weekend a few times and that they talked everyday, and at work they were constantly together. Ok cool. I thought maybe Lenny actually really liked Vicky. But...he didn't stop his flirting with other women.
A few months passed and they sort of drifted apart a bit but they were still good friends. So they continued talking every day but you could see that the 'romance' was no longer there. She told me that she didn't want to be with him because she's ready to settle down and he isn't. He told me that she said he has to marry her and convert to Muslim if he wants to be with her and he doesn't wanna do all that.
So then it was business as usual with him. He moved his attentions on to the next new girl. Vicky left and started another job but they still kept in contact. Her new job isn't far from ours so they even still went for lunch together every day. She said that they still speak to each other every day either by phone or by WhatsApp.
Ok, backstory done.
So Lenny left the company a couple of months ago. He told me the only thing holding him to the company was the fact that he didn't have his papers. He'd then got his papers so he was out.
The few weeks before he left he told me he had a girlfriend. I specifically remember him saying something to me about a 'Mrs' and I was like, oh, you've got a girlfriend now? And he laughed and didn't deny it. And was even talking about her to me. And I also saw him wearing what looked like a wedding band on his left ring finger and when I asked him if it was one he told me, no it wasn't, and that someone got it as a gift for him in Jamaica. He also told me he recently bought a house and he's fixing it up himself.
Anyway, after he left the company the other tech guy who worked closely with him mentioned something casually about his wife -
*recordscratch*
We were like, say what now? He's MARRIED? Dude was like, yeah didn't you know? He's been with her for about 3 years now. Then I asked this other dude who's friends with him outside of work and the other dude was also like, Oh yeah, Lenny's married. He got married in Jamaica last year. I've met his wife.
Bruh.
So I tell Vicky all this. That 2 sources have said he's married. About the fact that he told me he had a girlfriend. The fact that he was wearing what looked like a wedding band. She says she'd never seen him with a wedding band and they used to go for lunch every day. I was, like, I've seen him wearing it around the office so he must have taken it off before he went to have lunch with you.
She called him to confront him about all this because they literally speak everyday and she was confused as to how he could hide that he was married from her. She was like, he'd message her good morning, they'd message each other back and forth late at night, how could he do all that with his wife around? And she said if it turns out he is married she is done with him because everything he told her must have been a lie.
So she asked him and then told me what he said.
Lenny denied denied denied. So, apparently, what he said was, every single person was mistaken. I was mistaken that he told me he had a girlfriend, he was actually talking about his ex... That guy was mistaken and he was talking about his aunt's wedding in Jamaica not his own... The other guy was talking about his ex when he said they'd been together for 3 years... Everyone had got the wrong end of the stick. He basically had an answer for every single question she fired at him. And he answered without skipping a beat. Plus, he was all laughing about it and saying how ridiculous it all was.
So Vicky believed him, obviously. I was just like, well, if you're sure, girl. Whatevs. So that was the end of that.
We had our work Christmas party Friday before last. Other guy who had no previous involvement in all this (J) comes up to me and is like, "Yo, did you know Lenny was married?! I went to other workmate's baby's 1st birthday party and he was there with a woman. First thing he says to me when he sees me is 'J, meet my wife'."
Let me post transcripts of convos now because this is getting tiresome to type out lol. transcripts coming up in the next post...
Backstory:
Let's call him Lenny. Lenny tried it on with every single woman he came in contact with. He literally flirted with every woman regardless of race, age, or attractiveness levels. However, he'd have months where he'd be fixated on one person and would give them most of his attention. Then he'd get bored and move on to the next. Usually the fixation was on whoever was the most recently hired woman. However, his fixations came and went with older members of staff. Like me for example, when I was first promoted to supervisor he became fixated with me again for a few months because he said that my new power made me extra attractive to him.
So he would harmlessly flirt but, basically, if you didn't show disgust in any way then he'd take it as a sign to start harassing you, saying super inappropriate things to you in the workplace, inviting you over to his house. I'm so shocked that this guy didn't ever have sexual harassment complaints against him, honestly, especially considering he did this with white women too. I do think he did it worse to black women though.
But he was always complaining that he'd worked for the company for so long and had never been promoted. So I think the company knew how he was and that's why he never progressed. Because how are people gonna take you seriously and promote you to management level when you spend half your work day chatting up women? Plus, you're a sexual harassment lawsuit risk!
Anyway, so my work friend (let's call her Vicky) became Lenny's fixation. And we thought he'd get bored of her after a while BUT she was actually flirting back with him and then she revealed to me that she actually liked him!
Sidenote: Lenny's Jewish (black Jamaican jew). Vicky's Muslim (Eritrean).
So they were getting closer at work to the point where everyone assumed they were together. They weren't though. They just 'liked' each other. We went to Ibiza and I shared a room with Vicky, and Lenny was just always around Vicky and always coming to our room. Then after a drunken night out with some other workmates in Ibiza I came back to our room and interrupted them kissing.
So we came back from Ibiza and they were sort of dating, I think. She told me she went over to his house on the weekend a few times and that they talked everyday, and at work they were constantly together. Ok cool. I thought maybe Lenny actually really liked Vicky. But...he didn't stop his flirting with other women.
A few months passed and they sort of drifted apart a bit but they were still good friends. So they continued talking every day but you could see that the 'romance' was no longer there. She told me that she didn't want to be with him because she's ready to settle down and he isn't. He told me that she said he has to marry her and convert to Muslim if he wants to be with her and he doesn't wanna do all that.
So then it was business as usual with him. He moved his attentions on to the next new girl. Vicky left and started another job but they still kept in contact. Her new job isn't far from ours so they even still went for lunch together every day. She said that they still speak to each other every day either by phone or by WhatsApp.
Ok, backstory done.
So Lenny left the company a couple of months ago. He told me the only thing holding him to the company was the fact that he didn't have his papers. He'd then got his papers so he was out.
The few weeks before he left he told me he had a girlfriend. I specifically remember him saying something to me about a 'Mrs' and I was like, oh, you've got a girlfriend now? And he laughed and didn't deny it. And was even talking about her to me. And I also saw him wearing what looked like a wedding band on his left ring finger and when I asked him if it was one he told me, no it wasn't, and that someone got it as a gift for him in Jamaica. He also told me he recently bought a house and he's fixing it up himself.
Anyway, after he left the company the other tech guy who worked closely with him mentioned something casually about his wife -
*recordscratch*
We were like, say what now? He's MARRIED? Dude was like, yeah didn't you know? He's been with her for about 3 years now. Then I asked this other dude who's friends with him outside of work and the other dude was also like, Oh yeah, Lenny's married. He got married in Jamaica last year. I've met his wife.
Bruh.
So I tell Vicky all this. That 2 sources have said he's married. About the fact that he told me he had a girlfriend. The fact that he was wearing what looked like a wedding band. She says she'd never seen him with a wedding band and they used to go for lunch every day. I was, like, I've seen him wearing it around the office so he must have taken it off before he went to have lunch with you.
She called him to confront him about all this because they literally speak everyday and she was confused as to how he could hide that he was married from her. She was like, he'd message her good morning, they'd message each other back and forth late at night, how could he do all that with his wife around? And she said if it turns out he is married she is done with him because everything he told her must have been a lie.
So she asked him and then told me what he said.
Lenny denied denied denied. So, apparently, what he said was, every single person was mistaken. I was mistaken that he told me he had a girlfriend, he was actually talking about his ex... That guy was mistaken and he was talking about his aunt's wedding in Jamaica not his own... The other guy was talking about his ex when he said they'd been together for 3 years... Everyone had got the wrong end of the stick. He basically had an answer for every single question she fired at him. And he answered without skipping a beat. Plus, he was all laughing about it and saying how ridiculous it all was.
So Vicky believed him, obviously. I was just like, well, if you're sure, girl. Whatevs. So that was the end of that.
We had our work Christmas party Friday before last. Other guy who had no previous involvement in all this (J) comes up to me and is like, "Yo, did you know Lenny was married?! I went to other workmate's baby's 1st birthday party and he was there with a woman. First thing he says to me when he sees me is 'J, meet my wife'."
Let me post transcripts of convos now because this is getting tiresome to type out lol. transcripts coming up in the next post...
yours is more interesting though.
. He knew that if he told her he was married or whatever there was a risk she wouldn't speak to him again so he made sure to keep her completely out of the know. 
Lenny is a pathological liar 
