Single Christian Women's Support - THE REMIX!

The Godly man will add to.
The counterfeit will subtract from.
The Godly man will compliment.
The counterfeit will contradict.
The Godly man provides clarity.
The counterfeit provides confusion.
The Godly man is slow to anger.
The counterfeit angers quickly.
The Godly man makes effort.
The counterfeit makes excuses.
The Godly man wants to know.
The counterfeit thinks he knows.
The Godly man will communicate.
The counterfeit will agitate.
The Godly man can say I'm sorry.
The counterfeit blames you.
The Godly man is patient.
The counterfeit is impatient.
The Godly man has self government.
The counterfeit throws temper tantrums.
The Godly man can control his genitals.
The counterfeit will hump anything.
The Godly man is tender.
The counterfeit is cold.
The Godly man brings the table.
The counterfeit eats from your table.
The Godly man loves Jesus.
The counterfeit likes Jesus.
The Godly man can be corrected.
The counterfeit only wants to give correction.
The Godly man will serve.
The counterfeit seeks to be served.
The Godly man is ride or die.
The counterfeit will ride and let you die.

~Jerry Flowers~RedinedTV

This confirmed that the man I just ended a relationship with was indeed a counterfeit. He was the oppisite of all the Godly man traits and match the conterfeit traits perfectly. Looking back...The red flags were there from the beginning. I definitely had a weak moment for even entertaining him. I guess it was because he was from the past (14 years ago) and looking at all of his spiritual Facebook post about God made me think he was a changed man. Can't believe I fell for it. I'm mad at myself.
 
Thanks! Great videos...I find "anointed fire" a bit hard for me to follow though.

@lalah the list is so on point. I did the same thing...beat myself up for being with someone who fit the bill of counterfeit..but we both need to stop. We have to kiss some frogs before we meet the Prince...and it's from getting to know the person then we find out who they are as time passes. I know it's hard...as it is hard for me to currently.

We fell for it....learned from it..and move on.
 
Sweetg said:
Thanks! Great videos...I find "anointed fire" a bit hard for me to follow though.

@lalah the list is so on point. I did the same thing...beat myself up for being with someone who fit the bill of counterfeit..but we both need to stop. We have to kiss some frogs before we meet the Prince...and it's from getting to know the person then we find out who they are as time passes. I know it's hard...as it is hard for me to currently.

We fell for it....learned from it..and move on.
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Hello dear @Sweetg, I happen to disagree with this sentiment. This unbiblical phrase irks me, lol. Jesus says that the Holy Spirit will guide us into ALL truth (John 16:13), and that His sheep hear His voice (John 10:27). Sometimes we hear His voice and don't recognize it. Kissing frogs is unnecessary. We're better off observing a person, praying and seeking God's guidance on the matter. Wastes less time. Well, that's what I think. God bless.

Edit - There is now no condemnation for those in Christ (Romans 8:1).
 
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blessedandfavoured said:
Hello dear @Sweetg, I happen to disagree with this sentiment. This unbiblical phrase irks me, lol. Jesus says that the Holy Spirit will guide us into ALL truth (John 16:13), and that His sheep hear His voice (John 10:27). Sometimes we hear His voice and don't recognize it. Kissing frogs is unnecessary. We're better off observing a person, praying and seeking God's guidance on the matter. Wastes less time. Well, that's what I think. God bless.

Edit - There is now no condemnation for those in Christ (Romans 8:1).
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Good Morning,

I agree with your comment "waste less time" observing. As you move along in life, you make adjustments and become wiser, confident & courageous. How do you become that person? From your hard life lessons.

I believe we all at some point kissed some frogs and as we continue on this journey in life we learn to be patient with our desire to have a companion & learn the art of observation. Less heart breaks.

So although kissing frogs may be unnessary, it happens.
 
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Okay so every time thoughts of this relationship or the guy come to my mind, I yell COUNTERFEIT either in my head or out loud if I'm alone. It's working!!!! I know it sounds crazy, but this is what works for me. lol I agree with blessedandfavoured. Besides, I felt no peace about this situation, which I know was the Holy Spirit. I had several other warnings plus the obvious red flags. I have no one to blame but myself because I was grieving the Spirit in that relationship.
 
lalah said:
I guess it was because he was from the past (14 years ago) and looking at all of his spiritual Facebook post about God made me think he was a changed man. Can't believe I fell for it. I'm mad at myself.
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This is actually a red flag, never fall for it. I always think about what brother Zac Poonen said: do you know what wealthy people do with their money? They hide it! So if spirituality is your greatest possession, then you should hide it also.

Not to mention that the Bible clearly says that we shall recognize them by their fruit, which means that they don't need to brag about anything, it will simply be apparent. Don't beat yourself over it too much though, we've all been there. You live and you learn!
 
Sweetg said:
Good Morning,

I agree with your comment "waste less time" observing. As you move along in life, you make adjustments and become wiser, confident & courageous. How do you become that person? From your hard life lessons.

I believe we all at some point kissed some frogs and as we continue on this journey in life we learn to be patient with our desire to have a companion & learn the art of observation. Less heart breaks.

So although kissing frogs may be unnessary, it happens.
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Hello @Sweetg,
I was in a hurry when I wrote that reply. I guess that I've heard that statement about kissing frogs so often, that people make it seem like it's a prerequisite, so that's what irks me about the statement. I 100% agree about learning from our mistakes, but I sometimes think that the culture so exalts making one's own mistakes that it ignores the fact that we can just learn from the (often-times obvious and well-documented) mistakes of others. But maybe that's just me. God knows our frailty and He can and will carry us through them, if we let Him.

lalah said:
Okay so every time thoughts of this relationship or the guy come to my mind, I yell COUNTERFEIT either in my head or out loud if I'm alone. It's working!!!! I know it sounds crazy, but this is what works for me. lol I agree with blessedandfavoured. Besides, I felt no peace about this situation, which I know was the Holy Spirit. I had several other warnings plus the obvious red flags. I have no one to blame but myself because I was grieving the Spirit in that relationship.
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Dear @lalah, there is no condemnation for you, because you are in Christ, and nothing can separate you from His love. As @Maracujá said, live and learn. Forgive yourself and move on. God bless you.

Also, permit me to say that I hate facebook. That is all.
God bless, ladies!
 
Belle Du Jour said:
I really enjoyed her book Waiting for the Promised Man. Her videos are a bit too long for me though lol
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Yes she does talk way too much she can streamline and make those points in 20 m really. And she spends like 10 m promoting her books and periscope etc... it's a little much. I've gotten those messages and I'm no longer listening to her, rambling tangents its kind of a turn off.
 
The older I get, the more I realize I am not ready for marriage. I know one does not need to be perfect, but I just know I haven't been spending as much time with God as I should. I do desire a Godly man and believe I also should be what I seek. In the meantime, I am working on myself.
 
Belle Du Jour said:
Hope everyone is hanging in there! The thread has been a little quiet lately.
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phynestone said:
The older I get, the more I realize I am not ready for marriage. I know one does not need to be perfect, but I just know I haven't been spending as much time with God as I should. I do desire a Godly man and believe I also should be what I seek. In the meantime, I am working on myself.
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Still here :wave:, still single haha! I am turning 32 in about two months and no, I hadn't pictured my life this way at all. But like you said @phynestone, I need to continue to spend time with God. So right now I'm just continuing on getting every bit of information I can get about marriage, I've even purchased the book 'Kingdom Marriage' by pastor Tony Evans. But indeed, I'm nowhere near ready to be married, I still give people the cold shoulder when I'm mad and want things to go my way all the time!

People do not perish because of sin or the devil, Jesus conquered both on the cross. People die because of lack of information (Hosea 4:6), so keep learning all you can about marriage ladies. There are so many great and interactive resources nowadays.
This period of my life is not easy at all, close friends and family members are moving away to settle down, which means I have to make new friends (as an introvert, yikes!). But...it's a challenge I'm willing to take up ;).

 
Maracujá said:
Still here :wave:, still single haha! I am turning 32 in about two months and no, I hadn't pictured my life this way at all. But like you said @phynestone, I need to continue to spend time with God. So right now I'm just continuing on getting every bit of information I can get about marriage, I've even purchased the book 'Kingdom Marriage' by pastor Tony Evans. But indeed, I'm nowhere near ready to be married, I still give people the cold shoulder when I'm mad and want things to go my way all the time!

People do not perish because of sin or the devil, Jesus conquered both on the cross. People die because of lack of information (Hosea 4:6), so keep learning all you can about marriage ladies. There are so many great and interactive resources nowadays.
This period of my life is not easy at all, close friends and family members are moving away to settle down, which means I have to make new friends (as an introvert, yikes!). But...it's a challenge I'm willing to take up ;).
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I definitely feel that God has been revealing to me the bad stuff that's in my heart, how I sometimes get frustrated with people and how sometimes (although rare) get really angry. I feel a check in my spirit when I act in a way that's not Christ like. It's like, if my husband doesn't do something the way I want, am I going to go off on him? Or am I going to accept him? If takes his time doing something am I going to snap at him and get impatient? Or given him the space to act? I can act all pious and say, oh I'd never treat my husband like that but God might know better. God might be sending these little trials to say "hey girl, you're not quite ready." Anyway, my prayer is that God will show me the ways that I'm slowing myself down.
 
Divine. said:
I'm doing okay. However, I'm ready to move on from this season. So I'm doing what I need to do better myself and be available while still focusing on the Lord. I'm praying that all of us will move on from this season and the Lord will bless us with the desires of our heart.
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I feel the same. I thought being in one season for ever was the definition of death :(
But I do see signs of spring if you will. I'm willing to partner with God and do whatever it takes to step into my new season.
 
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Belle Du Jour said:
I feel the same. I thought being in one season for every was the definition of death :(
But I do see signs of spring if you will. I'm willing to partner with God and do whatever it takes to step into my new season.
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Same here. I recently went through a huge shake up that truly tested my faith. But I thank God every day for pulling me through with my faith in tact. I learned some valuable lessons that I believe are not only critical in whatever relationship I get into, but in my walk with Christ. I'm starting to see the the light at the end of the tunnel.

phynestone said:
I want to remind all of you that while we are works in progress, we will NEVER be perfect. For a long time, I felt I needed to be in order to have my wishes granted. That's a lie from the pit of hell!
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This is definitely the truth! We do not need to be perfect before God will move in our lives. Sometimes He meets us at our lowest point.
 
I'm feeling like I need to hit the reset button on life. I hate when I get to such a low point and then I start to feel like I have to start over. I am 32. This is some mess I should've been doing at 23 not now!
 
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